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Sounds silly doesn't it. But I just can't relax. I feel all antsy and agitated. Now, if you were to come over you would go, "HUH?" b/c it sounds like I'm saying my house is perfect, and it is sooooooo not! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
It's just that if things aren't where they are supposed to be (relatively speaking, we still have toys everywhere and piles and such) and if the dishes aren't done and floors aren't sticky and stuff then I can't relax. Luckily, DH is the same way (actually he does way more cleaning than I do and I do more neatening/de-cluttering than he does).<br><br>
But I would love to be one of those people that says, "Our house is never clean and we just don't care!"<br><br>
*sigh*
 

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I just think about this quote:<br><br>
A clean house is a sign of a wasted life.<br><br>
Hehe!
 

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um, i'm jealous of people who keep a clean house - not even perfect, just basically picked up and cleanish. my house is messy, and i <i>do</i> care. my home is not relaxing, and i don't invite people over. i would die if something went wrong and we had to call a service person over (like plumbing or whatever) on short notice. lol, i guess that means i'm jealous of neat people <i>and</i> of people who are messy but don't care! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i guess that means i'm jealous of neat people <i>and</i> of people who are messy but don't care! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">!!!
 

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Ha, doubledutch, I'm right there with ya. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I've made a lot of progress today, though...
 

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I get very stressed out if my house is a mess and I see nothing wrong with that. It is a sign that you should clean your house. Your families life is happier and calmer in a clean, clutter free house. Why would you not want that? I can't understand why people don't keep their house clean. And I dont' me crazy lady clean, I just mean picked up and not to dirty and messy.
 

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I understand, I do know people who have messy houses all the time, and just don't care, they've expected it goes with having small DC and have moved on. I don't think I will ever be there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I really, really like a clean house, I don't even like to be in my house if it's not clean.
 

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I get unsettled if our house is untidy and will not be able to relax unless the mail is cleared off the kitchen island, or books/papers get cleared off the dining room table. We have what we call a "ten-minute tidy" that is right before bedtime (downstairs for the boys, upstairs for mama & papa) and that keeps the clutter in check.
 

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so my house is messy. I am too tired to clean as often as I did before I had children. I kept up when I had only had neurotypical children. Perhaps if we weren't homeschoolers and I got a 6 1/2 hour break a day I could clean my house?<br><br>
Please come over to my house and get your cleaning fit out! I would sit and drink herbal tea and admire your enthusiasm!<br><br>
Sincerely,<br>
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages 11, 10, 8, and 4 3/4
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I really, really like a clean house, I don't even like to be in my house if it's not clean.</div>
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OMG, this is SO me too! In fact, if my house is messy and DS is being too clingy to allow me to clean while he plays, I'll load him up and we'll spend the day at the mall or the park or the children's museum or a friend's house. I get depressed hanging out in my house if it's a mess.
 

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I really can't function if my house is dirty or cluttered. I can deal with a little bit of dirt (we do have three pets) and a tiny but of clutter (like a pile of mail on the side board) but really in order for me to focus, I need things to be clean and orderly. I work from home so I usually start every morning with picking up, washing the dishes, vacuuming and running the swiffer duster thing. Then I can sit down and work without feeling "trapped" by the messes. I was the same way in college. I would always clean the house before starting a big project or paper.<br><br>
That said, thats just how I am. I don't hold that expectation for others and don't judge people with messy houses. Although extremely dirty houses are hard for me to be in. It seems to me people with a lot of children or young children tend to have cluttered houses but not necessarily dirty.
 

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I am jealous of people with beautiful clean, uncluttered, decorated houses.
 

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I think why i care is that I tend to feel overly judged by people who are neat-nicks when they come to my house and see a messy house.<br><br>
I tend to clean for guests! My house is generally tidy, I do the routine stuff on a daily basis.<br><br>
I wish I could afford to pay someone to clean!
 

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I would love it if I could just let go and have people over even if its messy. I never have anyone over because my place is so cramped and small.<br><br>
I miss my old house. When you came in all you could see was the living room so I only felt the need to keep that room really really clean and I could stress a lot less about the other rooms because if UPS or a friend dropped by they couldn't see it!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just think about this quote:<br><br>
A clean house is a sign of a wasted life.<br><br>
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I used to live by that too! But as I've gotten older, I realize my mind is calmed by discarding the clutter around me. Things don't have to be pristine by any means (and they certainly are not around here!) But there has to be some degree of order or I find myself tense and irritable.<br><br>
I also find that the process of cleaning, even the most elementary tasks, is very positive, too. I do not deep clean very often; there are always mountains of laundry to climb and this house is very dusty, but if I can take a few minutes to at least organize the chaos and load the DW, I can face the day much with a much more positive outlook because I now realize that I've organized my thoughts, as well.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think why i care is that I tend to feel overly judged by people who are neat-nicks when they come to my house and see a messy house.<br><br>
I tend to clean for guests! My house is generally tidy, I do the routine stuff on a daily basis.<br><br>
I wish I could afford to pay someone to clean!</div>
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See, I am a neat-nick and I get very stressed about the state of my own home - but I seriously don't care about anyone else's home! Its weird. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Ditto this.<br><br>
And the previous poster...I find cleaning my house to be refreshing to me.<br><br>
Now...I don't want to clean YOUR house...but my house, my stuff...I enjoy looking at it and dusting it and just being there.<br><br>
When I'm over at someone's house and it is a disaster...I can't relax. A few crumbs on the floor, okay...but if there is clutter everywhere...I start to get nervous. I'm embarrassed for them -- like I'm seeing things that I'm not supposed to.
 

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But I would love to be one of those people that says, "Our house is never clean and we just don't care!"<br><br><br><br>
I wish that was us! Its not really me that has a problem with it its my husband! sigh So we try to have it all picked up before he comes home.
 

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I feel the same way!!! I come from a family of neatfreaks. We all like to say that we don't have housepride, but everyone is very tidy. I am not, however, uncomfortable by other peoples messy houses. I think cluttered homes can be cozy if decorated right. For my own personal space it has to be clean, sterile, and simplistic. I often feel like just throwing away all my posessions.<br><br>
I feel like I spend a lot of time cleaning but I also feel sane when I'm doing it and afterwards. I like mindless chores! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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