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I need some help ladies. A dear friend of mine is having her four year wedding anniversary coming up in June and are looking to do a two night stay at the resort where their reception was at. This will be the first time that just the two of them are away from dd for that long. She will be staying with her in laws (whom she adore).<br>
Her DD is very close with her grandparents as she sees them multiple times<br>
during the week. She has done overnights with them before and always has a<br>
great time. They will be staying at a resort 15 minutes away and have a cell phone so they can reach us at anytime.<br><br>
They have not taken a trip together since their honeymoon and with baby number two due in early October, this is the last chance as just a couple for quite some time. DD only nurses about every three days at this point, so mom isn't concerned about that. They know that she will be well taken care of and really enjoys herself when she is with her grandparents.<br><br>
The only downside to this is my friends mother. She seems to think that my friend is harming her child, that dd is not ready for this. She is basically giving her the guilt trip for wanting to go away (in town) with her dh.<br><br>
So, do you think this is too young to leave a child (3 yrs old) for less then 48 hours?
 

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If she adores her grandparents I sure dont see that 48 hours will be too hard on a 3 year old. Of course the parents really know best in the situation as they know how their dd handles such things.<br><br>
The parents IMO do need a bit of time to themselves strenghten their relationship.
 

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As long as the child is ok with it, then why would it be a problem? If my ds were ok with spending the night with someone else (he's 3 1/2) darn tootin', I would be OUT the door <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Perhaps her mom is upset she is staying with the inlaws and is just being a meanie? She should tell her mom to myob and have a great time with her hubbie!
 

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I think she should go, go, go! As long as the kid is o.k., what's the problem? My baby's stayed with his godparents for a few days and it was totally fun. I know he had a great time!<br>
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Age 3 sounds like just the right age to start something like this. I would go for it! From what I've read age 3 is the time that children naturally separate from the parents a bit more as they start to bond with peers, siblings, etc.<br><br>
Further...a family friend told me a story about a family that never once left their children until all the children were around age 10. On that maiden voyage for the parents (the children's first period of separation) the family dog was hit and killed by a car. The parents cut their trip short and returned immediately. It was a terrible trauma by all accounts. The message the children got was - 'if mom and dad go away something terrible will happen'. I guess what I am saying is it's better to start with baby steps as far as leaving your children go. It sounds like your friend has the perfect opportunity to do it.
 

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my nephew is three & a half & he would NEVER leave my mom's house if she let him stay. joe would not have done well at that age~ at least <b>I</b> wouldn't have, but every kid is different; esp. if she has already done the overnight thing with them.
 
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