[kristin1924]

Why do I cry when yet another couple (the third couple actually) that we know just gave us the best news that they are pregnant???

Just needed to vent here. I don't know how to let it go, but I need to find a way. I am truly happy for all of them, but then there's my reactions.

 

[Manessa]

mama. I know exactly how you feel. Since I miscarried, I swear everyone I know is getting pregnant. Here we are, trying to ttc and grieving over our loss. I am really happy for them, and really sad for me. It's tough.

 

[marinak1977]

I can totally relate...

 

[Pinoikoi]

Sorry.

s: after our miscarriage in 2001, I couldn't look at anyone that was expecting or had a new one.. it was really tough..

 

[shakenbake]

im so sorry hun i felt the same way for 9 months everyone with there OPPS we where not trying but we got preg! makes me so sad when women like su ttc forever and it hurts so much i can tell you that we activly charted temped everything for 8months and nothing i deiced it was time to stop and if it happens it happens and if not its not ment to be BAM i am expecting i think it might sometimes be the stress that causes us not to take a deep breath hunny it will happen im going to give u Strong super sitcky baby vibes!!!!!!!

 

[Mrs_Lurker]

I also feel awful when my jealousy rears its ugly head, too. I don't doubt that you really are happy for them. I'm truly happy for my pregnant friends too. I just wish I were joining them, and well, it stings. For me, it's more that their annoucement reminds me that once again, I'm not pregnant, and someone else is. Whenever I hear a pregnancy annoucement, it starts me down that road again... why was it so easy the first time? Why, oh why can't I get pregnant now? What am I doing wrong? Will I ever see those two lines again? Am I a crappy mother and nature is making sure I don't screw up another child, etc. All kinds of nonsense goes through my mind upon hearing a pregnancy announcement, and I so wish it didn't. I don't want to be the girl my friends hide it from, becuase they think (or maybe even know) I can't handle hearing it. But some days, I really can't, and I think it's really, truly sad.

Honestly, I don't know how to let it go, either.

 

[Tear78]

They just seem like they're everywhere when you're hurting most. They deserve the joy and happiness, but so do we, and it's hard to be constantly reminded of what we want so much when we can't control it. I know this is how I feel, anyway.

Sorry, mama.

 

[bublegirl1]

I know exactly how you feel as well. When I was TTC my first son. It took a full year and I worked at the time. Well every month when AF would show up, I was devastated and then there would be someone getting pregnant in my office. The kicker was, they were all unmarried, 17-19 year old girls who were freaked out that they were PG. I just couldn't understand. Many tears were shed. I just wanted to say please hang in there and know that you have friends here who totally get it.

 

[SoCaliMommy]

I so know how you feel

my good highschool friend is pg with #2 didn't have to try very hard since she had perfect 28day cycles.

my cousin just announced she's pg with #2 and she probably didn't even have to try at all

it took me almost 1 yr and 2 back to back m/c's to get pg with #2

now we've been ttc#3 for almost 2yrs and 3 chemical pg's

 

[gemgal053080]

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I am new to all this but I already ran into this myself this past weekend when a friend of mine that has been TTC for like two months let us know that she and her dh are expecting.

 

[*Aimee*]

Oh it's so hard I know! I remember after my miscarriage, a good good friend had a baby and I couldn't even hold it

I had been trying for almost a year and it just hurt so bad.

Right now every person I'm friends with (well okay, not everyone but most of them) are quiverfull. So, they are all having babies left and right and I want it so bad for myself!

It's so funny how we can be so happy for our friends yet so devastated by their good news at the same time.

 

[trumpcard]

I, too, can relate to this.

The worst for me right now is a cousin who is pregnant and constantly updating me on her frustrations about morning sickness and not having energy and feeling fat. I want to cry in despair and yet I know her feeling are valid too!

 

[Pinoikoi]

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Originally Posted by *Aimee* Right now every person I'm friends with (well okay, not everyone but most of them) are quiverfull. So, they are all having babies left and right and I want it so bad for myself!

Wow, where do you live, if I may ask?

 

[*Aimee*]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pinoikoi Wow, where do you live, if I may ask?

Idaho