I'm making YOU uncomfortable????

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JayGee

Discussion Starter · Jun 24, 2004

Yesterday I hosted playgroup at my home. About 8 kids and 6 moms were here, the kids playing and eating while we all chatted. My 12-week-old DD got a little hungry so I just pulled up my shirt and latched her on. No big deal, we're all Moms right? This is my house, right? One of the Moms (a new one to the playgroup whom I had not met previously) looked very uncomfortable and started looking anywhere but at me. The conversation turned to BFing and she said that I was making her very uncomfortable by nursing in front of her ~ WTF????? Honestly, I just can't understand it. I can't wait until my DD is past "socially acceptable nursing age" and latches on at playgroup

. I just can't get my head around her thinking. Of course, I just kept nursing. What did she want me to do ~ to nurse the baby in my bedroom in my own home?! This society is so screwed up when it comes to breastfeeding.

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CerridwenLorelei

· #2 · Jun 24, 2004

advocating for others
and big mouthed. I am so sorry that you had to deal with that. I would have told her that my child had to eat and if she was that uncomfortable she was welcome to leave my house.
I cannot believe the nerve of some of the people I have read about lately doing this to people in their own homes.

((HUGS))))

TwinMom

· #3 · Jun 24, 2004

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What did you say to her? I would have offered her a blanket to put over her head so it wouldn't bother her. :LOL

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mthomas

· #4 · Jun 24, 2004

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Originally Posted by TwinMom
What did you say to her? I would have offered her a blanket to put over her head so it wouldn't bother her. :LOL

that is such a perfect response. especially if you say it in the same "normal, this is what you expect of a nursing mom" tone that people ask you to cover up in.

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Camellia

· #5 · Jun 24, 2004

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Originally Posted by TwinMom
What did you say to her? I would have offered her a blanket to put over her head so it wouldn't bother her. :LOL

OMG! That is *such* the perfect response. I'm not sure I would have the courage to use it properly

I would either laugh or sound *very* rude. But maybe that would be ok too. How rude of people to give nursing moms such a hard time about feeding their children.

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party_of_seven

· #6 · Jun 24, 2004

<---- that's all I can say.

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QueeTheBean

· #7 · Jun 24, 2004

Offended at seeing you nurse a 12 WEEK old baby?!?! Now, that's just kinda sad, really. I wonder why she was so uncomfortable?

wombat

· #8 · Jun 24, 2004

Gee, a comment like that would be offensive even if it was at that mom's home but in YOUR own home, she's got to be kidding. Did she expect you to leave your own room? Didn't she remember where the door was?

I think I would have started psychoanalysing her about why SHE felt uncomfortable seeing a 12w old baby feeding at a PLAYGROUP. What exactly did she expect?

RubyV

· #9 · Jun 24, 2004

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Originally Posted by wombat
Gee, a comment like that would be offensive even if it was at that mom's home but in YOUR own home, she's got to be kidding. Did she expect you to leave your own room? Didn't she remember where the door was?

I think I would have started psychoanalysing her about why SHE felt uncomfortable seeing a 12w old baby feeding at a PLAYGROUP. What exactly did she expect?

No shit. She can feel free not to return.

Seriously. What was so uncomfortable? Nursing babes are sooooo cute. Especially when they pull off and flash a milky gummy grin. Awwwwww

Meiri

· #10 · Jun 24, 2004

She prefers the sound of hungry baby cries?

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That's what I'd hope I'd've had the wit to ask after such a comment.

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Changed

· #11 · Jun 24, 2004

That's just ignorant! What the heck is there to be uncomfortable about? I'd have asked her to leave anyway. It would have made ME uncomfortable to nurse while being judged.

Jacob'smomma

· #12 · Jun 24, 2004

That is really ridiculous that a mother would be uncomfortable by another mother doing something naturally for the well being of her child. I am beginning to think that people that are uncomfortable are uncomfortable with themselves and their breasts. It is certainly not up to you to work that out for her.

Brookesmom

· #13 · Jun 24, 2004

And in your own home!

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Peppamint

· #14 · Jun 24, 2004

Wow, she has some major hang-ups!

I love blanket response- if I ever get the chance I will use it!

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Katie's Momma

· #15 · Jun 24, 2004

That is just plain sad.

You were making HER uncomfortable by feeding your child? Unbelievable. No wonder there are so many hangups in this society when another mother cannot even grip a newborn baby nursing.

ETA: I also like the 'blanket' response! hee hee

Tiacsophno

· #16 · Jun 24, 2004

I would have said, with an unapologetic smile, "You'll get over it".

Ravin

· #17 · Jun 24, 2004

Sheesh, even my infuriatingly unapologetically ff'ing by choice friend doesn't get uptight when I nurse my DD in front of her. Or at least she doesn't say anything, just as I zip it when she feeds her 2 wk old DD that, ahem, stuff.

JayGee

Discussion Starter · #18 · Jun 24, 2004

The weirdest thing is that this Mom breastfed her twins. Granted for only 6 weeks, but still...

We did end up talking about it a little and she said that breastfeeding has always weirded her out and that she's never been comfortable with it. She hated BFing her twins and now, pregnant with a singleton, is dreading nursing again.

Issues? Me thinks so

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soccerchic21

· #19 · Jun 24, 2004

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Originally Posted by Tiacsophno
I would have said, with an unapologetic smile, "You'll get over it".

:LOL good one!

I too can't believe she had the nerve to say that to you in your own house. What did the other moms do when she said that?

Colorful~Mama

· #20 · Jun 24, 2004

lol i love the blanket response...
am going to use it if it ever comes up

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