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I won't spank a 6 month old.<br>
I can't "contol" my kids.<br>
I don't "whup" my neice and nephew therefor they do not repect me.<br>
I haven't started to "train" the baby.<br>
I'm still nursing so often so I must be starving her.<br>
I won't let the baby "play" in the walker enough so she will never be able to get around.<br>
My two year old wants to be held too much.<br>
Ds too "petted" to be a boy.<br><br>
And it goes on and on. So I am a bad mother and my children are uncontrable because of it. Afterall these are tings you "must" do in order to have an "efficiant" house and " good" kids.<br><br>
Thanks Mom glad to no I do everything wrong.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: Gee, that's a bit of a contradiction huh?<br><br>
I think that we could make a fun tongue-in-cheek thread out of this. All the ways we are "bad" parents!<br><br>
I think all the reasons you are so bad make you so good!
 

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OPr how about..<br><br>
Don't punish them because your too lazy to get out of bed at night. (re" cosleeping)<br><br>
You only breastfeed cause you want to sit on your a$% all day.<br><br>
Don't spank them and their gonna grow up and hit you.( like those mothers on the talk shows whose kids are out of control)<br><br>
She just wants her funky momma(like that's a bad thing)
 

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ohhhh.... I got some too!!!<br><br>
I am a bad mother cause<br><br>
I don't put him down enough and he is going to be developmentally delayed (My mom said this to me - her way of trying to get me to CIO)<br><br>
I love him too much and am by doing so am going to make him gay (my uncle said this ~ again with the CIO)<br><br>
I am sure I could think of many, many more but these are two of my favorites!<br><br>
Kaeleb is only 7 months old so we don't have any "control" issues yet.<br>
But I can feel them coming~
 

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I love the, "what do you mean, you <span style="text-decoration:underline;">never</span> give her a bottle?! Don't you go out?" Like I am horrible because I actually don't mind breastfeeding my daughter and enjoy taking her <i>with</i> me when I go out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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I'm a bad mother because we don't have a television and we're not getting one and I keep being told "he'll feel left out".<br><br>
:puke<br><br>
Oh, yeah. I'm also <i>supposed</i> to give him stuff like Hawaian Punch with all its fake colours so he "get used to them" and can eat/drink them when over at other people's homes.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: One person who told me that (yes, there's been more than one) got told in return that just as I will not allow him to travel in an SUV unless <i>truly</i> off road, I will not let him play with kids who are fed poisons. (Not true, but I wanted to see the shocked look on that idiot's face.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> )
 

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Huh?
 

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I'm a bad mama because, among other things, I:<br><br>
-Breastfeed on cue and let DD comfort suck when needed. (You're not supposed to let her use your nipple like that.")<br>
-Won't let my DD CIO. ("You're making her insecure by always responding to her.")<br>
-Respond to my DD in a caring way all the time, even if in the middle of disagreeing with DH about something. ("Go ahead and be sweet to her. DD, learn at an early age that your mother will turn on you and is a b#$%&.")
 

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I am a bad mother because...<br>
i refuse to use a johny jumper or a walker<br>
I refuse to ler her (5 months old) 'just have a little taste'<br>
I wont let her watch t.v. ( we dont even have a t.v.) even though she 'clearly enjoys it'<br>
I wont give her orajel for her teeth, (nursing her through it seems to work just fine)<br>
I take her to a chiropracter 'before she can decide if she even wants chiropractic care'<br>
and ofcourse, shes going to be forever damaged from sleeping with us<br>
and last but certainly not least I am a horrible mother for not vaccinating and for not getting the flu shot while pregnagnant<br>
oh yeah I almost forgot, I am a very selfish mother for not getting an ultrasound while I was pregnant<br>
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! whats it gonna take for people to wise up????
 

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You know, he's not "hard" enough. He likes to be loved on(hugs and kisses) and I still hold him. He doesn't act as "rough" as a boy should and it's my fault cause I "pet"(love on him) too much.
 

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Ooh! Ooh! I'm a bad mother, too! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br>
...because...<br><br>
...my dd doesn't know anything about the Powerpuff Girls, the Rugrats, or Spiderman (even though other kids have taught her to recognize them).<br><br>
...my dd isn't allowed to have fun, apparently. Fun is defined as being allowed to eat all sorts of artificially colored food.<br><br>
...I don't "discipline" her - meaning I don't yell or punish or spank.<br><br>
...I actually don't give in to tantrums and let her get so upset - funny how this judgment comes from people who believe in CIO and spanking.<br><br>
...I let my dd do "dangerous" things in the playground - everyone KNOWS girls are so delicate and uncoordinated!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
...my dd ate almost no solid food until she was a year old<br><br>
I can't think of anything else...hey, maybe I'm not such a bad mother after all!!!
 

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Can I join? Please, please, please!!<br><br>
I am a bad mother because<br>
-everyone knows that breastmilk doesn't satisfy a baby's hunger after 4 months or so<br><br>
-I let my 4 yr old sister "hold" him (on the couch with me there). Don't I know that she's just gonna break him or something?<br><br>
-I don't let other people take him and comfort him when he's crying. Even if it takes longer for MIL to comfort him, I should just let her do it cause he has to know that I'm not the only woman in the world <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
-I don't have him on a schedule like all other baby's<br><br>
-When he starts fussing in his sleep, I always go check on him, just to see if he's okay. I mean, come on, how's he gonna grow up and be a big strong man if I don't let him deal with his own problems <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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I'm a bad mother because...<br><br>
1. We don't do Barbie even though DD would like Barbie.<br><br>
(My response: If she liked cotton candy for every meal, would I be a bad mom if I gave it to her?)<br><br>
2. We don't do Disney.<br><br>
3. We pre-screen packages that are sent to us from people who do not support our parenting practices. This includes all of our mutual relatives and my immediate family.<br><br>
4. We don't let her drink punch or eat candy except as a rare treat.<br><br>
5. We don't do kids' television and she has no idea who Dora, Blue, and others are.<br><br>
6. She taught herself to read at two. This proves we're horrible parents because if she can do that, it's obviously because we duct-taped her to her chair and forced her to do it.<br><br>
7. We spend too much time with her (see above).<br><br>
Yup. Just another bad mom here.
 

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Ooooh! Fun!<br><br>
Im a bad mom because I cospelt with our first dd<br><br>
Im still bad because my twins sleep together in a crib<br><br>
Im bad because I nursed my first dd "all the time"<br><br>
I still suck because I formula feed my twins<br><br>
Im bad because " never put my first dd down as a baby"<br><br>
Apparantly I still suck because after having twins, I did not grow 2 more sets of arms and use a stroller.<br><br><br>
You know what? You all rule! I rule. People dont know to mind their business.<br><br>
Ok, Im sooo PMSing and in need of some mellow red wine. : )
 

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Put me on the bad-mommy list!!!<br><br>
Lucy will:<br>
"Never get out of our bed till she is 6 or 7!" (I hope to be so lucky...)<br>
"Get sick from no vaccinations." (There's a lot of Polio going 'round these days...)<br>
"Really really like this Disney movie" (The one with the violence and racial slurs, or the one with the sexist references?)<br>
"Not behave if I am not firm with her." (Read: yell at her.)<br>
"Be unhealthy if she eats no meat."<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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I too have heard many comments and it is somehow reassuring to know that I am not alone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
"You are starving your baby by not feeding solids before 6 months of age"<br>
"You need to listen to me and not your doctor if you want your son to grow correctly."<br>
"If you let him in your bed he will be there for years and you will have lots of trouble getting him out."<br>
"You don't need to stay here with your son. He seems fine. You can leave and he will just cry for a few minutes."<br>
"You want to nurse more than one year!"<br>
"Disposable diapers are so much easier and better. You don't need to change them that much."<br>
"You mean he doesn't get ice cream very much? Not even a little taste?"<br>
"Give him a bottle of milk when he goes to bed."<br>
"You can't let him feed himself. Look at xxxx he doesn't get messy when he eats. Your son gets more food on him than in him. You should spoon feed them for years."<br>
"You need to find a teenager to leave your son with so you can go out and have some time away."<br>
"You limit his sugar?"<br>
"Why doesn't he like me to hold him?"
 

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Jeca,<br><br>
First of all, your mom is wrong and it has never been true that you're a bad mom! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I know you KNOW this, but I thought I'd tell you that I know it too!<br><br>
Now, please, move aside for the latest bad mom. I'm bad because:<br><br>
- I don't let my DDs "learn" by struggling or crying in isolation<br>
- I actually ask my DDs opinions on things related to them rather than taking charge of every situation<br>
- DH and I co-sleep on demand<br>
- We buy organic food<br>
- I work (DH is a SAHD but that's not good enough I guess)<br>
- I don't discipline my DDs (meaning spank, yell at or belittle them)<br><br>
And I'm Good because:<br>
- I finally gave up my ill-conceived attempts at BFing my twins (I was devastated not to be able to get enough milk by one month and ended up supplimenting and finally giving up.)<br><br>
Now some OTHER people think I'm bad for:<br>
- Formula feeding my babies<br>
- Using a stroller sometimes<br><br>
Whew, that's a load off! Awesome thread!!!<br><br>
CurlyTop
 

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We need a theme song or something! =)<br><br>
~ "You mean he's *never* had a babysitter?" (DS stays with MIL when I go into work 2x a week for 4 hours each, I happen to like being with DS and when I need a break, DH takes over for me.)<br><br>
~ "You're *still* nursing him?" (he's about 28lbs at 11.5mo... I don't think he's missing anything, and he does get solids if he wants, I just don't force the issue)<br><br>
~ "You'll never get him out of your bed, that's part of the reason my husband and I got divorced." (my kid, my husband, my bed, back off. whatever, if you're not stable as a couple, anything will set it off.)<br><br>
~ "When are you going to wean that kid? Six months was enough for me" (My boobs, my kid, back off. I trust DS to be smart enough to stop when he's ready, you saying my kid's stupid?)<br><br>
~ "He's too big to carry, put that kid down." (he can't walk yet! goodness sake! my back, my kid, back off)<br><br>
After typing this, I realize my personal theme song would have a chorus something to the effect:<br><br>
My baby, my boobs, my bed, my back, back off! =)
 
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