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My son is 3 and has slept with me since he was born. He technically has his own room that his clothing in it, a bed, and a bookshelf with a few of his books, but mostly my own. There are a few toys in there for him, but generally it is used for laundry sorting, and it has a clothing rack for drying things that I don't put in the dryer.<br><br>
Just wondering if I am depriving him of his own space by not having a private room that he can go to if he needs/wants to. When does a child need their own space/bedroom?
 

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dd has her own bedroom though I doubt she'll see it for awhile to come. ds had his own, too, since birth. He went to his own around 5 months, came back to mine around 15 months, and went to his own again around age 4. He has always had it, though, if he wanted it.
 

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DD sleeps with us every night, but has her own room. Her stereo is in there and she loves music so we play in there a lot during the day. Some weeks it ends up as a huge laundry hamper too, but she's only 19 months so she doesn't notice/care.
 

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nope. We have one bedroom that we all share but I did turn my dining room into a playroom.
 

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DD has her own room that has a toddler bed (mostly for show, we're putting our house on the market), her clothes and toys. I don't think she needs her own room, but it's a place for her to go and play right now.
 

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We don't cosleep every night (just when one of the kids seems to need it for whatever reason), so I'm just crashing from New Posts. But I wanted to say that in my experience DD's bedroom held nothing but a few utilitarian and decorative things until DS was born. By then she had some toys with small pieces, or nicer/fragile things which she was old enough to take care of but which I wouldn't have trusted a baby with. And while I make an effort to keep as many toys as possible common property, she does have a few things that she really prizes and loves and I don't see the need to make her share with her brother. Before he was mobile, the whole house was her oyster, but since he's been born she plays in her room more because that's where some of her favorite toys are.<br><br>
So for us it was really more practical (a place where she can keep things that will be left alone) than emotional (a place where she can be alone).<br><br>
Hope that helps.
 

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DS had a bedroom. The degree to which we use the room tends to vary depending on our ever changing sleeping arrangements.<br><br>
I'm preggo with number 2 now and I won't be decorating another nursery. I'm just going to convert DS's room into the kids room when it's needed. I literally only went into his bedroom to get clothes out of the drawers for the first year of his life, so I anticipate that new baby won't be needing a bedroom for quite a while.
 

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Piper has her own room and she gets dressed in there in the morning and at night. It is childproof and gated so she plays in there when I shower or sometimes when I am getting dressed and whatnot. I am not sure if she will ever really want to sleep in her own room and I will never force her to but I think its important that she has her own space. As she gets older and we have more additions to the family she needs to have a place of her own.<br><br>
In her closet i keep all her activities and toys and switch them out every few days so sometimes she likes to choose what she wants herself and she knows where they are. It has a bed in it but she has never used it.
 

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My daughter (and son I guess, haha) have their own room but there is no bed in it. The bed is a crib and it's sidecarred to my bed. In the baby room there is bureaus, toys, this computer actually and a bunny cage.
 

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DS has his own nursery - crib, dresser, and a little armoire/closet for diapers, blankets, etc. He might sleep there for naps. (maybe 1 or 2x a month?) mostly used for storage space. I am not sure when we'll be ready for him to move there overnight, as it seems he is spending more of the night in bed with us than in the co-sleeper. granted, he is only 6 months old. I am thinking he might stay with us until I am pregnant again and getting up all the time to pee.
 

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When DS was born, he had a 'room' on the landing outside our loft bedroom. We barely used it.<br><br>
Now he has his own room... But, like someone else said, it is mostly used as a giant laundry hamper. His crib was in there for a while, until we moved it into our room. He still hasn't slept in it yet, though. His room now has all his diaper stuff, a rocking chair, and a guest bed.
 

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We moved right before my DD turned 3 so she got her own room. My ILs had a bed and window seat thing with drawers that they gave her. It was so nice to have somewhere other than the living room for her toys. She played in her room more as the year went by and decided she wanted to sleep in her bed right after her 4th birthday and hasn't wanted to be back in ours again. She can have more and brighter night lights in there and the bed has a firm sided water bed mattress. I think it's more comfortable than our bed. Though she has slept in the dining room in her tent a couple of times.<br><br>
I think 3 was a good age to get DD her own space, though I was really surprised she stopped cosleeping so young
 

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We only have 2 bedrooms in a very small duplex. So no, she does not have her own room. But the other room is a playroom/sewing room/guest room (so there is a bed that she likes to take "breaks" on) She's only 18 months, but I like having all of us in 1 room as it frees up more space for us to live in. I don't know if we'll be able to fit baby 2 in (if/when we have another) along with dd so she might get her own room when I get pregnant.
 

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Our 3 yo does (we have 5 bed rooms), but, he could honestly care less, and doesn't really need his own space, IMO, b/c he wants to be where everyone else is and has almost all of his toys downstairs in the playroom. He does alternate between sleeping with us, and sleeping in his bed - so I guess it is nice he has somewhere else to go... but I don't personally think at age 3, at least with my particular kiddo, he really cares or needs his own room. Heck, even my next youngest, age 5, would prefer to sleep in our room over his bed.
 

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our DD has her own room and so she and we call it that way.<br>
it is great sens of pride for her to have her OWN room<br>
and even when her grandma stays there she calims<br>
"gandma is in MY room". just to make sure...<br><br>
she loves her room, she decides aobut things where and<br>
how they are arranged there and generally it is good thing<br>
for her to have this private space to decide about.<br>
we play a lot there and goof around and she has her<br>
friends over sometimes to spend time there too<br>
but she has not slep there one night nor few minutes<br>
worth ever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br>
of course she is perfectly happy with us in the family bed<br>
made of our king size bed and her crib abatting my side of the bed<br>
with the outer wall of the crib removed.<br><br>
she is gradually outgrowing it though and we are in the process<br>
of reinventing the issue and will continue to cosleeping<br>
in some other way, be it removing crib and putting matress on<br>
the floor or constructing some narrow bed for her and puting it<br>
next to my side of bed jsut the same. the problem is to<br>
find this kind of bed.
 
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