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I don't know how to even explain this one. Dd takes medication daily. Because of the ongoing issue x and I have had with doctors, the only doctor we could get is 50 minutes away. (No one else wants us). Dd's medication is a controlled substance so there are many laws surrounding the med's. First, the doctor can not write more than one script in a month, second it can not be mailed or called in, must be picked up and brought directly to the pharmacist, and it can not be transferred via backpack or child through the school<br><br>
In the past I would give x his share of the meds for the weekends, and during the school year have the nurse give dd her meds at school. This was because I had strong distrust as to whether x would give dd the meds. X recently became demanding of receiving his share of the meds and dd not getting them at school. I would tell him, if you want them go to the school and get them. He got angry because he wanted me to give them to him. He would get upset with me because on the onset of his weekends he would want the pills and demand them and if I didn't produce them, he would be angry.<br><br>
So he than became angry with the doctor and told the doctor he wanted two scripts, one for each of us containing 15 pills each. The doctor told him he is not allowed to write two scripts. This upset x further. Finally x told the doctor he had a contract and he wanted me and him to sign this contract concerning the meds. The doctor said, I want a solution before the two of you come into my office next month.<br><br>
X's solution. We alternate months in ordering and picking up the script. We must have the script filled at the pharmacy next to the doctor. There must be two seperate bottles at the pharmacy and one will be left behind for the alternate party to pick up. I did not sign.<br><br>
Last month, x picks up the script, fills it whereever, and supplies me medication in the correct amount for the month. He used the school as a transfer agent, to which the school said "not again". This is my month. I tell x, I am calling in the script and where/when would he like the medication. He tells me I am to leave a bottle for him at the pharmacy. I tell him no. That is a stupid plan because the month is not split evenly 15/15 and I can not take both bottles, add medication from one, subtract it from another, hand it back to the pharmacist. They won't allow it. So tell me please how would you like to get your share of the med's. He refuses to communicate further. I call the doctor before I leave from work to let them know I'm on my way. They tell me x has already been there to get the script. Thank you... I"m annoyed because I almost made a 50 minute trip for nothing. But at least he saved me the gas. I shoot off an email and ask how I can get the med's. No answer. Next day I think about it and decide to call the pharmacy 50 minutes away. Sure enough they have the pills. Grrrrrr.<br><br>
I head up there and yep the script has been split and I have 15 pills for the month. I need 18. Long and the short............ what do I do with this latest nonsense. It kills me that yet another party has been brought into our stupidness. The pharmacist, the doctor, the school. Why do I always end up down this road? I hate it.... Any suggestions?
 

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Wow that sounds like a very difficult situation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> mama. I don't really know what to say except that is it that big of a deal to let him fill them every month and get him to drop off some with ds? It sounds like its a split custody kind of thing.
 

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No it's not a big deal. I had talked the doctor into making an acception for me back before this began and he mailed me the script, even though he isn't allowed to. But x screwed that up. The only frustration is having to drive 50 minutes every month, when why couldn't it be filled around here?<br><br>
Even more so, is the ongoing embarassment of all the stupid stuff x does and how everyone involved with us gets dragged into garbage. I really would prefer to remain anonymous and x keeps dragging us and our animosity into the forefront and more and more people don't want anything to do with us. I really hate that most of all. That is my primary complaint. I just don't like being a part of this. If he wants to be stupid enough to drive up there every month and pay for the full script, fine let him... it's not that at all.......
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I really dont even know what to say. I've been reading your story from the beginning and i'm so sorry it hasn't gotten any better.<br><br>
How is the custody situation overall? I know you were petitioning the courts before but I never heard an update.<br><br>
Again, i'm soo very sorry that you and your children are going thorugh this. I cant imagine how it feels <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I paid the retainer to my lawyer. I explained to her if we pursue custody again it has to be good. I explained if we go ahead and don't win sole custody, he will be like a crazy man. Nothing in his opinion is going to stop him. We took my son to Boston for testing, I hated it all the way. He wouldn't let me talk to ds the night before the testing and I hadn't seen or talked to him in four days. Ds was so nervous he had thrown up.<br><br>
We had gone in front of dd's CSE review meeting for her IEP. Out of the blue the principal showed up. He had never been to a review meeting before. He was angry and aggressive. He yelled at me about various points of her IEP. If dd's therapist hadnt been there advocating for dd, she would have lost her accomadations. Come to find out x had been talking to the principal.<br><br>
I am mortified around every turn. I am dragged into this muck and mire that I don't want to be in. We go to court next week to pursue his lack of payment for child care. He says I didn't pay on purpose because I want her in mediation. He will not consider braces for dc until I sit down in mediation. Last time I did he became so irate I left crying. I just am so lost....My attorney is being very careful in writing her petition because she knows she has to win.
 

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you don't think he could be taking them himself do you?<br><br>
Getting angry over not having access to it sounds weird, or is it all about control?
 

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You know I don't know. Dd came home last night and told me x didn't have her medication. She told me x hadn't given her meds in two days. When I got upset she quickly backtracked and told me she was mistaken. And wouldn't go there again......
 

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Playing this sort of game with something as important as medication for a child makes me.....GRRRR~~~<br><br>
For the time being (and because it's #1 important the child gets the medication) can you get the prescription and give him the ones she needs when she's with him?<br><br>
If you're going back to court, that's DEFINITELY something the judge needs to know (that he's skipping the doses). And it does sound a bit like he might be taking them himself at least part of the time, or maybe something else.<br><br>
Poor mama, poor baby.
 
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