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So I have two finals tomorrow and dh has one. Please tell me I'm not a horrible mommy for letting my 2 year old have a movie afternoon. I feel like the world's worst parent because it's a gorgeous day outside, but DH and I really need to study. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It's times like this I wish my family was closer. *sigh*
 

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Your 2yo will love it. There will be many, many, many other gorgeous days when you can spend time outside, and sometimes you just really need to get something done. Don't beat yourself up over one movie day so you can get some studying in. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Movie/pajama day is always a big hit in our house. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. That does not make you a bad mommy.
 

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If that's bad, I don't want to be good. Sometimes you do what you have to do, even if it's not what you want to do. Good luck on your tests!
 

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Today I threw all the blankets, pillows, and stuffed animals on the living room floor in front of the TV. So I guess I am a bad mom, too, but the kids are having a good time and I needed the break! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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I agree with EVERYONE <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Movie day does not make you a bad mom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Actually, in our house, it would get you the "mom of the week" award <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">.<br><br>
Good luck on your finals - if it would help you feel better, you and DH could do a family fun day to make up for the evil movie day when all of your tests are done <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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It makes you a realistic mom. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Movie day can be a great treat when it's not everyday. Good luck on your finals!
 

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Thank you all! You've made me feel so much better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
No, you are not a bad mom, you are a mom who knows what you need to do. I am a student too, and also in the middle of finals, and if my MIL wasn't around all the time to watch DS, I don't know what I would do. I was alone for a few days with him and he probably spent more time in the exersaucer those few days than the rest of his life put together (5 months old).<br><br>
Best of luck!
 

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Hell, my kids had a "movie fall/winter". I was pregnant and I don't do well with pregnancy. I was also a student (still am). Bad combination. Now that Mommy's functional again, they don't understand why they can't sit in front of the TV all the time.
 

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You're definitely not a bad mom b/c then i would be guility too...i had to take my son to work today and he was thrilled that he got to watch cartoons all afternoon on the "Big Screen TV"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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not bad at all!<br><br>
if every day isnt movie day, thats great, right? some kids do that every day!<br><br>
and when i was depressed after my initial breakup with my ex husband, i did lots of movies. i felt guiilt but my ds is fine. i am back to movies a few times a week for my 5 yo, at most. and this feels good. but i have NO problem popping him onto a movie if i need to study and he has run out of things to play ( at this age he is pretty good at entertaining himself)<br><br>
he has learned, from my attitude, that TV and movies really are a last resort or treat for entertainment.<br><br>
if i am sick, and yes when i have finals next week, it wil def be movie time!
 

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Definitely not a bad mom! You are going to school and enduring finals to make life better for that child and if for finals week you have to throw in a few movies to get studying done, just know that your are doing it for a purpose. It's not like finals are something you really want to do!<br><br>
I feel really bad sometimes too. I don't seem to have time to do anything with my kids, but I know that once I have my degree life will be much better for all of us.
 

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I agree with all the pps. I think movie day, or some tv time here and there is perfectly fine, as long as you know what the kids are watching and it is not an every day thing. It does <i>not</i> make you a bad mommy, just a realistic one. As another poster said, you are going through this to ultimately improve your life for your kids - and showing them all that is possible as well. I SO admire you mamas who manage to go to school and AP at the same time. I just can't imagine what you all must go through.
 
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