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My sil has been on this self destructive path for many years now. Two years ago her son was beat to death by her boyfriend at the time. He was 14 months old. She was at work that day and she had no choice but to leave her son with him because she asked her dad (dh's stepdad) to watch him, and he wouldn't because he felt she needed to learn some kind of lesson. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
Well any way she kept on a really bad path of drinking and driving doing drugs and hanging out with the wrong crowd. It took two years before the guy was tried and found guilty. He was only got 10 years and work release. Not fair by a long shot. But she has been able to move on some now. She has one a settlement from suing him and is not looking to buy a house and put money into savings. She is working and has kept this job longer than any other job I've known her to have. The guy she is seeing now works hard and has a little girl.<br>
I'm just hoping she stays on this path and keeps up the good work. Her dad is in bad health and the rest of her family lives 10 hours away. She will always have us to fall back on to a point. I tried so many times to help her and she owes us so much money and she has always lied about most everything. I want to trust her but she will have to build that back up.<br><br>
She has gone through so much in her life and it is about time things start looking up for her.
 

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I can't imagine losing a child like that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm glad she's recovering.
 

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HUGE <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> 's to her! I would never be able to get my life back on track after that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I can tell you are a caring and supportive person. I would just give you the advice not to lend money you can not afford to loose.<br><br>
i hope things do keep going in a positive direction.<br><br>
It is very tragic and horrible what happened to your nephew.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/candle.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Candle">
 

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I used to keep a 5 on me when she lived with us. She would borrow it and then I would see she had money to "pay me back" with I'd take a 5 out of it and hold on to it for when she asked me for money for gas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I can't tell you how many times she has called me because she has ran out of gas on the side of the road.<br>
And she has mostly nickeled and dimed us.<br>
I was just relieved when he finally went to court after 2 years of her going once a month for it just to be pushed back another month. The whole time this was going on he got to walk the streets.
 

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I can't imagine losing one of my babies like that. What kind of "lesson" was her father trying to teach her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
It sounds like she's really able to move forward a bit! Also sounds like you're forgetting about the "nickle and dime" stuff- which is both proper and commendable. I truly wish the best for this mama- because IMO, she's always her son's mother.
 
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