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Ds is almost 9 months old and he normally only wakes 2x a night. I can handle that. However, lately he's been waking every hour and I am so tired I feel like I can't function most days. I have a near 4 year old and a 2.5 year old who need me during the day and I feel like I have nothing to give them. I haven't been a good mom, I have been yelling and short on patience. I'm just so tired and I've been having lots of headaches which I know is related to not getting enough sleep. I also do daycare so napping during the day isn't an option.<br><br>
I don't know what to do. I'm not sure why ds has started waking more at night. It doesn't seem like a growth spurt because he's not eating more during the day. He doesn't eat much solids and nurses every 3ish hours. I've tried nursing him more frequently during the day to see if it would help at night but it hasn't. I suppose he could be teething but both my other kids didn't get teeth until 11 months and he isn't showing any signs. He doesn't seem fussy like he's teething either.<br><br>
I'm exhausted and dh says I need to let ds cry because he can see I'm worn down. I have to admit it's crossed my mind when he's up for the 8th time at night and all I want is sleep, for him and me. I don't want to let him cry though, I just want sleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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can't help as i'm rapidly going in the same direction.<br><br>
are you guys cosleeping? that might help.<br><br>
i'm told it gets better, so i can pass that on to you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Is there any way you can hire an extra assistant for the daycare, temporarily, so you can take an hour "lunch" (nap) break? I realize it would take a while to find someone, but even if it takes a month, I'm sure you'll still be grateful for a nap in a month.
 

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it is so hard, what you are doing. i've been there twice myself, and sometimes it feels like running a marathon through quicksand. i just want to offer two things. one is a reminder that nine months is an age of huge developmental strides. it's all coming together--- crawling, standing, some early pre-verbal cognition, not to mention the whole teething nightmare. this phase will pass and it will feel manageable once again. of course, the whole cylcle will likely repeat itself several more times in the next few years, as you know, so that brings me to the next point i wanted to make, well, sort of. my doc, who is a well-known advocate for nursing and co-sleeping, dr. gordon, has relaxed his stance a bit saying that, if it is a question of the health of the mother and/or the whole family, ten months is perfectly reasonable a point to begin modifying sleep. i believe it's easier at that point than at, say, 18 mos., but that's just my experience with my own kids. every child is diff., as we always say here at mdc.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> i'm still up all night with my two yr. old but have decided to night wean when he's over his current cold. i'll probably post about that here! i do remember from my first that night weaning is not the cure all for night waking, unfortunately.<br>
anyway, no matter what you decide, you've done a great job so far and your son will forever enjoy the benefits of your sensitive night time parenting. good luck!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am really sorry... I don't have an answer for you, because I am sleep deprived as hell to the point of where I hate my life so much, it's just so hard! (I really don't hate my life but when I am F-ing exhausted to the point of feeling crazy, I really do...) I have a 2.5 year old and an almost 3 month old so I can't nap during the day either. About the only thing that helps is to just cut corners where you can, let stuff go that you can let go, and get out of the house alone when you get the chance. Nine months is a hard time, I remember that... DS has always been a terrible sleeper until recently (sorry) and although DD sleeps better than he does, she's not what I'd call a great sleeper either.<br><br>
I'm sorry I don't have more suggestions but I couldn't read this and not respond... it seems like it doesn't take much for me to get burned out and I know how hard that is!
 

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I'm burnt out too and I only have one...so I feel as if I have no right to complain. My son is just so high maintanence. Here it is Mother's Day and all I wanted was for DH and him to get out of the house...he is walking with him in the MT right now as we speak and I'm supposed to be sleeping but my mind won't settle down. My son doesn't sleep at all...3 20 min naps if I am lucky during the day and he is up constantly every night...He is on meds for reflux but I think he is teething too as he woke up screaming last night every 1.5 hrs and not gas screams...this morning both his top and bottom lips were all peeled b/c of him sucking them in as he moans...I tried tylenol yesterday and didn't see much help and tried motrin today and not much difference either...and feel so much guilt with all these drugs...<br><br>
Big hugs to you!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Man, I went through this big time 8-9 months, he is now 10 mos. and going back to 2x a night waking up. I thought i would go nuts and it would never end, it did, I hope it does for you as well.<br><br>
we did eliminate dairy and that really seemed to help, but who knows...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Man, I went through this big time 8-9 months, he is now 10 mos. and going back to 2x a night waking up. I thought i would go nuts and it would never end, it did, I hope it does for you as well.<br><br>
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I've thought about this. I'm really willing to do anything to get more sleep! Thanks ladies!
 

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I'm so glad I've run across this thread so that i can feel i'm not the only one. My DS is 8 1/2 months old and is waking up constantly at night too. We weren't co-sleeping because DS seemed fine in his crib at night but we are co-sleeping now...the only way i can survive the nights! We even went and bought a bigger bed today in an attempt to make things somewhat easier. Buuuttt...Someone mentioned they eliminated dairy. Is that from the mom's diet? And why would that help with night time sleeping? Thanks!
 

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I think it could be due to (1) teething and/or (2) a new skill learned or about to be learned (like crawling). That age, IMO, is typical for frequent nightwakings because children are on the verge of some big leaps in development.<br><br>
In either case, from what I know, I think it will get back to normal. IME, children who sleep "well" (not very needy at night) tend to stay that way in general, though they may go through phases where it is disrupted. Parents usually don't have to change routines for things to get back to normal-- only time is needed.
 

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My son did that around that age. He never was much of a sleeper, but sleep would always go right out the window whenever he was approaching a milestone. He started crawling around 9 months of age and no one slept a wink for over a week. I was hollow-eyed, miserable, and ready to drive off a cliff. It did pass with time and he got much better.<br><br>
Whenever I go through rough sleep periods I just chant to myself<br><br>
this too shall pass<br><br>
over and over and over and over. I did get a lot of strange looks when DS was a baby. Guess I should have done that chanting in my head. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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