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...so am I destined to have this child on the living room floor? :LOL<br><br>
Looking back on my last pregnancy, I feel that my going in too soon was one of the big reasons why I ended up with a c-section. They checked me and admitted me when I was only 3ish cm dialated, and immediatly broke my water. When my contractions "stopped" (the monitor wasn't picking them up), they hooked me up to pitocin to get things going again. One thing led to another, and 40ish hours later, I ended up in the operating room having my child removed from me.<br><br>
I'm so terrified of that happening again, that *sec, contraction*<br><br>
that I'm totally afraid to go to the hospital. I've been having contractions - painful ones - precisely 3 minutes apart for the better part of the day. They started out as uncomfortable, and have gradually become the contractions I remember from my first birth. In my pelvis and back, instead of across my belly. Also, either I pee'd myself, or my water broke about 5 hours ago. And I have no way of knowing which it was.<br><br>
Yet I still refuse to go in and get checked. :p It's driving DH nuts, because he's very uncomfortable with the idea of a homebirth (it scares the living daylights out of him). *contraction break*<br><br>
So how the heck do I know when to go in? At this point, I'm sure that if I went in, they'd just send me home. I can't walk through the contractions, but I can talk through them if I need to. Why am I so paranoid of being sent home? Why am I so paranoid that they'll take over and screw everything up if I walk into the hospital? Why can't I trust my body to tell me when I'm "really" in labour? I promised myself I'd never make a post like this, and certainly didn't think I'd need to with my second birth. But I just keep second guessing my judgement.<br><br>
Maybe I just need a nice bath. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
No real reason for this post. It's midnight and I can't sleep, because I'm having freaking contractions! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Hugs to you.<br>
Try these.<br><br><a href="http://parenting.ivillage.com/pregnancy/plabor/0,,9zzt,00.html?iv_arrivalSA=1&iv_cobrandRef=0&iv_arrival_freq=1&pba=adid=16722031" target="_blank">http://parenting.ivillage.com/pregna...=adid=16722031</a><br><br><a href="http://www.hencigoer.com/betterbirth/lit/#womanad" target="_blank">http://www.hencigoer.com/betterbirth/lit/#womanad</a><br><br>
A VERY small sample from Henci Goer's essential book, "The thinking woman's guide to a better birth."<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Women admitted to the hospital in early or prelabor may be more likely to have labor interventions.<br>
Researchers found that among 600 healthy, first-time mothers, women laboring slowly who arrived at the hospital earlier in labor were more likely to have a diagnosis of difficult delivery (12% versus 3%), oxytocin augmentation (45% versus 30%), instrumental delivery (14% versus 9%), and c-section (16% versus 4%) than women laboring slowly who came later in labor.30 For women making rapid progress, time of arrival made no difference. Protracted labor was the reason for cesarean in seven early comers but no late comers regardless of progress rate. Researchers in another study compared outcomes in 3,800 first-time mothers at four hospitals.50 Cesarean rates ranged from 12% to 20% (average: 16%), of which three-quarters were done for poor progress. Forty percent of all cesareans were done in early labor. The authors concluded that if doctors would stop doing cesareans before active phase labor and for poor progress in the absence of fetal distress, the average cesarean rate could be halved. A third study found that use of oxytocin to augment labor declined linearly from over three-quarters of women admitted at 1 centimeter dilation or less to less than 20% of women admitted at 5 centimeters dilation or more.11 Epidural use was also strongly and inversely associated with both dilation at admission and labor augmentation. The authors of a random assignment trial in first-time mothers noted that the cesarean rate for women admitted at less than 3 centimeters dilation was 10% versus one-tenth that percentage in women admitted at 3 centimeters dilation or more.10<br><br>
Two other studies have also reported that women who experience "false labor" are more likely to have oxytocin induction, augmentation, and cesarean section.4,51 Their authors concluded that women experiencing false labor were at high risk for dysfunctional labor. An equally plausible explanation is that impatience leads to a diagnosis of prolonged labor and inappropriate intervention, including cesarean section.<br><br>
Finally, a trial in which over 200 women with prelabor or early labor contractions were randomly assigned to hospital admission or to be sent home found that women who were sent home were less than half as likely to be given oxytocin.39 This study is especially important because random assignment ensures that the two groups are truly similar. While cesarean rates overall were not significantly different, meaning the difference was considered due to chance, one-quarter (2 of 8) of the cesareans were done for dysfunctional labor in the group sent home versus three-quarters (8 of 11) of the cesareans in the admitted group. This occurred despite the fact that 16% of women in the "admit" group actually got sent home, and most women had epidurals in both groups, factors that would tend to flatten out differences between them.</td>
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If it's really freaking out your husband so much I suppose you could go in and be checked and if you're not far enough along (in your opinion) you can refuse to be admitted... they can't hold you down and force you to stay... maybe just wander the hospital halls, or (depending on your area), go for a walk outside around the hospital with your husband... that way if things do speed up really fast you can get right back there quick (to appease your husband), but you won't be subjected to their time clock.
 

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Shower would be better than bath, probably... cleaner if you water has broken and standing is better for dilation than reclining. Keep in mind (and tell DH) that the strength and length of the contractions is more important than the length of time between them. (That is: '3 minutes apart' doesn't mean much. 'Strong contractions that are a minute or more in length' means now you're making some headway. Get it? Headway? Just a little labor humor for ya.) If you can still easily walk through the contractions and they aren't very long it is probably too early to go in.<br><br>
Take a shower and see if you can't relax enough to doze off. If you can you should... and you will be glad for the rest later.<br><br>
Have a great birth!
 

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How exciting!!!!<br>
As Amy said, if you go in and get checked, you do NOT have to be admitted if you don't want to be. And, you can refuse all of the stuff you mentioned before--you can refuse to have your water broken, you can refuse any sort of augmentation, just say no!<br><br>
Sending happy quick & easy labor vibes your way!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:
 

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Hope everything is going ok nikki!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I hope all went well! It was a while ago you posted! Hopefully you will be on soon with a wonderful birth story! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Hope I'm not to far behind you!
 

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Whoa, Nikki!! It sounds like you were definitely in a nice labor pattern last night. I'm not sure what time zone you are in but it's now about 13-16 hours later---I'm going to be thinking of you all day!<br><br>
I totally understand your fear about going in too soon--I did the same with my 2nd birth. I also went in way too soon for my first and ended up with pit and epi (no cesarean, though) so for my 2nd birth I stayed home until I was in a really nice pattern and got to the hospital at 6 cm which I was pretty proud of <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Anyway, I'm so excited for you and thinking that you could be holding your baby by now. I can't wait to hear from you.
 

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No baby. :p Contractions are still steadily 3 minutes apart, and stayed that way all night (I'm going on zero sleep right now.)<br><br>
They hurt, but they're still tolerable, so here I sit and wait. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Is there anything you can do to get some rest? My labor was like that with dd, I was so tired. I slept between contractions.
 

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Exciting! Good luck to you!<br><br>
Depending upon how far away the hospital is, I'd wait until I no longer feel like getting dressed for the hospital. If you can still think, "Hey, I'll slip on this dress..." Then it's not time. If your husband is pulling the dress over your head in an effort to not have your neighbors see you nude, then it might be time to go in.<br><br>
I agree with Kama'aina mama when she writes that the duration and intensity is way more important than how close together they are.<br><br>
Don't be surprised if your ctx seem to space out or become less intense with the arrival at the hospital. A change in venue can often create a different (less intense or productive) labor pattern. Just find a happy, safe place for birthing, once you reach the hospital and your labor should kick right back in.<br><br>
Also, get some rest. Active/transition labor is physically exhausting. You don't want to start from exhausted, you know?<br><br>
Have faith in your body! Have faith in your body! You can do it!<br><br>
Keep us posted.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Nikki.<br><br>
You've gotten some great advice--rest as much as you possibly can (I know, easier said than done).<br><br>
You are obviously strong because you are still at home so I know you can do this!!<br><br>
~~~~ strength & labor vibes ~~~~ being sent to you. Keep us posted if you feel like you can and want to.<br><br>
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Depending upon how far away the hospital is, I'd wait until I no longer feel like getting dressed for the hospital. If you can still think, "Hey, I'll slip on this dress..." Then it's not time. If your husband is pulling the dress over your head in an effort to not have your neighbors see you nude, then it might be time to go in.</td>
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I really like this advice!<br><br>
Nikki, I'm so excited for you--can't wait to hear about your little one!
 

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LOL! My Bradley teacher says, "If she's fixing her hair or putting on makeup, then it's too early to go to the hospital. If she's content to wear DH's old, torn bathrobe and a pair of flip flops, then it's probably time to go to the hospital."<br><br>
Sounds like you are doing a great job so far! Looking forward to your birth story!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/truedat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Truedat"> to what everyone else has said. Good luck, Nikki!
 
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