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Found out today that my baby is a little lad and I already have a daughter. So I went though the box of baby clothes that I hadn't loaned out to people (funny, haven't received many of the loans back <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">) and there are only a few things that do not scream GIRL. Even buying t-shirts for my daughter, they all have little frills on them. So a few of the shirts are borderline neutral. I know HE won't care what he wears as a baby. And all of my relatives have either girls or babies on the way. Thus I'm not looking at getting any clothing loaners. And it would be nice not to have to buy a ton. He'll wear pastel diapers. Are pink shoes going too far?<br><br>
What are your thoughts on letting your second dress in clothes from your first that are definitely for the opposite sex?
 

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I didn't do it. We bought a lot of gender neutral stuff for my daughter so we had it to pass on to my son when he was born.
 

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we dont know if this baby is a girl or boy. I have gone through DS's baby clothes and tried to pick out the more 'neutral' stuff -(probably easier going boy-possible girl than girl to boy though) I have a few things but most are very boyish - all typical blue/fire trucks etc etc so if we do end up with a girl, she will be in them, at least while she's a newborn that is. I plan on having a 'babymoon' and not really leaving the house much in the early weeks so i figured it wouldnt really matter anyway, they poop and pee through so much. I have a new neutral white outfit to bring baby home in, just so I can have something that was *just* for this baby and not his/her brothers.<br><br>
As for diapers, ours are mostly pretty 'boyish' too. Lots of blues/reds/greens Im not worried about it really. Im buying some more newborn cloth diapers and trying to pick the more neutral shades <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> but otherwise, if this baby is a girl, she will be wearing a TON of blue etc.
 

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So, Shazer, if you can find someone in the opposite situation as you, maybe you could do a clothing swap!
 

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ita with rhiorion - i am clothes swapping alot of my stuff with another mama! I am very pleased. The rest of it i will consign. I didn't find out gender with DS, so I have a good amount of GN stuff, but only for the first 3 mo or so...
 

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I am having a boy...I can't do it. I can't dress him in girls stuff...I am slowly buying things and so is family. My budget is REALLY REALLY tight though, so relying on family.<br>
I feel it's not fair...I don't want pictures and him to ask why his sister has new stuff and why she was dressed in pink and he had to wear her hand me downs.<br><br>
Try swapping with someone.
 

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We had already given away a lot of DS's baby clothes. Pretty much everything that was 0-3mo was gone. So regardless, we need more clothing. I went through what we had of his older clothes and pulled stuff that was really gn, but especially older months, you can tell it's boys' clothing. I have a twice a year gigantic consignment sale coming up in February. I'm already on the list to consign and I'll be getting a lot of DS's summer wardrobe there. I'll just add his sister's wardrobe to it. Plus I've bought a few things here and there that I loved.
 

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I did have some GN things from DD, so he'll obviously be using those.<br><br>
We have a very feminine looking Britax (pink w/ yellow flowers)--we bought it because that pattern was on clearance. There is no way I am paying $70 for a new car seat cover, so he'll just have to deal w/ that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> (actually, I suspect the in-laws will be doing more "dealing" IRT those sorts of issues-- MIL seemed <i>very</i> skeptical when I showed her the green baby legs I bought for him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She <i>assured</i> me they are only for girls.)<br><br>
I have started making more of an effort to buy GN things for DD now so that I will be able to use them with the boy, too-- this is a lot easier w/ things like shoes and pajamas. Brown crocs instead of pink or blue, for example, and when I have to choose now between 'Pink Polar Bear" pjs or "Brown foxes," I go w/ the brown foxes because I know I would enjoy seeing them on both of my children, not just DD.
 

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I have no idea what this baby is. As it is, we don't have many boys things anyhow because we simply don't have that many clothes from when we had DS. He was a bit of a surprise and we got away with the bare minimium of what needed! lol Most of that can be re-used.<br>
However, before we even got pregnant, I spent a bit of money on ebay going crazy for all the neutral items I loved. My rule was to be the only bidder - so I would wait for the last few seconds if no one had bid on the item yet and bid no higher than the start price lmao. So I have, for about under £50, enough clothes for this baby - no matter what sex - up to about 6 months. Of course, boy or girl, I will probably be tempted to buy some sexed items after they are born because there are some things I really like! hehe<br><br>
I do have some things given to me that were clearly for either one sex or the other - but I think they are suitable for either sex. I see no problem putting pink or purple on a boy or putting blue and brown on a girl! hehe
 

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The clothing swap is an excellent idea. However, I let people borrow probably 75% of what I bought and sadly, most of the clothes seem to be gone. People didn't do it on purpose. My SIL is just very disorganized and my cousin has a job and two kids. So I don't know if a swap is possible with what remains. But I'll really think about doing that.
 

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If I have a girl, you can have my boy stuff, and I'll take whatever you've got. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I am not swapping everything. I gave my SIL a bag and a half of stuff for her son, because she is a single mom, etc. But I saved some of the name brand stuff, and I can swap that easily. I won't end up with a whole wardrobe from just the swap, but I should end up with at least enough major pieces to fill in the gaps. Its better than buying a whole new wardrobe, and I get better return than consigning it and buying something else...
 

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My first two kids are a little over six years apart and I'd given away a lot of her stuff when DS1 was born. I don't think I really reused a lot of her clothes b/c she was born in July and he was born in Nov so the seasons weren't the same. I had bought some gender neutral stuff before DS1 was born and I slowly added to it. Also, family sent a lot of clothes as gifts and I don't typically have more than a weeks worth of clothes on hand so I didn't need a lot. DS2 wore mostly hand me downs, but I have bought him some new clothes as well. I don't know about this baby. If it's a boy, he'll wear a lot of hand me downs. If it's a girl, I may be able to use some of DDs clothes, but I'll have to obtain more somewhere.
 

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ddc crashing.... Im in the opposite situation. And ill admit I went overboard with DS's clothes so we have boxes upon boxes of clothes. Luckily I did buy a bit gender neutral clothes so I can use this for the DD on the way. I also think it is more acceptable in society for a girl to dress in more boyish clothing. But to have a boy wear pink shoes I think it pushing the envelope in my opinion. I would offer you all my DS clothes but I just found out my sister is expecting a little boy and since she is only 17 and has no job she really needs it so Im lending it to her. best of luck though.
 

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We dressed DD in DS clothes only if there was no hint that it was for a boy. We got a lot of clothing as gifts and DD has more than enough for most of her first year. She had less than DS, but that is because he got a ton of stuff from a co-worker of mine that shared all her clothes.<br><br>
I think switching/swapping with someone else in the similar situation is a great idea.
 

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Well, my oldest is a boy and my second is a girl, so it's a little different. I put DD in DS's hand-me-downs all the time, but I think that girls pull off wearing boy clothes better than boys pull off wearing girl clothes. I try to make the over-all outfit look feminine, but for things like pyjamas, I don't bother.<br><br>
I've gotten lots of gifts and hand-me-downs from relatives, though. Especially from my sister who has two boys but still likes to buy girl stuff <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. Are you going to have a baby shower?<br><br>
One great thing about baby clothes is that there's usually second-hand clothing available in spades, because the babies wear them for such a short time. Second hand stores are great, and on freecycle, I notice that bags of baby clothes are one of the most common items available.
 

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Our first is a girl, second a boy. It turned out to be a non-issue. Lots of people gifted us boy clothing (not hand-me-downs, we were the first in our circle to have kids). Shoes that fit DD wouldn't fit DS anyway (he has MUCH MUCH wider feet, needed specialized shoes where she could just wear anything). And we had enough neutral clothing to get the rest of the job done.
 

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My first was a boy, second was a girl. We didn't find out the sex during either pregnancy, so when I was pregnant the first time I bought a lot of gender neutral stuff, a bit of boy clothes and a bit of girl clothes. Of course my in-laws went totally overboard with the boy clothes after the baby was born, but we still used whatever GN and girl clothes we had bought, and a few times my son was taken for a girl. Eh, who cares?<br><br>
My daughter got mostly hand-me-downs from my son, and so has spent the first 19 months of her life dressed primarily in boy clothes - though she does now have nearly as many girl clothes as boy clothes. She doesn't have any hair, and even when she's dressed in pink or frills she gets taken for a boy. Eh, who cares?<br><br>
We thought we were done with two babies, and so as my daughter outgrew things I gave them away. Then, surprise! Baby #3! I've been fortunate that a lot of my friends have babies who will be nearly one year older than this little one, and have been giving me clothes as they are outgrown. Everything we have for the first 9 months screams BOY, but will go on the baby one way or the other, regardless of what's between the legs on birthing day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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you can buy huge lots of clothing off of craigslist for dirt cheap. some of it may be stained and "well loved" but its totally worth it if you need clothes in a pinch.<br><br>
i bought two trash bags full of baby clothes for $30 and most of it was still brand new!
 
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