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There's a little girl a couple doors down that just turned 8 that always has dd (8 next mo) in tears. Lately she has been telling dd she has to pay her money or she won't play with her or be nice to her. This morning dd had a quarter and the girl told her she would only be nice to dd if dd gave her the quarter. dd was in tears that I refused to allow her to give this bully her money. Last time it was $12 and dd was in tears for 2 weeks over it because I wouldn't give her the money to pay the girl. I consider this bullying, am I wrong? Any suggestions on how to approach the mother? I do my best to keep them separated but this girl is ALWAYS outside and dd can't seem to escape her as she's always comes over and plays with the other girls dd is playing with. These are not nice girls, yesterday they were throwing grass at dd and messed up a drawing she was working on by scribbling on it when she walked away from the picnic table. This girl seems to be the one that instigates trouble every time<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Oh boy, I was in thrall to a girl like this in elementary school, much to my mother's everlasting chagrin. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
No good advice, just <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Looking back, I have no idea why this girl's "friendship" was so important to me. I hope you can help your daughter out with this.
 

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I stand by my original thoughts of this girl needs something that would be a UAV! She's a little extortionist, a meanie and a bully! I am sick and tired of dd coming home in tears all the time because of this little girl. She's constantly trying to extort money from dd telling her she needs to pay her or she won't be nice to her. She gets the neighborhood kids to gang up on dd and start teasing her, this morning she told dd she was making a fool of herself but wouldn't explain why which led to 1/2 hour of tears. dd wasn't even playing with her but was walking home from down the street. The little girl turned up at the pool while dd was there with adventure camp and started a harassment campaign with the other kids because dd was afraid of jumping off the high diving board (dd can't even swim, she doesn’t need to be in the deep end). It’s constantly something with this little girl, I had to laugh at the irony, they hold children’s bible study on the lawn but this child displays the most unchristian behavior!
 

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I would have to say something to the mother or, I would move the play to my backyard where this girl would not be welcome.<br><br>
She is bullying. And, as a mother, if I heard that my child was forcing other children to pay her to play, I would be horrified.
 

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I talked to the mom and she basically denied her child any wrong doing and said it wasn't possible and since her child said she didn't do it then she didn't because her daughter doesn't lie. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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One of my neighbours has a child like this. Mom is in total denial.<br><br>
How many times has the worst mannered meanest kid you know been the son or daughter of the cop, or the pastor? Yeah.<br><br>
I always have something around for my daughters when this little missy comes around and decides that no one should play with my daughter, or whatever it is today.<br><br>
I encourage her to verbalize what she sees. "You are excluding me, and I don't like it." "I don't like the way your are treating me." that sort of thing. Name the behaviour. It doesn't work to curtail this other child, but it empowers my daughter.
 
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