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I am accepting all prayers and sticky vibes.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
There's not much blood, so I'm hopeful, but it still stinks, yk?
 

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I'm sure you know that LOTS of women spot early in their pregnancies and go on to have perfectly healthy babies. But I know I'd be worried too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Are you going to see your OB/midwife about it?
 

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Yes, I know it can be normal to spot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I've bled in all 3 of my pregnancies. One resulted in my beautiful dd, the other in a m/c, and now this. I read online that 50% of women who bleed in early pregnancy go on to have healthy pregnancies. So I guess I have a 50/50 chance. I'm just not in a very good mind space since my m/c was about 4.5 months ago. Last time, I assumed everything was okay until I started cramping. Now, I'm assuming the worst. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I don't have a midwife or doctor since I just moved 3 months ago to a new country. I don't have insurance. I also don't have money, so I won't be going to see anyone until I have signs of something worse than the usual m/c (tubal, for example). There's nothing they can do anyway. In both my previous pregnancies, they just said to wait and to call if I was soaking more than one large pad per hour. I'd rather not be humiliated for no reason. Last time, I went to the ER, and I was examined by a male doc while blood was caked on my thighs. Then he tells me I'm a "threatened m/c" while he poked around inside. Of course, he couldn't do anything about it. This was in Japan, and I had to have my friend translate for me. I felt like a child, even though the doc was perfectly nice. Why bother? If I am going to miscarry, I'd rather do so in the privacy of my own home than deal with all that.<br><br>
Anyway, I'm not trying to vent at you famousmockngbrd. I'm just sad and blabbering on. Thanks for all your prayers.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sticky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sticky"><br><br>
I'll share what I've learn in my Birth Attendant class <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Small amount of brownish blood are not treatening - they are not painful and really light. They can be caused by sex, internal exam, constipation, sports or by lifting heavy things. It probably come from the cervix.<br><br>
What I suggest is:<br>
- take care of yourself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
- talk to your baby : tell him that he's free to go if it's what he want, that you love him very much I wish he will stay but that you'll respect his choice if he's not ready. (you can do that with your DP - putting your 4 hands on your belly)<br><br>
I know how it's hard, I've had an MC and the next pregnancy was stressful! But as you said, there is not much we can do. By speaking to your baby and expressing your desire and your respect of his freedom, it can be more peaceful. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s Binah, I hope everything stays put and that blood stops.<br><br>
~Kailia
 

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Binah just wanted to post some extra <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> and support here for you. it sounds like it may just be a common thing for you during pg. I agree you and your partner should try talking to your baby. anyway I am sending you positive vibes. I can't imagine what you are going through right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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My heart goes out to you. I am adding you to my prayers today and sending you all kinds of good vibes and sticky dust.<br><br>
Take care of yourself.
 

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Hey Binah - no worries about venting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I am so sorry you had such a humiliating experience with that doctor in Japan. Why do some doctors treat people like they are used cars? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: We do have feelings, ya know, it's not like you are back in anatomy class, buddy!<br><br>
I hope you and the baby are well. I'm sending you all the positive energy I can muster.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sticky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sticky">
 

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How are you feeling? I hope it went away! Sending sticky vibes your way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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It stopped, but now it's back a bit. It's not really bleeding. There are just dark bits there when I wipe. Sometimes there is a bit of brown on the tp, but usually it's just the dark bits. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br><br>
Thanks for thinking of me. It means a lot.<br><br>
I will try to communicate with the babe. I don't know why, but usually don't feel any "vibes" from the baby until after 7 weeks pregnancy. I am just over 6 weeks now. I will try to find a quiet time to do this anyway.<br><br>
I'm feeling calmer. I have no cramps or anything, so that is a good sign.<br><br><br><br>
Re: my doc experience with the last m/c<br>
The doc really was pretty nice, but he did rather annoy me when told me he wasn't sure if my baby was dead. They did a vaginal us, and said either my baby could be dead (no heartbeat), or I was 1 month less far along than I thought (around 5 weeks LMP rather than the 9 weeks LMP I knew I was). I told them, "I know the baby is dead because I got a positive pregnancy test over one month ago. Even if I am wrong about the O date I got while charting, it is impossible to get a positive pregnancy test before conception (duh!). I know I am far enough along to see the heartbeat, so I know that the baby is dead." I know he just didn't want to tell me that, "Yes, your baby is dead," when there was any chance he was wrong. (The fetal pole has to be over a certain length before they will dx fetal demise, because under that length it could be that it is too early to see the heartbeat, and my baby was just under that length, so he probably died fairly early in the pregnancy.) I guess ER experiences just aren't usually the best encounters one has with the medical profession. It wasn't even in a regular office, just in the labyrinth of curtains that they call the ER. Interesting cultural tidbit: In Japan, there is this curtain over the gynecological examination tables that goes over the woman's midsection. I wonder if people actually like to use it. If it is used, the woman cannot see what is happening while the doc is examining her. I went to another hospital the next day (not the ER) after I had had the m/c and they wanted to examine me again. They told me to undress and get onto the exam chair, but the "midsection" curtain was closed. So I opened the curtain. I had a towel to cover myself with, but I didn't want anyone looking at my butt or my hairy legs without me being able to look back, yk? I think the nurse though it was strange that I yanked open the curtain and she tried to close it again. It's weird, to me anyway! Can you imagine having your upper half on one side of a curtain and your naked lower half on the other? I wasn't having a c-sec (this isn't a "sterile field" or anything, lol), thank G-d, so I found it disturbing. I told the nurse I wanted it open, so she gestured "Okay." They had the same curtain in the ER. I think they asked me if I wanted it open or closed while they did the exam. I said I wanted it open. Interesting...
 

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When I had the blighted ovum last December, I was dumb enough to do to the local ER just because of light spotting to get it checked out. I was also in CA visiting my folks. What a nightmare- the long wait, and then this awful terrible male nurse that called me "babe" and "honey" and "spread your legs, honey, and we'll stick that catheter right in there!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Had I insisted on a female nurse, the wait would have been even longer, and I had already been there three hours WITH dd and my mom.<br><br>
Sorry about your experience, too. I really hope all goes well- when are you seeing a midwife or doctor?
 

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Binah,<br>
I know how disconcerting any amount of blood can be during pg. I spotted a couple of weeks ago. It stopped, but I am left with the lingering concern of what if. I will keep you in prayers. Just know you are not going through this alone.<br><br>
Peace~~~<br><br>
Hilary
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When I had the blighted ovum last December, I was dumb enough to do to the local ER just because of light spotting to get it checked out. I was also in CA visiting my folks. What a nightmare- the long wait, and then this awful terrible male nurse that called me "babe" and "honey" and "spread your legs, honey, and we'll stick that catheter right in there!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Had I insisted on a female nurse, the wait would have been even longer, and I had already been there three hours WITH dd and my mom.<br><br>
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Sound like you had a horrible ER experience, too. A catheter? <shudder> I'm sorry you had to go through that.<br><br>
I hope I won't be seeing a dr or midwife anytime soon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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B.Y. ~ uggh... dark is usually okay though, hang in there mama.<br>
sending very sticky vibes now ~*~*~* & a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Binah,<br>
Sending you the stickiest, healthiest vibes from Wisconsin, US....<br><br>
Hope you continue to feel well, and at peace.<br><br>
-Kim
 

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binah I'm so glad to hear the bleeding is subsiding. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I was glad to read your bleeding was less. HOw are you feeling?
 
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