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this is what everyone keeps telling me...i think its BS...but maybe i am wrong. i am pretty dedicated to the idea that i will never give my son breastmilk in a bottle ( i don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with doing so, i just personally have no real reason to...i am a SAHM). my thoughts are that he'll only be little once, and i want to be here for him as much as possible, so pumping into a bottle so i can go out with my girlfriends just isn't that important to me personally, i'd rather he always get it from the breast. my concern is more that if something happened that prevented me from being with him, god forbid, that he wouldn't be into taking my milk in a bottle. i do pump and i have an emergency supply in my freezer for that exact reason. anyway...what are your thoughts...
 

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My thoughts are that if he won't take a bottle and needs to for some reason, maybe a sippy cup would work. Or a little spoon. Or something. There are ways and means of feeding babies, and nothing says that you have to 'train' your little one to take a bottle "just in case".<br><br>
Besides, some babies aren't that picky and will just take whatever-- for all they know that could be yours, as well. It's not that many, I think, who have 'issues' with taking bottles-- I think the majority are like, "what the heck is this... thing... oh look, milk!"
 

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A friend visited me when my daughter was 1 week old and brought his MIL. She told me that there is a magic window in the first 2 weeks where you should introduce a bottle. That's just ridiculous. I went back to work at 6 weeks. We prepared by having dad go to a daddy and me class when she was 4 wks old - that was the only time she ever got a bottle before I went back to work.<br><br>
Some people (NOT most, from what I've seen) have babies that won't take a bottle when they're gone - but you can feed DC in other ways. And the baby is not going to let herself starve to death if something happens and you're not available.<br><br>
Regardless, I hope you never do *have* to give her a bottle.<br><br>
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If I were able to be a SAHM, I'd have no need for bottles. Lots of babies never get bottles, and so what? If you don't need them, why introduce them? You're not depriving baby of a learning or developmental experience or anything like that. Bbay will still learn to drink out of a sippy or whatever.<br><br>
I don't know how old your baby is, but eventually there'll be solid foods introduced and if need be, a caregiver can give developmentally appropriate food if you have to be briefly separated for whatever reason.
 

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IME I didn't give my daughter a bottle early and then she *didn't* take one. Which was okay as I was home with her, we had no real need, we only planned to use it so her dad could take her (single mama).<br><br>
When she was around a year she ended up taking one anyway. But I would say if you needed your child to take a bottle, best 'window' apparently is 4-6 weeks and I personally would try during that time.
 

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My first was exclusively bottle fed the first week (in the nicu). and a couple weeks later when I tried to give him a bottle,he refused!! He always refused bottles and pacifiers. . . I think it was an association thing (bottle = separation from mom and pokes).<br><br>
The twins had bottles for 7 weeks (severe swelling issues) and I just never gave them bottles after that. I don't know if they would have taken it or not. I was just too tired to want to pump and then give them a bottle.. . . a waste of time imho.<br><br>
Some people need a way to feed their kids, so they can have some time alone. I don't really seem to need much until they are eating solids, so it isn't a problem (I can always go to a movie or dinner before baby needs to nurse again!!). So, if you feel you need that back up, then have Dad give a bottle a couple times a week. If not, don't worry about it!!<br><br>
It is about what works for you, not what someone else thinks you need.
 

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There are plenty of ways to feed your baby that don't include a bottle in an emergency - syringe, cup, sippy, spoon, etc.<br>
I haven't actually read this page but it is highlighted at Kellymom homepage.<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bf-emergencies.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bf-emergencies.html</a>
 

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Yeah and if you let them sleep with you you'll never get them out of your bed (WRONG)<br><br>
and if you don't show them whose boss (with unpleasant parenting methods) you'll be sorry (WRONG)<br><br>
any other myths we'd like to dispell? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah and if you let them sleep with you you'll never get them out of your bed (WRONG)<br><br>
and if you don't show them whose boss (with unpleasant parenting methods) you'll be sorry (WRONG)<br><br>
any other myths we'd like to dispell? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: to the other pp who said there are many ways to feed a child.
 

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My breastfed babes NEVER had bottles. I'm a SAHM, they just weren't necessary.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My breastfed babes NEVER had bottles. I'm a SAHM, they just weren't necessary.</div>
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Yup. If you are a SAHM and don't feel the need to give a bottle then...DON'T. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We did try a few times and he refused them, and this was at fairly young. It wasn't a big deal. When he got a bit older and was eating solids I could take 'breaks' while DH fed him whatever else while I was gone and then he nursed when I got home.<br><br>
And like others have said, in an emergency (God forbid) you or whoever else will find a way to feed your son. Be it cup or syringe or sippy or whatever. He won't starve to death. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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DD never has had a bottle and it really was no big deal. Now that she is older I can leave her for a few hours and she is fine drinking out of a sippy.
 

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Just wanted to let you know I'm with you. Our twins are due in 6 wks and I feel strongly that I don't even want a bottle in the house. I won't be tempted, but I know others would be! I'll be on parental leave for 14 months and don't see any reason why we should potentially jeopardize our breastfeeding relationship or introduce the hassle of bottles.<br><br>
Not all of our friends and family are convinced of the soundness of my logic since I'll be a new mom. Perhaps I should adjust my signature to say "Stubborn Cuss and proud of it."<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Well first of all, that is rude of people to say IMO. I would say "thats ok"... but I waited probably too long with DD and she never really took to a bottle. NOt that I had to pump for work or anything, I just would have liked her to take one every once ina while. Turns out it was no big deal. Once she was on a more regular routine (3-4 months I am guessing) I was able to predict her schedule and could get out alone for an hour or two here and there, and once they start solids, they can always have that for a snack if you are out and get caught up in something.<br><br>
So while its convenient if they do, I dont think its a necessity for a SAHM.
 

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Yeah, I find it more of a PITA to pump milk to put IN a bottle than it's worth. I'm a SAHM, and have never needed to give a bottle.<br><br>
Anyhow, just like everyone, every baby's personality is different. My son wouldn't take a paci nor a bottle. No how, no way was his motto.<br><br>
My daughter on the other hand took a paci and I'm sure would have sucked on a bottle. Then at 5 months ditched the paci.<br><br>
I think once they reach 5 months old or so, they have the capability to use a sippy cup if the NEED arises.
 

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Yep I agree wtih all of the above. I'm a Blessed sahm right now too. I didn't want dd to have a bottle unless HAD TO kind of situation. She never had one and wouldn't take one the ONE time we tried. We just used a syringe the one or two times she need bm when I wasn't home, ( I took a night class once a week the week after she was born.) I would just feed before and AFTER class and nothing ever went wrong. I agree that a baby won't STARVE you just may have to alter your feeding arrangements. LOL
 

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So what. Neither of my kids have wanted bottles.<br><br>
Even when I had gallbladder surgery dd didn't take one. She napped while I was in surgery and we nursed when I got home.<br><br>
And you still can go out with your girlfriends if you want. I had my dh drop me off and then take the kids. I could go out for an hour or two and if necessary dh would bring baby to me to nurse where I was at and then disappear again. Or I brought my kids with me!
 

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I think that some BF kiddos just WON'T take a bottle, no matter when you introduce it. So even if you did wait, then they child wouldn't take it, there's no telling whether they would have taken it had it been introduced at 4-6 weeks. You just never know. Totally agree with not needing to worry about it----there are gobs of other ways to get milk into a baby's stomach.
 
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