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How do you co-sleep?

  • Mommy in the middle, spouse and baby(ies) on either side of her

    Votes: 75 35.2%
  • Baby(ies) in the middle, mommy and spouse on either side

    Votes: 103 48.4%
  • Mommy and baby(ies) in bed, spouse in guest bed or couch

    Votes: 29 13.6%
  • Mommy and baby(ies) in bed, no spouse so I don't have to worry about all this!

    Votes: 13 6.1%
  • Mommy and spouse in bed, baby(ies) in co-sleeper attached to bed

    Votes: 6 2.8%
  • Other (please post so I know what I'm forgetting!)

    Votes: 29 13.6%
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We're trying out co-sleeping this weekend. I'm loving it, husband not loving it, but willing to work on it. Yay!
 

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There are 4 of us and a 55 pound dog. We usually go DH, DS, me, DD, dog at ds' feet. Though sometimes DS and DD go the opposite. DS is afraid to be on an end, so if DH doesn't ly down with us, DS wants the wall at his back.<br><br>
This has worked well for us for almost 3 years, and having DS between us worked well for the 2 years prior.<br><br>
We have a Cal King sideways, btw.
 

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We have a co-sleeper and she sleeps in that for part of the night, and then part of the night she is between me and the co-sleeper, and part of the night she is between me and DH. It all depends on which side she's nursing on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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DH cant sleep in a room with us! lol - So I dont have to worry about him.<br>
When he was in bed with us though (when DS was much younger) - it was Him, me, then DS (next to eachother like that) - I wouldnt put a small child in the middle.<br>
When we have another child, if DS is still sleeping with me - It will be Baby, Me, then Him until the baby is older they will not be sleeping next to one another. I feel that is the safest option.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We have a co-sleeper and she sleeps in that for part of the night, and then part of the night she is between me and the co-sleeper, and part of the night she is between me and DH. It all depends on which side she's nursing on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: Except we have a crib sidecared to our bed instead of a co-sleeper
 

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My husband and I co-sleep part time. We sleep with the baby between us. She usually sleeps in the bassinet until 4 a.m. then she wants momma and daddy. She puts both of her hands out, one touching me and one touching him.
 

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Me, ds, dh or ds, me, dh. Depends on which side ds needs to nurse on.
 

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However everyone collapses! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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i voted "other". most nights, it's-- younger ds (9 mo) closest to the wall, then me, elder ds (3 yo), and dh on the outside edge. many nights, though, dh will sleep in elder ds's room because he's too warm or extremely gassy or something like that. (ds does have his own room that he naps in during the day, but we spend our nights together. i figure we'll probably put both kids in the other room when younger ds is about 2yo and i'm hopefully pregnant with number 3.) and of course, younger ds does not always sleep closest to the wall since i do switch sides to nurse on occasion-- but leftie does get the lion's share of the attention at night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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We have the humanity family bed co-sleeping pillow, so I put DD next to it on the outside, then me, then DS or DH depending on how they arrange themselves.
 

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We have our mattress on the floor. My husband is on the edge that's not against the wall. Our almost 3-year-old is between us. Then me. Then Jack against the wall.
 

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Ds is a kicker and dh thinks it's time for him to move onto his own bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ...<br>
so to keep him happy it goes dh, me in the middle (with no room, LOL), then ds on the end.<br>
I'm a super heavy sleeper so ds can kick me all night long and it doesn't phase me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We've done every possible arrangement - DD, me, DH; DD, DH, me; and me, DD, DH. We switch from night to night and during the night. Sometimes DD and I switch sides when nursing, other times we nurse both sides without rolling her over me. Sometimes if I'm really missing DH needing space I'll lie next to DH with him next to DD. She gets daddy cuddles and I do too. Often I sleep in the middle, which is generally my favorite place to be unless I'm feeling frazzled and need more personal space. We never spend a whole night in the DD, DH, me set up as DD eventually wakes to nurse and either DH flips her to my side or I crawl over them or just over him to nurse her....<br><br>
We also have 3 cats that generally sleep in the bed too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I love the cuddling and changing places to cuddle more <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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When ds was an infant it was usually dh, me and then ds on the side with the sidecar crib. He usually didn't sleep in the crib, but it was there. He was occasionally between us but I didn't sleep as well as I worried about dh (he can be a heavy sleeper). Since he was about 2 1/2 (a year now) DS and I sleep in one room and dh in the other. I often play musical beds at night. Fall asleep with ds, go over to dh and then back to ds when he wakes and wants me. The rooms are right across the hall from one another so there isn't much space between us. I have another one coming soon and am trying to figure out how to manage things then.
 

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We have a dog in the equation too! Husband takes up more than 1/2 the bed. Our son takes up more spave then I do so I usually end up w/ a small sliver right at the edge. The dogs roams up and down most of the night.
 

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I am in the middle of my two babies, dada on the sofa. Step-sister worried me that this may hurt our marriage. Seems that we subscribe to the thought that we sleep where everyone can get the best rest.
 

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I checked OTHER since I didn't see an option for "ever changing" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Basically when we had only dd1 to think about and she was teeny tiny it was:<br>
dd1- mama- dada<br><br>
Then as she got bigger/started crawling it became:<br>
mama- dd1- dada<br><br>
Then when we nightweaned during my pregnancy it was:<br>
mama- dada- dd1<br><br>
Then dd2 arrived and it was:<br>
dd2 in co-sleeper- mama- dada- dd1<br><br>
Then when dd2 was a few weeks old and I was recovered from birth it was:<br>
mama- dd2- dada- dd1<br><br>
And now we're at:<br>
dada- dd2- mama- dd1<br><br>
I'm hoping that in the next 5-6 months we'll be able to make it:<br>
dada- mama- dd2- dd1<br><br>
but we'll see!
 

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I voted "other" because depending on which boob I am feeding the baby on next, she will either be on the outside of the bed or on the inside. When she gets older and can roll, I will have to buy a bedrail.
 
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