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It's funny, no matter how often I read and respond with hugs to a post like this, it still feels very surreal to be the one posting.<br><br>
I had an appointment with my OB today for my first u/s. The baby had no heart beat and was measuring about a week behind -- I should be 8+ weeks today and the baby was measuring 7 weeks 2 days.<br><br>
It was clear to me right away that something was wrong. At first (when he did it over my belly), the sac looked empty. Then the OB switched to vaginal, and it just looked off. With both my sons, by 8 weeks, I could see a form -- they looked like little gummy bears. This was a very non-formed lump just laying at the bottom of the sac.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: Since I'm not bleeding yet, he wants me to come back on Sunday for another u/s. As he said, "I'm not ruling this out yet." But I am. It was so clear.<br><br>
I am a real mix of emotions right now, which I guess is normal. I really hope that I start bleeding on my own. If not, I guess I will schedule a D&C? I know there's a pill that will induce bleeding, too, right? But I wonder about taking that with nursing, plus I feel like I've read a lot of nightmare stories about that? I just don't know... if you've BTDT and can offer an advice or experience, I'd appreciate it.
 

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Oh, MaryJane, I'm so sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/candle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Candle"> Holding out hope for you. Perhaps your dates were off?<br><br>
I don't have any BTDT advice, but I send you support and love. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Hi, I've had to be the one posting twice and I know how upset you must be. I'm so sorry.<br><br>
and this might be more information then you want right now, but you can m/c naturally, have a d&c or take cytotec. With my last m/c my Dr. recommeded the cytotec because I live an hour and a half from a hospital. So I put ds at the sitters for the night and dh and I stayed in a hotel by the hospital. I inserted the cytotec at 7:00 pm, thought it was'nt working and went pee at around 10:00pm and the baby came out whole, still in the sac. It was totally painless. I know most women on MDC might lean twards totally natural, but since your not bleeding yet, I'd thought I'd tell you this option.<br>
Sorry if that was too much to think about I just wish I would have know that option when I got my d&c-1st mc .
 

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I'm so sorry, maryjane. So, so sad. I hope you can take some time to get through this and take care of yourself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Oh no, I'm so sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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oh no, I am so sorry.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
I've always m/ced naturally so I don't have any real advice. My midwife does recommend avoiding a D&C if at all possible.
 

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I'm so sorry.<br><br><br>
I've been through this myself, and waited to bleed naturally each time. I find it more healing that way. You can wait for it to happen naturally, it can take up to 2-4 weeks, just beware of signs of infection (fever), or bleeding through more than one pad in an hour.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi, I've had to be the one posting twice and I know how upset you must be. I'm so sorry.<br><br>
and this might be more information then you want right now, but you can m/c naturally, have a d&c or take cytotec. With my last m/c my Dr. recommeded the cytotec because I live an hour and a half from a hospital. So I put ds at the sitters for the night and dh and I stayed in a hotel by the hospital. I inserted the cytotec at 7:00 pm, thought it was'nt working and went pee at around 10:00pm and the baby came out whole, still in the sac. It was totally painless. I know most women on MDC might lean twards totally natural, but since your not bleeding yet, I'd thought I'd tell you this option.<br>
Sorry if that was too much to think about I just wish I would have know that option when I got my d&c-1st mc .</div>
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Thank you. It's not too early. I've very much thinking about 'what next'? Of course, my preference is to do this naturally, but since I'm still getting waves of nausea (how unfair!), I don't think my body has gotten it yet! I see a decision like this in my future, unfortunately. Thanks.
 

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Sorry for your loss. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<b><span>maryjane</span></b> - <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I am so sorry.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> to you Maryjane.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry.
 

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I am so sorry! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm so sorry.
 

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OOh, Hon.I really hope this transition can be a smooth,healing process for you.Especially while nursing.My heart goes out to you and your support group.I had a home mc and it was very healing for me.That was our time to bond.I know that baby's spirit was there for me, and I was there for her/him too.Hopefully you can have some time to ponder, and get a feeling of what would be healing for your mc'd one as well?That said.I see the comfort and peace that a d&c and medicinal help could bring too.I wish I was close enough to help in person.Blessings.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry for your loss.
 

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Oh I'm so sorry! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry for your loss. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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