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I'm that burned out.<br><br>
He's hitting his 1 year growth spurt (I think) so he's nursing almost constantly...and he has to nap/seep with my nipple in his mouth. I'm tired, I'm loosing an insane amout of weight trying to keep up with his demand, I'm starving all the time and can't eat enough.<br><br>
He's 13 months old and still eats solid food MAYBE twice a WEEK....if that. I offer every single day and he refuses every single time.<br><br>
I know maybe he's not ready for solids, but I'm ready for him to be on solids. I've exclusivly nursed him for 13 months, isn't that enough? Even if I can get him to eat one meal consistantly, just to fill his stomach so he isn't nursing every hour.<br><br>
I've tried not nursing him and making him eat but he just cries and says "MaBa" and won't eat. I've tried every food I can think of and he might play with it in his mouth then he spits it out and throws it on the floor. The only thing I've gotten him to eat is soup and then he still wanted to nurse right away after. Even though he had a sippy of soy milk.<br><br>
Any tips?<br><br>
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My DD is the queen of refusing solids...she's been doing it for over a year off and on. The foods I found that worked for us was yogurt (whole or soy), rice (for some reason she loves the eat it grain by grain), pasta, and watermelon. I swear she lived on watermelon last summer! All I can tell you is to hang in there. When my DD went through that phase (it was about the same age as your dc), it took about 2.5 months, then she started eating again.<br><br>
Instead of weaning, you could be firm about not nursing when it is 1 hour prior to solids time. That seemed to help at least get a couple of bites in. Also, try baby foods (puree steamed foods). That seemed to work a ton better than adult sized foods, at least for a while.
 

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Perhaps there is some other issue besides him not being ready for solids that is causing him to avoid solids? A medical condition maybe?<br><br>
I don't know what they could be, but I have a friend whose son has some sort of problem. He's 18 months and can only eat really soft solids and it's going to take sometime before he CAN eat more foods.<br><br>
I'm sure someone here has a better idea of things I'm talking about and can give you better info. Maybe even check out <a href="http://www.kellymom.com" target="_blank">www.kellymom.com</a> for ideas.<br><br>
Good luck. Hang in there. I KNOW it's hard, but you can get through this. Try to find the problem (whether it be with you or your son) before doing anything drastic like weaning.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I SO understand where you are. But the answer is not weaning. Take a few deep breaths. Get your partner to take baby duty for a few hours this evening and have a sinful dessert and a nice bubble bath. It will get better. Respect your child's wisdom about their own body. I found that the more I stressed about solids, the less she would eat. She didn't get interested until I made myself stop caring if she ate or not. I had to totally step back and say- you know? This isn't worth fighting about. You'll eat when you're ready. And she did.<br><br>
Feel free to PM me if you want support from someone who's been there/done that.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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Have you tried having DH feed him solids? He might find the food more appealing if the boobs aren't right there in front of him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks mamas.<br><br>
He will eat occasionally so I don't think anything is physcially stopping him from eating, he gobbles up Puffs and Cheerios and stuff like that, but when it comes to actual food he won't even look at it.<br><br>
DH isn't home for a good part of the day, he works long hours noon till 11:00pm so he can feed him breakfast somedays but nothing else.<br><br>
Angela, when did your DD start eating solids? It helps to know there is a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.
 

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if he enjoys cheerios and puffs, maybe let him feed himself more. my dd wasn't at all interested in being fed, but would eat anything that she could feed herself. she would let me feed her oatmeal and yogurt and that was it! she ate over cooked veggies, green beans and carrots, puffed rice, tings, rice, noodles, crusts of bread from 11-14 months. then we added grated cheese, chicken, yogurt and other proteins. even now at 16 months she still gets part of her nutrition from bf-ing. she almost always wants to nurse right after eating, which i encouraged so she would learn that solid food was food just like breast milk. also dd really liked it when i was eating too. i think she felt less "on the spot".<br><br>
let me knwo if you have any other questions.
 

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I did not have any refusal of solids, but did have a HUGE increase in my ds's nursing right around the 12-14.5 months. I thought I would go nuts, and in fact this was when we started working on getting him into his bed at night (b/c most of his nursing happens during the night, as he is far too busy running around to nurse during the day! LOL). Anyway, as awful as it was, it really did pass and now we are down to a relatively calm 3-4 X a day. Hang in there!
 

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She took tastes of her own accord (a couple times a week) at 11 months. She'd eat a bite or two a day at 13 months. Now (at 19 months) she will sometimes eat a good amount (for her) maybe 1/4 of a sandwich and half a banana at a meal. She still nurses TONS. Now, alot of what I did was back off my expectations of what I thought she needed and followed her lead. She eats a lot more cereal (cheerios, chex, etc) and crackers than I wanted at first, but I've decided that's okay. I've always felt strongly that our bodies tell us what we need and I need a heavy carb diet, so why should I fight it for her? Most days she has a very limited list of things she will eat, but if she's hungry she'll eat a good amount (a BIG meal for her is most of a scrambled egg) BUT she is clearly growing and developing. I had to step back and trust her.<br><br>
Try different foods, big hits for us include:<br>
sandwiches (turkey, tomato, spicy mustard)<br>
pizza<br>
bananas<br>
scrambled eggs<br>
hard boiled eggs (sometimes)<br>
cheese (but must be yellow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">)<br><br>
good luck! It DOES get better.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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Thanks!<br><br>
I did manage to get 6 bites of breastmilk breakfast rice today...and a whole bowl of soup the other day. It's just so strange to me that he doesn't eat when all my friends kids (ff'ed and solids starting at 3 months or earlier) eat just like an adult.<br><br>
It's just so tiring sometimes nursing soooo often. I'm took a sanity day a couple weeks ago and he staged a hunger strike the whole time I was gone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> I'll be leaving DH some soup again, that might help.<br><br>
DH is T1 diabetic so I wonder sometimes if DS doesn't eat to protect himself that way? Maybe he's avoiding diabetes or something? Who knows.<br><br>
Thanks for the food ideas, we've tried everything I can think of (if I know how to cook it or it's avaliable at my grocery store I try to feed it to him). Guess we'll just wing it for a bit longer...
 

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First, YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!!!<br><br>
It sounds like you really have two issues: DS's eating AND your health.<br><br>
As PP's have mentioned, try to address your health issues w/some alone time (and maybe a cheesecake, but that's just me).<br><br>
I'm sure you've already tried just about everything, but... Where is DS when you are cooking meals? You might try to make him a little snack tray of various crackers, fruits & veggies (though if you want him to fill up, you might want to focus more on meat cubes, avacado, yogurt, etc...) to snack on while you cook. Have food on hand all the time. Those 2-3 bites every 15-30 minutes can add up to a lot over the course of the day.<br><br>
I don't think you are, but I definately wouldn't be concerned w/his diet at this point. Both of my kids were 95+% bfed at 1 year and were (and are) perfectly healthy.<br><br>
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I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I'm in the same boat. Ben just isn't interested in foods. He'll eat a few bites of banana or avocado or pear, but that's about it. He's a boob man! It's exhausting sometimes, especially with all the nipple twiddling and pinching.<br>
My dh also works evenings, so hugs there, too. It sucks.
 

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I think I wrote this same post about a year ago. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> YES, it will get better. Zach really didn't eat much of anything or with much regularity until he was around 15 mos old, and he's a big boy (30 lbs at 21 mos). He did that whole shrinking me down while he nursed constantly around one year thing too, ughh. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Just keep offering foods and snacks and water. Your babe will eventually gain more desire for table food, but every baby is different and there is no set timetable for when it will happen. It will happen though! Hang in there. I know this is hard. You can do this!!
 

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Hi,<br>
Just wanted to add that my ds is 14 months on the 14th and eats NO solids!! He nurses atleast 2x an hour and all night long. He's a big boy 27lbs, but obviously is not ready/ or need solids yet. I also have an almost 4 year old who was pretty much exclusively nursed till he was 2 (ate more around 18months but was much better around 2), I was so stressed over it cause like you all my friends kids ate a LOT more, but he's extremely healthy and just fine!!! So this time around I'm not stressing over it at all, I do however find that every once in a while I need a break, so I go out for supper w/ some friends (really the only time I get to eat a full meal uninterupted!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). I know that withering away feeling, but I make a huge effort to eat all day!! well its not so much an effort really <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> but I do eat like a horse!! Congrats on doing such a wonderful job, its not easy but so worth it, and I know it gets better<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My dd wasn't really interested in solids much at all until about 12 months and even now (14 months) isn't too great an eater. A couple things that helped was to have dh feed her while I was either out of the house or not around her. The other thing is that she became very interested in doing what big brother was doing. If you have friends with kids around your child's age maybe you could invite them over for lunch and your child will want to do what they're doing?? Good luck.
 

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I'm going to recommend the opposite of a pp!<br><br>
Have you tried "grown up" foods?<br><br>
My DD never ate babyfood, nothing mashed, pureed, mushed, etc.<br><br>
But give her hunks of banana, or cheese or whatever you are having for dinner, and she was in her glory!
 

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Thanks so much for the pep talk mamas! Thats why I love MDC so much, ya'll keep me grounded. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rocks.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="mdc rocks"><br><br>
I've been getting pretty laid back about it. We tried some rice the other day and he even ate a couple of bites, we did some cereal yesterday, I got some peas so we'll try that today.<br><br>
One embarassing thing...I'm addicted to Cheetos. They are terrible for me, I know that but I LOVE them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Well James got in my cheeots bag when my back was turned and pulled out a cheeto and went to town on it, ate the whole thing...how terrible is that? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Now I gotta hide my Cheeto addiction...<br><br>
But it does make me feel good that he does eat crunchy stuff, I was convinced he had a texture deal, but he loves crunchy stuff...just now chewy stuff so much. Who knows?<br><br>
I've been just slopping whatever we're eating (in bite sized pieces) on his high chair and letting him eat that.
 

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Hey, my kid called cheesies "carrots" when she discovered them. And for the longest time, we had her calling nachos "crackers". It helped to preserve my cred in NFL circles at least.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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If I was drinking icky-tasting formula, I would start solids from birth! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Actually, now that I think about it, I was eating cereal at two weeks in a bowl and in the bottle!
 

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My DS is still exclusively nursing at almost 14 months. I totally feel you on this whole thing. I am so touched out that by the end of the day I am in tears at the thought of another all-night nurse-a-thon. It's never-ending.<br><br>
DS likes soups too and he now likes my YoBaby that I buy for myself, not him! It's MINE! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
My son really likes bread and toast so a couple of other mothers suggested that I make zuchinni bread or another kind of break and sneak good stuff into the mix. That way he's getting what he needs without knowing it.<br><br>
Hugs mama, it sucks so bad sometimes, but it is rewarding too.
 
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