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<p>Do your children have hyphenated names as well? Or do they have your last name? Or your partners last name? DS is 19 months and we hyphenated his last name as I was planning on keeping mine once we married...but I changed my mind  and hyphenated instead. </p>
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<p>Just curious what others have done in terms of family name structures <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif"></p>
 

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<p>It was important to me that we all share one last name, adults and kids. So we all have the same hyphenated version of mine and DHs original last names. </p>
 

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<p>Well, I actually took DH's name for 5 years but then reverted back to my name. He has his name, I have mine, and our children have both of our last names, no hyphen though. It can be a PIA at times, but I don't regret it. </p>
 

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<p>My DP and I agreed that we would create a new family name, which we did. Then he decided not to take it (yet) on because of his own unresolved family issues which he is now actively working on. He thinks when he resolves his stuff, then he will take "our" name, but me the LO and I carry it now. </p>
 

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<p>We combined our last names (no hyphen) and the kids have that name as well.  It was important to me for us all to have the same last name.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>tjlucca</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282440/if-your-last-name-is-hyphenated#post_16081063"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>My DP and I agreed that we would create a new family name, which we did.</p>
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<br><br><p>We did this.  We picked "Wonderful." </p>
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<p>We all have it except for DH's DD from a previous relationship.  She has her mom's name and DH's "maiden" name hyphenated.  DH hates it.  DSD's sister (not DH's biological child, but spends a lot of time with us) likes our name choice so much that she hyphenated hers on FB (which is what DSD's would look like if DSD's mom let DH change "his half" of DSD's last name to match his actual last name).</p>
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<p>At first, some people thought that we were crazy, but at this point, everyone seems to agree that it suits us.  I have only gotten positive or indifferent responses.  My mom thought that people would think that I was a wingnut and was afraid that it would impede my application to pharmacy school, but I think it actually worked to my advantage.  People assume it is my birth name (or my DH's), and it makes them smile.  And who wouldn't want to make people smile? <span><img alt="orngbiggrin.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif"></span></p>
 
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<p>I thought I would want to take DH's last name, because I like it and because mine carries a lot of baggage. So I practiced and realized I had just spent too much of my life signing cheques and stuff with my own last name to change. Plus, I got through a lot with that name! So dd is hyphenated, except I don't like the hyphen, so it's just two names. I saw someone who had their last name all run together and I really liked it, like this "SmithJones." That's how I'd like my and dd's last names. I'm just my own last name, though most stuff gets addressed to either "Mrs husbands-last-name" or "Mrs-hyphenated."</p>
 

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<p>I use both DHs and my original last name but I haven't hyphenated them. J has DHs last name as her last name and my maiden name as her second middle name. So her full name is J------ R--- Myname Hisname and the name that she will use day-to-day is J----- Hisname. We intend to do the same with our future child(ren).</p>
 

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<p>My parents both kept their names and gave us both their names (no hyphen).  The problem I ran into was my private school & Docs all called me by my mom's last name, when I went to public school, the used my dad's last name (by that time my parents were divorced).  I hated having 2 last names.  When I got married I dropped both and took my DH's name.  Both our kids have DH's last name too.</p>
 

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<p>I have a hyphenated last name. It's my maiden and my DH's name. To be honest, I find writing checks or signing anything with a hyphenated name a total PITA after a while. We decided to give our children just my DH's last name. </p>
 

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<p>Dd seems to love her long, hyphenated name. She will tell anybody prouldly "My name is C-middle-name-my maiden name-dh's surname." I, OTOH, did find it a PITA when I experimented with hyphenating my last name. I think I was just too old and worldly to take on a new last name, hyphenated or just DH's, by the time I got married. I still think it would be neat to have a symbolic whole new start like that. I like hearing how creative people are being! In the end, I decided my old wash-and-wear name was really me, after all.</p>
 

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<p>DS has 1 last name (his bio-dad's last name). DP has his last name. I have a different last name. It's been on my mind a lot about what I want to do when we get married. I'm 99% sure I'll change my name to dp's name. I had thought of hyphenating my name with his last name because I wanted to get ds's name changed to include my last name (he was going through a period where it was really rough for him because he didn't have the same last name as me or dp (who he considers his dad) and all his friends share a last name with at least 1 of their parents). But ex won't agree to changing ds's name to include mine (along with his) so.... there's not much I can do about it. If dp and I have any more kids then they will have his last name. I don't know what to do about ds though because it does bother him that he doesn't have the same last name as anybody. I didn't want to get in a situation where dp and I get married and I change my name to his and then we have another baby and that baby shares the same last name as us. Talk about making ds feel like an outcast <span><img alt="greensad.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/greensad.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>I hyphenated.  I love my name, and didn't want to give it up.  Besides, it's traditional for female artists to keep their maiden name, and I like that.  So anything i do artistically will have my maiden name on it.</p>
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<p>The kids have my partner's name.  Except that I used my maiden name for my son's middle name.</p>
 

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<p>DD (14 y.o.) was just asking me the other day about why I didn't change my name. She has DH's last name. After I explained my reasons, I asked her what she thought about it. </p>
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<p>She was extremely grateful that we didn't give her a hyphenated combination of names from DH and me. </p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Peony</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282440/if-your-last-name-is-hyphenated#post_16080957"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Well, I actually took DH's name for 5 years but then reverted back to my name. He has his name, I have mine, and our children have both of our last names, no hyphen though. It can be a PIA at times, but I don't regret it. </p>
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ditto, except for originally having had dh's surname<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>IxIa</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282440/if-your-last-name-is-hyphenated#post_16083757"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I have a hyphenated last name. It's my maiden and my DH's name. To be honest, I find writing checks or signing anything with a hyphenated name a total PITA after a while. We decided to give our children just my DH's last name. </p>
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<br><br><p> This is me as well!</p>
 

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<p>I have a hyphenated last name (my maiden name - husbands last name).  I use the hyphenated name on legal docs and at work, but use my husband's last name only when introducing myself in social situations.  DS has only husband's last name.</p>
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<p>I actually really like having the hyphenated name for me, as I have found that I can use either last name on its own, or the hyphenated name as well.  I feel like I have total last name flexibility (except of course on legal docs).</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>EviesMom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282440/if-your-last-name-is-hyphenated#post_16080877"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>It was important to me that we all share one last name, adults and kids. So we all have the same hyphenated version of mine and DHs original last names. </p>
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We did this as well.</p>
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