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My 5.5 yo has been an absolute nightmare with the bathroom.He INSISTS on privacy in the bathroom when has to poop. I go through the checklist with him when he comes out. Sometimes he lies and I know it and I make him wash his hands. Well, he just told me that he doesn't wipe with toilet paper, he uses his finger and that he really doesn't wash his hands. I've seen poop on the seat, on the towel, on the cabinet doors and I ask how it got there, etc. I have told him over and over that we wash our hands to stay healthy, so we don't get sick, so we don't spread germs and this time I went so far as to tell him that people can get so sick that they have to go to the hospital and that some have even died. Because they have and he doesn't seem to get how important it is to wash.<br>
I am exascerbated! I know that isn't spelled right. Because I know 3 yo who don't have a problem with it. They wipe, they wash their hands, done. I asked why he doesn't use tp, I don't really know. I'm asking to see if he has sensory issues. To try and soleve the problem. I don't know what to do other than sit there with him. Which will inevitably turn into a power struggle.<br>
Did I overreact. Did I say too much. I don't know. I don't want to freak him out, but I want him to wash his freakin' hands. I don't want everybody drying their hands on a poopy towel.<br>
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Maybe hang up a hand-drying towel just for him?<br><br>
What about buying some wet wipes to use instead of toilet paper? They're more comfy for kids (and adults). You can buy flushable ones, or you could make your own reusable ones with cheapo but soft wash clothes and water.
 

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Ditto on the flushable wipes. I started using them when my oldest (age 5) potty-learned and now the whole family is hooked on them, LOL.<br><br>
Would he be more receptive to his father helping him figure some things out? Maybe he'd feel less uncomfortable having him in there since he's the same gender?
 

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well maybe i am a big meanie but to me that is a health issue that totally needs some intervention NOW! i would just tell him that since it was clear to anyone who may use the bathroom after him (poo on towels, the seat etc) that he wasn't yet able to "do it himself" then he'd have to let his dad (or you, assuming dh isn't always on call for this sort of thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">) help him. any amount of protest would fall on deaf ears if this were my situation. sorry mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> i cann't even imagine how frustrated this must make you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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