[tinybutterfly]

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>mamamillie</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">: That's NOT nightowls! My ds is currently on a sleep schedule where he FINALLY will go down between 3-5 <b>AM</b> and he sleeps until 2-4 <b>PM</b> He is a REAL nightowl. I have been trying and trying to break it and can't (I can't make him sleep! I actually tried holding him down in the bed a little after midnight last night/ this morning-I am desperate- but it didn't work and I felt terrible. He finally went to sleep at <b>4:45 AM</b>). So I am staying up and will wake him up pretty soon at like 9 or 10 am....hopefully I can stay awake until dark and then maybe he will go down then too.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/praying.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="praying">: for me that will break the cycle!!!! I want to wake up in the mornings and go to bed at night!!!!!<br>
(Sorry, OP, not trying to hijack your thread! Are you gonna tell us if your dh won or not?)</div>
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You just need to move to a different timezone...:LOL

 

[urklemama]

That reminds me of a story. I was out for a walk and I ran into a really f#$ked up homeless guy in a wheelchair in an immense amount of pain from an open wound on his leg. I tried to convince him to go to the ER, but he wasn't having it, and I can't say I blamed him - the ER docs assume those guys are junkies and won't give them enough painkillers. So I asked him if there was anything else I could do, and of course he wants some booze, but he can't make it across the street to the liquor store. Now normally I'm not into enabling people to get drunk in public, but this guy was really hurting, and I figured if he got liquored up maybe he'd be willing to go to the hospital, or at least WASH. So I go across the street and buy him two things of rotgut - with my giant seven months pg belly sticking out. The liquor store guy gave me the WORST look. But it wasn't what it looked like!

 

[artemesia]

That must have been awful, sorry you had to hang out waiting whilt in pain. And what the heck, why do people feel they can comment on a situation like that? How would they feel if one of us nocturnal mommies cussed them out for cruelly getting their kids up at the crack of dawn, dragging them around town at an obscene hour like 8am?

 

[shishkeberry]

Mamamillie, my ds is the same way. He went to bed at 4:30 am last night, woke up at 11. We're both just wired that way, but my dp isn't. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> He's a morning man.

 

[carolsly]

Unless I see someone beating a child I tend not to mess.

 

[DesireeH]

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We get the late night comments too. People need to mind their own business!

 

[mamaduck]

bebesho -- you are going to look back on this an laugh! Someday. It *is* a funny picture to imagine. At least your kids were not unhappy, and thats what counts. I only find myself judging people for having their kids out late when their kids are clearly falling apart, and their parents keep pushing them. Ie. -- in my store at 9:30 at night with little kids sobbing and dead on their feet but still forcing them to try on jeans or smacking them around for not cooperating. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">

 

[stirringleaf]

just chiming in. ds has been outgrowing naps but occasionally he will fall asleep at like 4 PM. we dont let him "sleep all night" at that point or he would be up at 3 AM and start a sleep cycle that would ruin me! so if that happens we get him up at 5 or six. then he wants to stay up until at least 11pm, understandably. there are alot of reasons why kids stay up late. and even in a grocery store late at night , sometimes people are picking kids up from a sitter and need groceries for breakfast...the kids are tired the parent is tired...except for if they are being abusive, i agree people shouldnt think the parents are dragging the kids out out of neglect.

 

[menudo]

Yeah, I am not too upset over this all-I just saw what we looked like. And DD falling asleep against the wall-oh my! I take my kids down the shore in the summer (usually Wildwood, NJ) where they are happy to stay up the entire night! But kids are everywhere there anyway.<br><br>
We are not a "bedtime" family and neither is my extended famiyl I go to Wildwood with. The whole bedtime thing is kinda foreign to me, although my parents DID try it and it was pure torture during the period the ydid!

 

[lynsage]

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Viola</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">My mom was all about this too! How many times have I heard, "When my children were little, they were always in bed by 6 o'clock." She thinks it's horrible that parents would let their children out of the house past 7. Now smoking around us and not breastfeeding us for more a couple weeks--not selfish at all--but keeping us up past 6? Well, you should have your head examined! :LOL<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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omg, viola, were we separated at birth?<br><br>
hugs to the OP from me, too

 

[charmarty]

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Apricot</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">I used to work at night in a restaurant. I did my grocery shopping at 11 pm, of course, me and all the other uniformed dead-tired shift workers. I'd see kids up at that time of night all the time. It makes no sense to have a baby on a day schedule when his/her parents work nights. That's always my first assumption when I see a kid out late. You won't get gruff from me.</div>
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You Rock!<br><br>
ANd that gave me a warm tingly feeling to oknow that there are parents out there that are consious of the fact that these kids don't give a rats ass what time it is, so long as they are with thier family who loves them.<br><br>
Sleep is overrated anyways <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">

 

[boingo82]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have to admit, I always wonder when I see people out past 10 or so with little bitty kids, but I just keep my mouth shut, because heck, how am I supposed to know their family's schedule?)</div>
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It never even occured to me that people were probably judging me for that!<br>
I work 3 pm-11:30pm and used to work later. Almost every time we go grocery shopping it's between midnight and 3 am. DS (10 months) goes to bed at 2 am pretty consistently and gets up at noon with me. It never even crosssed my mind that people think it's bad to have babies out late.

 

[myjulybabes]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It never even occured to me that people were probably judging me for that!<br>
I work 3 pm-11:30pm and used to work later. Almost every time we go grocery shopping it's between midnight and 3 am. DS (10 months) goes to bed at 2 am pretty consistently and gets up at noon with me. It never even crosssed my mind that people think it's bad to have babies out late.</div>
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Well, as long as the baby/child is content, it really is more of a curious "Hm, wonder why they are out so late with a baby?" thing. Just wondering if they have a late schedule like that, or the baby just wouldn't sleep, so they decided to go out and get something done, or whatever. It just stands out to me because it's not something I'm used to, so I get curious. I only get "judgemental" when the baby is clearly tired and upset.<br><br>
I wish I could get my kids on a later schedule, because I'm definitely a nightowl. But for now, we are doing public school, so it's just not an option. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">

 

[boingo82]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">.. It just stands out to me because it's not something I'm used to, so I get curious. I only get "judgemental" when the baby is clearly tired and upset.<br>
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I know you didn't mean you were judging - but I am sure somebody has. I am just so used to my schedule, I didn't realize how weird we are!

 

[vanilla]

my bil works second shift, so they are awake from like 11 am till 3 am. The neighbors did comment when the kids were out in the front yard at midnight building snowmen. But hey, that's early evening for them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">