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is it even possible? DS1 was 12lbs, 23 inches long, 15 1/4 inch head and 16 inch chest. I went overdue and had to be induced, after 30 hrs. of labor ended up with a c/s. I think it's in his genes since he's almost 3 now and has been over the 100th percentile for height/weight his entire life.<br>
So now #2 (another boy) is due in August and we're planning a HBAC. I'm starting to get scared that he's going to inherit his father's huge head and general "largeness" (my older brother is 6'6" and younger brother is almost that tall, DH also has some very tall relatives) and end up as big as DS1. I'm 5'9 and weighed about 135/140 pre-pregnancy, so I'm not tiny but come on, 16 inches is a lot.<br>
I know it's pointless to worry but it would really set my mind at ease to hear that women do deliver babies with large heads and shoulders... or that it's possible to follow a large baby with an average sized one.<br>
I suppose I should add that I didn't eat sugar, meat, or much dairy during my first pregnancy. I still gained about 50 lbs. I also tried everything from herbs to breast pumping to stimulate labor, but nothing worked. So I did everything I possibly could to have a normal-sized baby but look what ended up happening!<br>
Someone please tell me that babies can come out ok when their shoulders are larger than their heads, and that 16 inches can be done!
 

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I just wanted to share that I have a few friends who birthed 11-12 lb babies at home. It does happen! And, I have heard of a woman who had 2 13lb babies at home. It DOES happen.<br><br>
I think that it is important to remember that many cases of shoulder dystocia are with babies smaller than 8 lbs...big babies do not mean a hard-to-get-out baby. I think that the key would be to let labor start on its own, so that baby isn't forced to birth when she/he may not be "lined up" just right...and to allow moulding to happen.<br><br>
You CAN do this!! I would try to NOT worry about the baby's weight or how much weight you have gained. Just eat a healthy, balanced diet. I am a firm beliver that we don't grow babies that our bodies can't birth. Your body will grow the *perfect* sized baby, and she/he will be the perfect size to be born.<br><br>
Lots of love to you,
 

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yeah, in my first pregnancy I had total trust that I would grow the perfect baby, size and all. I actually laughed when we had to go into the hospital and they firmly suggested a c/s due to his size (ultrasound). But he really wasn't coming out, and even my midwife told me afterwards that he might have just been too big, and we may have run into problems with his shoulders. He looked like a 4 month old baby.<br>
So maybe my confidence is still shaken from that...<br>
The one and only thing I'm really afraid of is that the baby will get stuck and have lifelong problems or worse. After ds's birth I've lost faith that things will go smoothly just because they're supposed to, because I know that things go wrong... maybe do you think affirmations would help?
 

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My second baby was 10 1/2 pounds, but my third was only 7 pounds 13 oz. They don't always get bigger.... There's hope.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Don't worry....
 

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FIrst off: WOW!!! That's one heck of a big baby. Way to go to you for just carryuing him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My 3rd had an impressive 14.5" head and chest. It makes me proud <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Bodies will not growbabies that they cannot birth. However, every once in a while there will comea baby that doesn't beleive in that saying and truly is too big. It's rare though. True CPD (cepehelopelvic disproportion) and SD (shoulder dystocia) are rare. SD can occur in tinybabies even, CPD generally does only occur in the bigger ones. Have faith in yourselfand your body and that is the best thatyou can do. And seriously, if the baby will notcome out, that is what c/s are for, for true emergencies and things of that nature and if youhave one for that reason and really do have a hugebaby, you can feel confident that it was for a good re4ason. YOu'll be fine and so wil your baby. Talk to him a lot and talk to yourbody a lot, visualize opening and everything and trust yourself, your baby, and birth<br><br>
Namaste, Tara<br><br>
Namaste, Tara
 

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my 9lb son had the same dimentions and has stayed bulky as well (nearly 16" head, 16+ across the chest). he was my 3rd. the fourth was only 7lbs and the fifth was only 8lbs. (1boy 1girl) I'm 5'3. The last 3 were born at home.<br><br>
so it's an old wives tale about each baby being larger. Still, if you can control your sugar and starches and be consistent with excercize it will help.<br><br>
I, too have heard many stories of big babies born at home. It has more to do with birthing positions, freedom to move then birthweight or mothers height IMO.
 

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It is! Two different friends grew large babies the first two times and had little 7lbers the third time around. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I remember my midwife mentioning that she's had clients who had babies that weighed too much to show up on her sling scale, it only goes up to 13lb. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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My eldest weighed in at 14lb2 (afawk, he's the biggest homebirthed baby in the UK.) at 43 weeks. My second weighed 8lb 13oz at 38 weeks. My third weighed 8lb 5oz at 42 weeks. It was my second who ended up with shoulder dystocia (according to my notes, anyhow- the only action taken was a little traction. Draw your own conclusions.)<br>
If I can be serious: don't be tempted by induction. Alex really needed the extra time to get himself into a good position; admittedly, I think he was a little bit too much of a perfectionist, but it was a wonderful experience in the end.
 

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Oh my goodness you all have some BIG babise! Yowza! and here I thought my 9lb 14oz was big HAHAHA he seems tiny now!
 

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last time, I had no choice but to go to the hospital for induction at 42 weeks (we even haggled a few extra days by arguing LMP dates and stuff, but the midwives had to "drop" us at 42 weeks because of their insurance) so we had to try natural induction first. My midwife now has no such restrictions so I'm not worried about going over.<br>
And I'm getting less concerned about his shoulders getting stuck. Since that's the only thing I'm really afraid of, I'm feeling pretty good! It's only scary to me because if it happens and it's bad, there is no time to get to the hospital or time for anything really. And because of ds1's size, I just can't help it from crossing my mind.<br>
I'm going to talk to my midwife about it in-depth at our next appt. Hopefully her advice combined with what I've gotten here will just wipe out my fear completely <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I'm one of those friends. My 3 kids were all in the 7lb. range, then came the big homebirthed baby weighing 11 lbs. Fluke? I think so. It was special and rare, his birth. I worked really hard to have him.
 
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