[sweetpea333]

my dd 2was born 6 pounds 13 ounces, and wasnt gaining weight like my nurse practitioner wanted, i gave her vaccines until she was 6 months old and then figured out i didint want to do that anymore. DD seemed perfectly healthy and active, but tiny or "dainty", to me she seemed like she was growing because she was growing out of her clothes, and she's got a big pot belly but skinny little legs. I didnt bother taking her to the NP's office because i wasnt doing vaccines and dd never got sick I had no concerns, but to keep up with appearances, i took her in at 17 months for a weight check ect... and the nurse was angry with me when she weighed dd in at 18 pounds and questioned why i didnt bring her in, I told her I wasnt vaccinating and i didnt see the point when dd has no health problems and is an active little girl. She set up an appointment with a ped, and he said she looks healthy and everything and just to bring her back in 3 months to check and see if she still isnt gaining. Anyways the other day i weighed dd2 and she still weighed 18 pounds and i decided to also weigh my oldest whom is 33 months, and the scale said 24 lbs! she weighed that last year and i haven't taken her to the nurse since she was 18 months. but dd1 doesn't look skinny at all but she is short compared to other kids her age and wears size 3 clothes. The nurse told me to take her in for a check up when she turns 3, I'm terrified, if she was mad at me for dd2 not gaining she's going to be furious with me now, and what if she calls cps. I'm so scared <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I got nothing to hide my house is always immaculate, besides when they're playing with there toys, and the fridge is always stocked with food, Should i be worried??

 

[lilyka]

i wouldn't wory about CPS. i wouldn't worry about thier gain so long as they look healthy. 50% of the kids in the united states fall somewhere below the 50th percentile. This seems like a trend in your family for the children to be small. I dn't think 10 pounds at just over a year is all that terribly small either. on the small side to be sure but i think my kids were only about 21 pounds at that age. and they were plenty big.<br><br>
i would skip that nurse practitioner. If your Dr. seems mello I would speak with him and only him. or if youwould feel more comfortable start seeing someone else all togerther.

 

[trinity6232000]

I was in a very similar situation 4-5 years ago with my own dd. My dd has always been thin,<br>
she carries her weight like her dad. She eats like a horse, and is constantly on the move. I<br>
have never worried about her weight, but many times I got small lectures from well meaning<br>
relatives and the medical community on how dd should weight more. Ignore it. You know your<br>
child, and your child is healthy. Weight doesn't determine everything regarding health.<br><br>
I also didn't take my dd to every "well baby" visit. I did selective vaccination and if dd was<br>
seriously sick or injured I would have taken her to the Doctor. Listen to your heart, and don't<br>
worry about about CPS. Your a good Mama, and even if they were called, I can't see why they<br>
would look further into your family.

 

[Demeter9]

Keep a log of what they are eating if you are concerned. Write down what they ate, approximately how much and at what time.<br><br>
As another mom who has gotten the "we'd like her to weigh more" lecture -<br><br>
I laugh and tell them that my strapping 6'2" husband was 145# until he was 22 and my sister was also a string bean until into her 20s.<br><br>
Otherwise, I put butter in things they eat. Like melt some in her rice, and potatoes, in soup. I let them eat anytime they want. Yogurt and cheese and fruits and veggies are always available. I specifically buy high fat yogurts. I usually have hard boiled eggs for them to snack on. And nuts - almonds usually. I give them cod liver oil. I make my own bone broths, and I don't totally take out the fat for their portions. They get whole milk. They are only allowed one cup of apple juice/cider a day.<br><br>
My house is the anti-low-fat-high-sugar house. How many people go out of their way to find high calorie high fat nutrient dense foods today? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> A no-fat health nut would burst an artery just passing over my threshold.

 

[ThreeBeans]

Nothing you've said about your kids or what's been said to you makes me the least bit worried child protective services will be involved <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">