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Hi,<br><br>
pardon me for lurking.. I had a silly question.. My friends daughter is having twin boys, we are unsure on whether they are identical or fraternal..<br><br>
Anyway, I'd like to buy them an outfit for next winter, as she is due in July, but no matter, when they are born they'd be about 6-9mths in the winter..<br><br>
She's a tiny tiny girl, maybe 5' and maybe pre-preg. weighs about 100lbs..<br><br>
I'm not sure if her boys will take after her..<br><br>
But in terms of clothing.. I need your advice as mama's of multiples do you prefer your twins to match, or is that something people without twins do?<br><br>
I'd like to recognize them as individuals and by them like clothes that are different like them? Is that okay?
 

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I think recognizing their individuality and buying different outfits is fine. Even if she likes them to match, I doubt anyone would object to two differing outfits as a gift. But one thing to keep in mind is that many twins are born early and the clothes may have to be smaller than you think. My twins were born at 34 weeks in September, and all the winter stuff we got as gifts was way too big.<br><br>
Best wishes to your friend, and happy clothes shopping! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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This isn't as much fun as opening cute outfits and oohing and aahing over them, but could you give her an IOU so you can better gauge their sizes next winter and get a better idea if she'd like them to match or not? Either that or I'd make sure you get the clothing somewhere with a great exchange policy and leave everything ready to be exchanged in case her boys are tiny (or huge!). Just a thought or two! My two are b/g but it was (and still is) most useful to us to have two coordinating outfits so pieces can be swapped around as needed. Have fun finding something cute!
 

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My personal favorite is to have outfits that coordinate (ie same cut/style but different colors) I don't think it matters whether they are identical or not... as babies people wouldn't think twice about frat twins being dressed the same. People mostly buy us exactly matching outfits and I am ALWAYS grateful for whatever clothes we get, but I am not really into dressing them exactly the same. That's just me.<br><br>
As far as their size, you never can tell. My boys are seven months and are barely squeezing into the 6-9 mo. clothes. Maybe get some stuff that could be more seasonally ambiguous so they could be worn in the winter or the spring?<br><br>
You're so sweet to get this mama stuff. Whatever you give I am sure she will love.
 

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The other thing to consider is to see when they are born and what their sizes are then. My girls were term but small (5lbs7 and 6lbs2) compared to my nearly 9 pound singleton -- and none of the newborn stuff fit them. I ended up buying some 5-7 pound outfits and it made such a huge difference for me mentally -- they didn't look so frail and weak when they were wearing clothes that fit. You wouldn't want to buy these in advance, as she very well might have good sized twins and wouldn't need such tiny clothes, but if they are preemies, or even term but on the small side, having clothes that fit are a blessing.<br><br>
Just my 2cents <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> What a good friend for thinking of them.<br><br>
Edited to add: Oh yeah -- my own preference is coordinated over matching.
 

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My twins were a lbs smaller than my singleton, but by months old, they were MUCH bigger, so you never really know about sizes.<br><br>
If you live close, perhaps offer to take her shopping for the clothes in Nov or Dec? I would have loved someone to help me go out with the boys at that time!! They liked to go out, but were crawling and hated to sit still for more than a couple minutes.
 

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There's not much you can do about sizing - no one can predict that. I'd buy whatever you buy at a store with a good return policy, make sure she has the gift receipt, and hope that works out. I don't love the idea of giving her an IOU or going shopping with her - at that stage I wouldn't have been able to do it and it's really nice to get an actual gift and have the fun of unwrapping it.<br><br>
As far as matching/coordinating, I like both. My favorite is for them to have the same outfit in different colors or prints, or maybe the same pants with a different top. But a lot of people buy us exactly matching stuff, and that's fine, too.
 

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okay thanks..<br><br>
I think she's due end of July, so If I buy winter outfits, I figured 6/9mths.. I'm going to get them from Carter's, as they are having sales that are crazy good.<br><br>
**I've found outfits for my new ds2, for $3.19.. I know Carter's takes everything back, with out an expiration..<br><br>
They live about 3hrs from her, and my friend (grandma) is coming down to visit, and I know she's getting my ds1 a belated b-day gift, so i don't want her leaving empty handied..<br><br>
I figured to get them about 2 outfits each, that are the same style/design, but vary in color and print..<br><br>
thanks again, for letting me lurk<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I think the preference to match or not match clothing is just personal. Maybe you could ask your friend how she feels about it?
 

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I would buy two of the same outfit, in different colors - in size 2T.<br><br>
She is going to get a lot of baby stuff, which they outgrow SO fast! But by the time the babies are a year or two old, Mom has to do all the shopping!<br><br>
Buying a larger size also helps ensure that the outfit will fit during its season, since it won't be outgrown so quickly.<br><br>
I never bought matching outfits for my identical boys, but we did use the ones we got as gifts. Usually I would buy the same outfit in different colors (so I didn't have to pick out so many things). Our boys looked enough alike that we color-coded their clothes - blue or black for Bryan; every other color for James (red was his favorite). It was easy to remember, and even people who hadn't seen them for a long time could remember the code and call them by the right name.<br><br>
I know a mother of twins who insisted on having her girls dressed a like at all times - to the extent that if one needed a change of clothes at day care, BOTH had to be changed!
 

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I second asking your friend how she feels about matching/coordinating. I'm expecting twins and know that I will probably make returns on any matching clothes we're given. I know lots of people think it's really cute to dress twins alike, but I'd prefer to encourage their individuality. Also we're expecting boy/girl twins and I really hate the blue/pink dichotomy.<br><br>
Your friend may love it--ask her.
 

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I would take her shopping or get her a gift card, personally. Almost all clothing that anyone has bought us has ended up not fitting. Either too big or too small. I also have a very particular style that most other people don't have. I can't stand when babies match for the most part.
 

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I'm the exception here, but I like having my girls match (or coordinate). Since they're fraternal and their faces/hair are different, it's fun to have their clothes coordinate. But as you can see, opinions differ with different moms. You should probably ask her.<br><br>
If it's a sale you won't be able to get later (so you want to go ahead and buy it), I'd probably do 3-6 months, but that's based on how my girls grew. My girls will be 9 months old this week, and they're just starting to have 6-9 months fit well. If it's not for Christmas (just general winter), I'd probably go with the 6-9 months, if you're in an area that's cold for January through March. My girls were 6 lbs. 10 oz. and 6 lbs. 12 oz., but they haven't grown super fast.<br><br>
Then again, if the sale is good enough, buy both sizes and wait until closer to give them to her--use the other for gifts to someone else later <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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