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Please mamas, help me. Tell me how I'm going to get through this. On top of all the other burdens 2008 brought, we are now being forced to sell our home.<br><br>
DH lost his project management job months ago. He applied everywhere. He hooked up with all his contacts. He spent $$ on new training programs. Then unemployment insurance ran out. He started applying for much lesser jobs. No bites. He spent $ on a consultant to re-do his resume. Our savings ran dry and we started dipping into our line-of-credit. We must sell our home now.<br><br>
Our house isn't a mansion, but the mortgage is big (we didn't have much of a downpayment when we moved in). I know it doesn't matter at this point, but I <span style="text-decoration:underline;">love</span> my home. Ahhh, I just love it and I love the neighborhood. We bought it years ago for a good price and we couldn't afford to buy another house here now. We should make some $$ on the house (IF anyone buys it...the market is just awful here), but that will have to go towards paying off debt (our line-of-credit, our car loan for the car that we had to sell at a big loss in desperation).<br><br>
DH is applying for jobs everywhere. We are totally willing to move (although I wish like hell we didn't have to...our friends and family *read: support* are here). But NOBODY is hiring it seems. He'll even take 2 or 3 minimum wage jobs if he has to (which is ironic...going from making $100,000 to minimum wage), but (a) that still won't pay our mortage so we still have to leave, and (b) nobody will hire him!! They don't want former managerial staff pumping gas or delivering pizza it seems.<br><br>
I am, in a word, <b>terrified</b>. Out of my freaking mind scared. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> This certainly wasn't in the plans when I was mapping my life out. And we have a little one. I cannot believe this is <i>my life</i>. The shame is awful when people look at you like you have two heads when they find out you are in this mess. Nobody can help us. Nobody can help him get a job. I want to scream...we worked sooo hard on this house and now we are going to have to sell it at a lot less than we should to somebody who won't even likely appreciate it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> My child cries because she doesn't want to leave her bedroom. I know it sounds trivial, but it is traumatic.<br><br>
DH and I don't know what to do. I have a portable work-from-home job (doesn't pay much though). Neither of our parents have any room for us. I can't afford an apartment on my salary. If nobody will hire him, we are so screwed. We have a little bit of $ in retirement savings, but that will go quickly. I feel like barfing.
 

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My gosh mama I could not read and not respond <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't know what to say but your family will be in my prayers (if that is okay with you).<br><br>
Last year at this time we were in dire straits as well. We didn't have a home to lose, but we were nearly homeless if not for the kindness of loved ones -- dh had lost his teaching position and was between jobs for about 2 months. It was the most stressful period of our lives together... but we did make it through and although things are still tight, we are doing so much better.<br><br>
Is there anything you can sell? A second car, jewelry you aren't emotionally attached to (gold is at a great price!!)...just to help in the short term, until dh finds a job?
 

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Thank you. Glad to hear you're doing better. We've sold almost everything "extra" (including our flat screen television and DH's laptop). He just sold the last of the stereo equipment tonight. All these people are getting such an excellent deal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> We are desperate so we tend to accept lower prices.
 

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I wish I had advice... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s.
 

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Good vibes being sent to you and your family!<br><br>
It's difficult trying to get a basic job if you are qualified for something at a much higher paying one.<br><br>
I have known people who have lied about their education and or qualifications to get a job - not saying they have more skills or education (which I think would be totally wrong and would backfire on you big time) but just not telling the potential company what their previous experience was or that they had a degree.
 

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no advice but i am so sorry that you're going through this - i couldn't imagine. Sending you some good vibes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/goodvibes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Goodvibes">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's difficult trying to get a basic job if you are qualified for something at a much higher paying one.<br><br>
I have known people who have lied about their education and or qualifications to get a job - not saying they have more skills or education (which I think would be totally wrong and would backfire on you big time) but just not telling the potential company what their previous experience was or that they had a degree.</div>
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Isn't that something? This is what so many people I know are doing. Folks with masters. Folks with big-name, Ivy league degrees. Claiming they only graduated high school. I'm about to include myself in that group.<br><br>
To the OP, I couldn't read without sending some positivity your way. I know the situation is really tough but you will pull through it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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i am so sorry you are going through this. I will add your family to my prayers.
 

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If you do end up having to move, do it sooner than later before all money is gone and you literally do become homeless.<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I couldn't read and not post. I hope things work out for the best for you all and soon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. You have nothing to be ashamed of -- there's only so much you can do to prevent stuff like this. I'll be thinking of you and your family.
 

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I am so sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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This is such a fear for me.<br><br>
dh hates his job and has applied for another. While I want him to move forward (and the salary on this one is better) I'm so worried that he will be the first to be let go since he will be the lowest on the totem pole.<br><br>
I hope that a miracle comes through for you.<br><br>
For now just take it a moment at a time and do the best you can.
 

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Sending positive vibes your way.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Oh, I am so very sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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