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Okay, I'll just copy my post that explains everything pretty much (see below). You all probably remember me because this pregnancy was super short lived, but I also got pregnant our first month trying, so wowee, it's been a rollercoaster! I always knew it was too easy to last! Anyway, just wanted to say that I'll be around. I'm waiting to have a period to officially start a new cycle (I think my temps have been just random post-m/c, although I swear I've had fertile fluid the last few days. Doc says medically we can start trying after my next period (although we haven't ahem been NOT trying, because we were sad and sex is good and we missed sex!) Okay, here's my post:

Ugh, okay, I gotta let everyone know that my pregnancy ended about two weeks ago (I'm just going to copy this post in the different places I need to let people know and get it over with!). On July 11th I had heavy bleeding, and I was at the doctor all week, in and out to be examined and blood work done, etc., and the upshot is that the pregnancy just ended itself, and it was very straightforward and simple as these things go-- it was just like a normal period, and my OB (who I got to meet early, as it happened) checked and everything's all cleared out. I was INCREDIBLY sad that first week, and although I've managed to pull myself together pretty well, I still have bouts of sadness/crying. Which is why I'm online right now and not at church, because I don't feel like crying in public, by myself, which I would if I went. I was just starting to let myself believe that I was pregnanct and start planning and working on things, and it's difficult to take those feeling back, to revise the envisioned future you've been having. I kept picturing being able to announce it when I return to school (work) in the fall (actually, I have found that I am telling everyone about the miscarriage. I didn't tell about the pregnancy because I didn't want to have to untell, but telling about m/c after the fact doesn't seem so bad; in fact, I don't think I could function w/o people knowing what's been going on, it's so huge). SIGH. Like I said, it was just like a period, not even much cramping, to be honest, so I'm hoping that I have another period very soon so we can start trying again. I'll still totally be around the pregnancy board, but I'll also be in the TTC area again, too. I know a lot of you mamas have been through this, and I know it's very common and I'll probably have a very happy and full pregnancy very soon!
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss mama
 

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I think you are doing the right thing by telling people about what you have been through. It is a major event in your life and not something to be hidden. That little baby exhisted and you are honoring your forever love for that baby by sharing what you have been through. I lost my first pregnancy at 7 weeks and it is the hardest event I have ever lived through in my life. No one knew I was pregnant. When I conceived again (1st try after m/c - you are very fertile then!!!) I hid that pregnancy too for 15-20 weeks out of fear of m/c again (very high risk pregnancy for me). But... what I found myself doing was telling EVERYONE about that little baby when I told them I was pregnant. I didn't want that pregnancy to go unnoticed, as if it never exhisted. It made me feel so much better expressing how I felt. I wish you the best in your new conception journey! We are all here for you!
 

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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's not an easy thing to endure, and it sounds like you're really listening to yourself about what you need. That's absolutely the best thing you can do for yourself. I hope that the rest of your ttc journey is short and peaceful.
 
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