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I am feeling guilty about my DD's tv watching and I want to see how others out there are doing it. DD is obsessed with Elmo, I am convinced she would throw herself if front of a train to save him. All day long it is Elmo, Elmo, Elmo. She watches between 30-60 mins every morning, as I am not a morning person and I need this time to get myself together and start the day with her. It used to be in the mornings every day and maybe 2-3 times a week for 15-30 mins in the evening that she would watch. That is, when she is with me, with DH it is a free for all, he puts it on for her whenever she asks. Over christmas vacation (DH had two weeks off) I decided to conduct a little experiment based on the advice of some other MDCer's. We let her watch Elmo whenever she asked hoping that it would lose its novelty and/or she would burn out on it and stop asking all the time. It didn't work, instead, it has gotten me in the habit of putting it on for her more often. Right now she is watching in the morning, after nap, and in the evening most every day. Throw in more on the weekends and some other random times during the week and it is adding up to a lot of tv. At least 1.5-2 hours a day if not more. Right now DH is working long hours (10-12 a day) and I am involved in a very labor intensive wallpaper removal project during DD's naps. I started putting it on for her after nap because I need time to clean up all the wallpaper gunk and because she has been having a really hard time waking up from naps lately and this has been making it a little easier.<br>
We do lots of other things together, we play blocks, tea party, puzzles, we color, we do play doh, we paint, we play outside, we play in the sandbox, we go to music class, art class, playdates and run errands. But the key word there is WE, DD will not (and never really has) play by herself. I am lucky to get her to play alone for 10-20 mins out of a 12 hour day alone with her. The TV gives me some time and I like the time.<br>
Just looking for other's experiences.<br>
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My 2yo loves TV, but she only watches maybe an hour each week.<br><br>
My 6yo, on the other hand, is a different story... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am feeling guilty about my DD's tv watching and I want to see how others out there are doing it. DD is obsessed with Elmo, I am convinced she would throw herself if front of a train to save him. All day long it is Elmo, Elmo, Elmo. She watches between 30-60 mins every morning, as I am not a morning person and I need this time to get myself together and start the day with her. It used to be in the mornings every day and maybe 2-3 times a week for 15-30 mins in the evening that she would watch. That is, when she is with me, with DH it is a free for all, he puts it on for her whenever she asks. Over christmas vacation (DH had two weeks off) I decided to conduct a little experiment based on the advice of some other MDCer's. We let her watch Elmo whenever she asked hoping that it would lose its novelty and/or she would burn out on it and stop asking all the time. It didn't work, instead, it has gotten me in the habit of putting it on for her more often. Right now she is watching in the morning, after nap, and in the evening most every day. Throw in more on the weekends and some other random times during the week and it is adding up to a lot of tv. At least 1.5-2 hours a day if not more. Right now DH is working long hours (10-12 a day) and I am involved in a very labor intensive wallpaper removal project during DD's naps. I started putting it on for her after nap because I need time to clean up all the wallpaper gunk and because she has been having a really hard time waking up from naps lately and this has been making it a little easier.<br>
We do lots of other things together, we play blocks, tea party, puzzles, we color, we do play doh, we paint, we play outside, we play in the sandbox, we go to music class, art class, playdates and run errands. But the key word there is WE, DD will not (and never really has) play by herself. I am lucky to get her to play alone for 10-20 mins out of a 12 hour day alone with her. The TV gives me some time and I like the time.<br>
Just looking for other's experiences.<br>
Thanks!</div>
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Substitute Elmo with Curious George and I pretty much have the same situation here. My ds is TV obsessed. It was one of his first words. He will even grab my hand and drag me to the TV when he's really desperate. I don't know how he got so interested in the TV, because dh and I are not big TV watchers. In fact, before ds was born the TV was rarely on unless we were watching a video.<br><br>
I try to limit TV watching to PBS cartoons. Usually 1/2 hour to 1 hour in the morning and often another 1/2 to hour in the afternoon. DS and I color, play with trains/cars and blocks, read books, go for walks, and visit a lot of toddler play groups too. My ds is very high needs and, like your dd, will not play by himself. So the TV basically gets used so that I can wash the dishes or start laundry, or when I need a minute to myself.<br><br>
The evenings are another story. I work at night, so my dh watches ds. I realize that he's had a hard day of work, but dh tends to be pretty lazy about playing with ds and resorts to several hours of TV watching (usually Japanese anime from his video collection). I don't like it, but since I'm not home there isn't much I can do about it.<br><br>
All in all, I feel like ds has entirely too much TV in his life. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My 2yo loves TV, but she only watches maybe an hour each week.<br><br>
My 6yo, on the other hand, is a different story... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:</div>
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So where is your 2 y/o while the 6 y/o is watching?<br><br>
An hour a week...that would be so sweet and quite appropriate IMO. We watch way too much tv here but sometimes (like now) I just want some time to myself!
 

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my kids watch tv (or a signing times dvd or a movie - we have 3 or 4) when I'm frazzled & exhausted (starting my third trimester here), when I need a shower but don't get one before dh leaves for work, or sometimes when I am cooking something they can't help with (not many meals are like this though).<br>
Or if dh and I need some time together <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush">.<br><br>
Times per week can vary from 15 minutes to a few hours. It just depends.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Times per week can vary from 15 minutes to a few hours. It just depends.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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ds hasn't watched any tv in 4 or 5 days. but last week he probably watched an hour or more every day for 3 days in a row. i was having a rough week lol.
 

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We have a routine, Barney in the AM during Milky and Coffee, and Elmo at night when I am making dinner. (And on MDC!) We both gogogo all day, so it's nice to have down time.<br><br>
But yes, it's tough when you're inside all day to keep the tv off. I actually moved her toys out of the room with the tv so that I wasn't tempted to turn it on when we play. Also, now the toys are closer to the kitchen so I can see her while I work. But, honestly, I think the problem is more me than her--she would move on pretty quickly if I just didn't turn the tv on at all.<br><br>
(she is two and a half)
 

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Usually 30 mins a day while I am making dinner. It has been a little more frequently lately (as in and episode of the Backyardigans before lunch) because I am pregnant and tired and its super crappy outside. We dvr so he has his choice whenever he is ready to watch. I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> dvr.
 

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It really depends on the day and what's going on. Sometimes he doesn't watch it at all. Sometimes maybe a half hour or so. I let him watch TV when I need to do something and have him be occupied and contained (like when I'm unloading groceries) or when, frankly, I need a bit of a break. I also love my DVR and we have about 4-5 Teletubbies episodes saved at all times. DS only wants to watch the Tubbies.
 

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My ultimate limit is 2 hours a day, and I feel guilty for that. We are working on getting it to definitely no more than 1.5 hours a day. I had just started letting her watch at all because I had been so sick with this pregnancy and wiped out. She watches PBS and some videos I have for her. Nothing with commercials. She is very articulate and we play together often with open-ended toys, and she shows great imagination. She will play on her own, but I definitely have to be in the room with her. We do music at home and art as well. I make sure she gets outside time as much as possible too.
 

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The tv is on a lot in our house. Especially when DH is home as he likes the noise. DS always watches some Blues Clues before bed and usually Wiggles in the morning. I really don't know how often the TV is on for DS during the day when I'm at work but I'm sure it is on all day (in fact, DH tends to forget to turn it off when he leaves the house it's that much a part of his life)
 

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DS has just discovered tv at 2 and is in love with Elmo. He normally gets to watch one disc (45 min) once every few days, unless he is sick then he gets more.
 

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oh boy, you guys are good mamas with controlling the t.v. ! My ds, 30 mos, watches wayyy to much. The Incredibles are on right now. . . Then another movie after his nap and the t.v. is usually on in the evening. . . . Did I mention it's winter and going outside hs not been an option lately? Excuses, excuses . . .<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">:
 

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I think the real key to finding out how much TV is right for your child is to stick to the guidelines... none until 2. Then, I try to watch my DD's behavior. If TV seems to effect it negatively... like she can't play without it on, or she cries for it too much, or it seems to effect sleep. Then, I feel like it is time to cut back. Of course I try to make sure it doesn't get to that point. I definitely pick and choose what she sees. There are even some PBS shows that I don't think are appropriate for her yet.
 

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My ds is 3.5, so a little older than toddler, but I've been thinking about this a lot recently. I was doing unlimited tv, which was usually videos whenever he asked. But then we started getting up earlier, when cartoons are on CBC It's like PBS- cartoons for young kids, no commercials (except the positive parenting commercials when cartoons are over), etc. So now he watches those every morning (which is good for me, because I NEED my morning time).<br>
So I decided to have a limit. A loose one, but still a limit. It's 2 hours a day. If he's watched 1.5h, and wants to watch a 1hour movie, I'm not going to turn it off 30 minutes into it.<br>
And I don't feel guilty about it either.<br>
The limit is going over well. I think after 2 hours of tv (spread through the day), he's ok with having to wait til the next day to watch more.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">But yes, it's tough when you're inside all day to keep the tv off. I actually moved her toys out of the room with the tv so that I wasn't tempted to turn it on when we play. Also, now the toys are closer to the kitchen so I can see her while I work. But, honestly, I think the problem is more me than her--she would move on pretty quickly if I just didn't turn the tv on at all.</div>
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Now THAT I feel guilty about. I tend to turn the tv on (my shows) when ds wants me to play with him. (some of his toys are in the living room). I need to stop doing it.
 

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I have a 19 mth. old and a 3 1/2 year old & they usually watch 1 hour or less per day. Sometimes we will watch a movie all together that is over an hour (if weather is bad etc.) but I try to limit the tv overall. I'll admit - It does make a nice distraction when I need to get something done. I was much stricter about it when my dd was a toddler than I am the 2nd time around<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I try to keep it at 2 hours a day, but I have no idea how much ds is watching at my grandparent's house (where he stays while I work).<br><br>
Ds gets upset when Barney isn't on. It isn't really that he wants to watch it, he just wants it to be on. I guess I can't blame him, I really like the noise the tv makes and feel like its too quiet w/o it.
 

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Glad to see I am not totally outside the norm. It all started for us when she gave up her morning nap at around 14 months which happened to coincide with us moving. That was when the tv started in her life. In the summer/fall, it was very easy to combat her requests for Elmo with "Hey let's go outside", now it is not so easy. I will try not to feel the guilt too much for now and work on it when I am done with my wallpaper nightmare which should probably coincide with the start of spring.<br>
At least she only watches elmo, she gets very mad if anything else is on. If the tv is on, it is on Elmo.
 
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