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<p>Okay i'm getting really done with "when are you due?' questions. I know I have a large belly, but one i'm short i don't have a big torso, two this is my third baby and three March is not that far away!!!!!</p>
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<p>I get people who look at me and do the ooooh when I tell them march.</p>
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<p>Oh yea and my baby doens't have an eviction notice that i hand out once the ESTIMATED due date comes... I have two dates 10 days apart i'm not concerned with how many weks days or hours pregnant i am. I know the baby will come hopefully in March maybe febuary but I really hope the baby waits till after march 3rd casue I have my grandma coming into town to help out with the other kids. I can't be bother to know i'm so many weeks and so many days along I DON"T CARE!!!! i have a rough idea i know the baby will come. I know I have stuff to get ready and I know I have till mid feb to make sure that it actually done. No i'm not having a baby shower before the baby. if i have one it will be after the baby.. hopefully a few weeks after.</p>
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<p>No I do not know what the baby is, I still do not know what the baby is. No we are not finding out. Not we are not hopiing for a girl ( have two boys already) I'm hoping for a healthy baby. We didn't have another child to have a girl, we are having another baby to expand our family. Yes it is planned that our children are close together, No i'm not crazy, brave or whatever other descriptor word you want.</p>
<p>How do i feel??? um ... huge pregnant tired sick.</p>
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<p>Why do people ask so many questions? Why do people touch me?</p>
 
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<p>i'm getting the "you barely look pregnant" comments, which is annoying and unsettling. i think people should keep their body assessments to themselves. just because i'm pregnant doesn't make it suddenly acceptable for people to vocalize their evaluations of my body size and shape. it's very irritating.</p>
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<p>I don't mind belly touching at all, but size comments are always annoying. I hear you. I'm an average height but short-torsed and am HUGE with every pregnancy. My belly is snowmanesque and people generally don't have a problem pointing that out or asking if it's twins and gaping when I say I'm due in March. God forbid they ask where I'm delivering and I have to tell them 'at home'. <span><img alt="eyesroll.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/eyesroll.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>I hate size comments as well. Why do people think it's okay to comment on your body size and shape all of the sudden because you're pregnant? I don't really mind when people ask when I'm due, but I know that once my due date rolls around there are going to be a lot of obnoxious questions about when I'm going to finally have that baby. That's always the hardest part for me. </p>
 

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<p>It's such an interesting phenomenon, how pregnant women become almost "public property" when pregnant, isn't it?  I've been responding to everything in terms of months - more vague that way.  Yesterday I got asked about how much weight I've gained - I said about 18 lbs, how about you? LOL  I can only imagine how cranky I'll be once I'm huge and uncomfortable!</p>
 

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<p>Yep gotta love people and their comments!  Most people are blissfully unaware that each person is different and the way they go through pregnancy is vastly different.  I love the latest discussion I had went like this--- question- "how far along are you?" answer-"about 7 months"- question- "when are you due?" answer "end of March"- comment "but there are three months between now and then" answer- "yep that's how it works, I am approximately 28 weeks, and there are how many weeks in a month??" comment- "but pregnancy is only 9 months" answer- "actually there are 40 weeks in a "full term" pregnancy- if you do the math of 4 weeks per month, that equals 10 months...a lot of people have their baby in their ninth month of pregnancy, but not all of them". </p>
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<p>It's funny this time around I have been more vague about my due date- I know my mom must think I'm huge because she keeps making off the wall comments, like will you have a gestational diabetes testing. When I ask her why she would think to ask that she says she just thought it was around this time that you do something like that.  I feel different this time around, and I have gained over the last two appointments...but I'm measuring right on.  I think it's mostly because she only saw me at early preggo, 6 months, and due date last time, so seeing me transform is different to her.</p>
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<p>I was so mad at myself when a fellow co-worker was still working near the end of her pregnancy and I said "hey your still here"...her due date wasn't even for two weeks (I thought it had past)...then I heard person after person come by and say the same...kicking self in mouth...I suppose it's easy enough to make stupid comments even when you "know".</p>
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<p>Oh and my favorite is when people "project" their thoughts about pregnancy and what you should be feeling like on you.  I love the look on peoples faces when they comment "I bet your ready" and I say "Ready when he is"...they look shocked...heck this might be my last pregnancy and I'm enjoying every second of it.</p>
 

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 No i'm not crazy, brave or whatever other descriptor word you want.</div>
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<br><br><p>hahah so funny!! i hate this one. we have a blended family, my daughter.. my partner's son, and this baby will make 3. for some reason where we live, it almost seems like having TWO children is getting alittle reckless. but THREE??? The blank stares of confusion when we tell people this is our third.. its become really comical for us and as soon as the "when are you due" conversation begins i start saying to myself, "wait for it.... wait for it lol"</p>
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<p>the inlaws are really beginning to piss me off though. unfortunately my partner's parents (father/stepmother & mother) live within a 5 minutes radius and they're relentless with their opinions. we shouldn't cloth diaper, we shouldn't raise our child vegetarian, i should set aside any career/education aspirations i had before because this is 1952 and theres no way i can do it all.. its great that im having a homebirth but perhaps i should still have someone come over to teach me how to have this baby.. <span><img alt="banghead.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/banghead.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>i really do keep getting it more and more. but I know it'll be all fine in a few weeks. I'll have a baby and then i'll just be an extension of the baby, and everything will be about her.</p>
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<p>the thing i find most crazy in i have gained the least weight so far with this one and i'm bigger than previous. now it is sitting differnt and everything which i think makes a big difference</p>
 

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<p>I went into a yarn shop today to buy some needles I needed to finish a baby sweater.  I saw the owner, who I haven't seen in some months, and she was all sweet and friendly to me, but asked me, "When are you due?"  And when I told her March, but I don't think I'll make it that long, she looked at my belly for a moment and then said, "I don't think so either."</p>
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<p>Wow, thanks.  Glad I must look so huge already.</p>
 

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<p>I don't think I'm very large for 6 months, so I don't get many comments - which I don't mind, but I'm sure I might if I was getting comments like I see above.</p>
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<p>I do, however, mind belly patting - and if people are doing it without your consent - say something.  You can pat their belly, too, just to give them a taste - or make a comment telling them to back off.</p>
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<p>I have much more appreciation and am much more willing to let people rub my belly if they ASK first.  If they don't ask - no go, and they run a risk of being slapped by an angry pregnant woman whose patience level has plummeted - not that my patience level was ever very high.  lol</p>
 

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<p>great idea to pat them back- lol!</p>
 
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