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I'll start. Things I will do diffrently:<br><br>
1. not tell anyone that we are ttc (to head off all the comments about how we dont need more, have to support "all these kids" and that we are being greedy and "asking" for a baby with a problem)<br><br>
2. Not tell anyone Im pg. until I HAVE to cuz Im showing (see above reasons)<br><br>
3. Not tell anyone any names we are considering. They can find out the name after the birth (so I dont spend another nine months defending our choices of names for OUR baby!)<br><br>
4. Lie about my due date by a full month. (Anyone who gets 18 phone calls a day to be asked "baby yet?" already knows why)<br><br>
Anything else?
 

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1) Not tell anyone we're pg for as long as possible (we want 4, if we have another after this it will be #3...in a family where EVERYONE has 2 kids and then the H gets fixed...always)<br><br>
2) Eat better (LOL, I get picky in the first tri and for some reason crave junk)<br><br>
3) Lie about the due date by at least a couple of weeks.<br><br>
4) Not allow ANYONE except for DH near the delivery room<br><br>
5) Hopefully have a homebirth
 

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Things I'd do differently?<br><br>
Well, this is my last due to the horrendous HG I've had to deal with this time around (it wasn't this bad w/ my first 2). BUT, I would love more. I really would. So in an HG-free world, here's what we'd do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> :<br><br>
Eat better (HG really limits what's acceptable to my palate and what stays down)<br>
Have a house (2 br apt is gonna be tight for awhile)<br>
Not work (this is the first time I've *had* to work in 7 years. I don't mind, but the HG is debilitating and I wish I could quit)<br><br>
I guess I'm pretty happy w/ the other decisions we've made. We've used disposables & cloth dipes, homebirth and hospital (this will be another homebirth), no vax, no circ, co-sleep & crib, nursing, and doing our best to raise kids w/ strong self esteem and self worth, respectful of others, and loving and kind. And informed. I just want them to know everything out there, you know?<br><br>
So we'll do our best and hope we don't screw it up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Probably see a perinatologist to see if I can keep the next one in a little longer. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Maybe even have an U/S of my uterus or HSG before pregnancy to look for any abnormalities that could be causing PPROM.<br><br>
Take weekly progesterone shots from 17 weeks on.<br><br>
Not take meds for irritable uterus but only if I'm experiencing cervical changes this time.<br><br>
Hopefully have a natural birth and stay home for as long as possible before heading to the hospital.<br><br>
Have a baby shower and belly casting before the baby comes.
 

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I will not tell people what the sex is...especially if it is a girl!<br><br>
I'm having a girl, and have received gifts of clothes at the shower and periodically from people throughout my pregnancy - which is very thoughtful. But I HATE the color pink! HATE it! Not only just because I hate pink, but I hate the history behind the reason that pink is for girls and blue is for boys. I let everyone know early on that I would prefer gender neutral colors.<br><br>
And guess what? Everyone gave me pink clothes. Oh, they knew what they were doing. They'd watch me open the gift with a smirking expression on their faces, and then when it was revealed they'd say something like "I just couldn't resist getting you something pink!" Like they were such clever jokesters and this idea is unique to them. Only a handful of people honored my wishes and gave me another color. Everyone else gave me something pink as a "joke". 95% of my baby's clothes are frickin' pink!<br>
I'm so annoyed by this.
 

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I would get the 4d ultrasound, those are so neat. umm definitily take more tummy pics and do a tummy casting. If for some reason the situation is the same and i'm on meds for eclampsia, I'll pump to keep my milk supply. Hmmm, what else..gotta think<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Hmmm..Well.<br>
We are still undecided if we are going to have a second but.<br>
I would Homebirth, and not find out the sex. I would also be alot more chilled out in this preganacy and not give a shi* about what others think.
 

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Hoping for a homebirth with the next.<br>
Overestimate the due date (and tell DH that we're only sharing the overestimated date)<br>
Not share dates of appointments (and ditto with the DH telling)
 

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It's fascinating to me, with each pregnancy I feel so much stronger & more confident that the #1 thing I plan to do differently every time is make the pregnancy & birth *mine*. Not rely on caretakers to tell me what's up, not allow caretakers to make decisions for me. And I feel a mountain's worth more confidence to follow through with this each time, too! And each time I am ever more proud of myself, for having the birth experience that I wanted. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
ETA: I just wanted to add this example. During my 1st pregnancy, I was all "My Dr. says this & my Dr says that..." while by this pregnancy (my 4th), I'm going to be all "So I told my midwife how things are going to be..." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I totally agree about overestimating the due date and only sharing the later date with family and friends. I was overdue with my DS, and I hated everyone asking me "When are you getting induced?" GRRR!<br><br>
I am also going to eat better and exercise more. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We don't tell people the names anymore. We stopped after baby #2.<br><br>
We don't have visitors for the first week.<br><br>
I'm very clear about what we need for the baby so that I don't get a bunch of things that I need to return.
 

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Well, I am pregnant now, so here is the stuff I'm doing differently:<br><br>
I'm not trying to force my husband to be what I wish he were. I'm not depending on him to be at the birth, be supportive in the first few days, or clean the house. My parents will help me clean the house and my mom will be with me at the birth.<br><br>
I'm taking very little stuff to the hospital, since I needed almost nothing last time I was there. 1 outfit each for me and the baby, toiletries, and a back-scratcher.<br><br>
I'm going to make sure someone takes pictures of the baby every day for the first few weeks, even if I'm in the throes of PPD. I don't have any photos of my son from week 1 through about week 3, because I was too depressed to care. Now I wish I had them.<br><br>
I'm having a scheduled c-section, although that isn't something I chose, exactly. But since I know I'm having a c-section this time, I can plan ahead for it and hopefully things will go more smoothly. I want to be up and walking sooner this time, and I want to be more in control of how things happen in the OR, since it's not an "emergency."
 

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For this babe, I am going to keep my eyes open as he/she is born! I had my eyes closed for the actual birth of both of my kids and I can't believe I missed seeing that magical moment twice!<br><br>
I am also going to try and really take it easy for a few days after the birth. I want to come home ASAP, but I tend to try to jump back into doing everything right away.
 

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Okay, I'm not pregnant, but couldn't resist this thread:<br><br>
I'm going to see a homebirth midwife and really get to know her instead of going to a hospital with 6 different midwives.<br><br>
I'm going to have a midwife and doula at my homebirth instead of going UC this time, because I feel I need the added support.<br><br>
Get plenty of rest! I was SO tired when I went into labour! (I laboured all night overnight-- hard labour too! Started out at 4cm).<br><br>
Make sure there is plenty of hot water-- labouring in water was GREAT but it really sucked when we ran out of hot water and DH had to boil water on the stove and dump it in.<br><br>
Eat less fast food.<br><br>
Stress less-- and if something is stressing me, do something about it! I was such a pushover during my whole pregnancy.<br><br>
Don't get knocked up right before a deployment! DH missed half my pregnancy, and nearly missed the birth!<br><br>
Let go of fear: Just because it happened once does not mean it will happen again.<br><br>
Catch my own baby.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Well this is #4, and I'm already doing some of the things I wanted to do differently -- seeing a hb mw, planning a hb, refusing unnecessary interventions. Also, I plan to use a friend as a doula. It's really important to me to have a woman I really really trust and love as my support person.<br><br>
I don't care about telling people the wrong EDD, or telling the name. My response is, "My ESTIMATED due date is October 7, but this baby will come when he or she is ready." Everyone who I know irl knows I'm not going to get induced and that I'm having a hb. And strangers don't bother me. As for the name thing, I also don't care what someone's reaction to my kid's name is. After all, I already have a ds named Tiger. If I can survive planning that, telling people that was the plan, and then actually implementing it, I can pick any name and people won't care. My friends are expecting a more unusual name anyway.
 

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~ wait a tiny bit longer between pregnancies so i don't have to worry about my milk drying up before this baby is 2 (i really wanted to bf DS until he was at least 2, and yes, he's still nursing, but not getting any milk and it breaks me heart) probably going to wait until just shy of this babe's 2nd b-day before we start ttc again<br><br>
~ make sure my mom understands that when my telling her i'm pregnant does not mean i want everyone in town to know then too. we told my mom and literally the next day i was getting congratulations from people i barely know<br><br>
~ be in slightly better shape and closer to my ideal weight<br><br>
~ invent something to keep my sense of smell from being supersonic while pg...i can't change poopy diapers or the garbage and it's causing major problems <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My last pregnancy and birth went really well.<br><br>
*IF* there is a next time, I'd like to start off at a healthy weight and not gain 100lbs. Stupid fast food cravings.<br><br>
I'll have a homebirth midwife and use the FP who caught Saffron as a back-up.
 

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I"m not pregnant either, but anyway:<br><br>
I'd beg the the dr. to see if I can have the baby in the recovery room with me, at least part of the time.<br><br>
I'll ask for extra pain meds right away, and just take then around the clock to keep on top of the pain better.<br><br>
If the pain gets worse instead of better,I"ll complain to the nurses, and try to get them to listen, altho they didn't last time...and it turned out my incisoin was infected.<br><br>
I'll have them put a "no supplements" sign on the bassinet right away, instead of just in my birth plan.<br><br>
I"ll push to get out of the hospital sooner, as I likely wouldn't have gotten said infection if I was home already.<br><br>
I"ll arrange for people to bring me food, as the hospital food just sucks.<br><br>
If I"m as big as I was last time, and it's not twins, I"ll get a maternity shirt made that says "it's NOT twins". I got so sick of being asked that. I had 4 ultrasounds and some people still wouldn't beleive me.
 
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