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Hello my pregnant friends, you are listening to a woman who has had enough !!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"> . I went to an OB because I couldn't find a MW in my area that is comfortable w/ VBAC. First thing out of this docs mouth is SECTION ! I ask why? Because you have had 2 sections ,thats why. So I politely let her know that I have been doing research and I don't fear rupture. I tell her that I am not opposed to section, IF it is a true emergency, but I now trust my body and feel very confident about birthing this baby naturally. Sooo, during my examination she orders for me to take a sugar test. I haven't had a problem with my sugar so I agreed. I had taken some other tests the friday before and she said everything looked great, that my blood pressure was 120/65, which for a large pregnant woman is great. So I took the sugar test and waited an hour. Then a nurse comes out and said I have Gestational diabetes and the OB wants me to sign up for section. WHAT?!!!!!!!! I left and went to a drugstore, got my own sugar test kit. I test in the morning, afternoon, and before bed. Morning reads 104, afternoon 114, bedtime 134.To my understanding this is ok, for a pregnant woman.I am a large mother and I am wondering if this is her problem.I have not been able to enjoy this pregnancy so far, for fear of what will my family and friends think( they think i'm nuts for wanting a HVBAC), then this OB telling me no one will let me VBAC. Forget it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"> ,ARRRRGGGGGG !!!! I have decided (even though I'm scared a little) to do it alone w/ hubby and 12 yo son. There I said it. Between my body and God I feel I can do this. I still have an appointment with this OB on the 8th of June. After that I will at least look for another OB to keep up prenatal care, but thats it. I am going to VA beach in a couple of weeks w/ a friend who is also preg. I'm hoping to reconcile with this pregnancy and start to connect with my baby( which feels like she is taking karate classes in the womb!).Any advice or love is most welcome.<br><br>
LOVE and PEACE, Angela <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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angela,<br>
nak but will pm you with the name of a CPM that is in your area.<br><br><br>
A trained mw is very aware of potential emergencies and has a plan to transport if need arises.<br><br>
Each birth has the right to make informed decisions and birth where they are comfortable.
 

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Let me point you in the direction of our resident specialists <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=306" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...play.php?f=306</a><br>
this is our unassisted birth forum. there are lots of resources there and in homebirth that i'm sure you'll find useful.<br>
PLEASE dont let people scare you out of something you honestly feel is right for you and your family. Get informed, know what youre doing, and choose what's best for you. There are alot of women out there who will tell you the horrors of their birth stories and how being at the hospital saved their lives and i'm not trying to invalidate their experience, BUT there are also tons of moms around the world who give birth at home every single day and have wonderful uplifting stories to tell you.<br>
Its kinda like me saying, oh i'm planning on driving 800 miles back home to visit my folks, and someone telling me, "OMG! I did that once and i had a horrible car accident!"<br><br>
Follow your instincts mama and like i said before, be informed....but not afraid. Lots of love and luck to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Wow, Angela.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> to you....<br><br>
I'm so sorry for your experience....my recollection is that youhave to prepare for the sugar test....aren't you supposed to not eat and such before you take it? Could that be why the ob's test came out like it did? Goodness....gaiamom had wise words, educate yourself. Have you found a doula yet?<br><br>
Much love and peace to you...<br>
Jennifer
 

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Angela,<br>
Your post hit a big nerve with me and I can SOOOOO relate. Here's my experience in a nutshell (more details upon request):<br><br>
Ds #1-- 36 hours labor, 4 hours pushing, baby was posterior--C-section<br><br>
Ds #2---attempted VBAC. water broke at pizza hut, 0-10 cm in 1 hour, didn't even make it to the right hospital. A-hole doctor on call at hospital. Ds's heart-rate went down- section<br><br>
DD #1---Found new practice closer to home, just in case. They said that they would schedule section and I wasn't "allowed" to labor. Gave tons of scare tactics. Section scheduled on Monday, went into labor on Friday. A different A-hole doc (one I refused in writing b/c I really didn't like him) was on and insisted that since he was the only one from the practice that he was doing a section and as I was being wheeled into the O.R. shoved a paper in my face about having my tubes tied <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Fortunately, I was astute enough to see what it was and didn't just sign it.<br><br>
Ds #3--Started with the same practice, but was much more educated. Doc said schedule a section and I said no, that I was going to give birth this time and not have my baby "taken" from me. Was dismissed from practice. Baby miscarried shortly after.<br><br>
DD#2--Interviewed MANY (midwife, family, and OB)practices. NO one would take me on because of my history. I started looking at my options and heard about an OB who might be willing to take me on. I ended up with my dream birth and I gotta tell you that it was TOTALLY worth it. I am healing from the trauma I sustained before and during my first 3 pregnancies and deliveries.<br><br>
Depending on why you had you had your sections, a homebirth may be totally feasable for you. Ina May Gaskin's books helped me tremendously before and during my vaginal delivery. There are many of us who VBAC after 1, 2 or even 3 sections. You can do it! I'm living proof.
 

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but if push comes to shove(I am pretty sure they do VBACs, as do I, ) I would suggest a UC. I have BTDT,and highly recommend it for motivated individuals such as yourself. As far as prenatal care goes, I would stop seeing the OB and either go to the CPM, or do it yourself. Virginia is one of the most surgery happy states in the country...most OBs tremble with fear when a client starts talking like that(VBAC) and there is no logical reason for it...wait a minute, yes there is...the VA Medical Society has screwed so many women unnecessarily for so long that no one trusts them anymore...hmmm. Oh well, it's the society's own fault. In VA, to do a VBAC, you generally have to find a CPM or UC, as the CNMs are prevented from doing VBACs by thier liscenture....email me if you like for more info. <a href="mailto:[email protected]">[email protected]</a>
 

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Awesome Cristi! You have really been thru the ringer! Congrats on your VBAC, but I am sorry it took so long...But better late than never! LOL. Makes me wonder how many women get plowed under with those tactics, and whose self images and relationships suffer as a result?
 
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