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I just posted about lack of insurance, but I'm worried about another 3000 things concerning this surprise pregnancy.<br><br>
My car is broken and we are going to need a new one b/c it's too small anyway. My dh has screw up grad school but still insists on going. Dh has been teaching on an emergency certificate and he hasn't followed through on the things he needs to do to get a permanent certificate, so it seems unlikely that he will be teaching this fall. He also works as a minister (that's kinda a weekend only job) so we will have some income. I stopped keeping kids last fall when he started teaching, so I'm not providing any income.<br><br>
I'm trying to figure out how to get my two little ones sleeping in their own spaces. DS is doing great with the toddler bed, and I'm talking to dd about sleeping in one too (after our vacation). Which fills our bedroom up with toddler beds and we still have to add the cradle for the baby.<br><br>
I'm just feeling tight on money and space and totally intolerant of dh's procrastination and inability to commit to something and follow through with it successfully. I just don't know how we are going to do this.<br><br>
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Sending you lots of love my dear.<br>
Seems like everything has been up in the air for us too since I found I was pregnant. We live in SF and need to move home to Atlanta next month to be there with my mom who is fighting breast cancer and be there with my family. We have to come up with thousands of dollars we don't have to make the move cross country and find new jobs, new housing, new midwives-come up with more money for the homebirth, and new everything. Not the best time for us to start our lives over, but I KNOW change is always good, just super hard to get it started and moving.<br><br>
Cant' help but feel overwhelmed, and how is this all going to work out?<br>
Being hormonally emotional and super m/s doesn't help either.<br><br>
I know this doesn't make you feel better, but wanted you to know I feel your nervousness and wanted to send you love and support. I feel life can sometimes be hard and complicated and doesn't make sense why things happen at certain times. I'm sorry you are feeling some of this right now.. and sending you strength to rise on!!<br><br>
We'll make it happen, like we always do. Women and mama's are unstoppable.<br>
I hope everyday gives you a new secret, and may things unfold in a perfect way! hang in there!!!
 

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Oh mama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
Why is it that situations like this happen when we're sick and hormonal? I definitely understand where you're coming from and certainly hope it all works out.
 

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awww, im so sorry things are going rough for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/kiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="kiss"> maybe you could cosleep w/the new baby so you have one less thing to take up space in your rm? it'd be worth a try <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> hang in there~things have to get better sometime!
 

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Thanks all of you...I feel a little better. At least out of panic mode for now. But I was too upset to nap this afternoon and now I'm truly exhausted.<br><br>
Kbuglove, I hope that move works out easily for you guys and that your mom is successful in her fight against cancer. Thanks for helping me put things a little more in perspective.<br><br>
Moongypsy and Breesmama, thanks for the hugs. I think we will be cosleeping most of the time, but I need a safe place for the little one and I think the cradle will fit by the bed...it will render my nightstand useless, but that's okay.<br><br>
Dh reassured me that we can't loose anything...we own both vehicles, we neither own nor rent (we live in a parsonage and he's not at risk for loosing that job) I'm just overwhelmed and hormonal and emotional. He's still frustrating to deal with, but he is trying. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br>
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Hopefully you will be able to work things out. Being a completely anal SUPERPLANNER myself, it is hard to understand not planning every single minute detail and potentiality well in advance of making a decision, especially one as large as having a child, but if I have learned anything since becoming an adult, it is that things almost always work out. Sounds like you were just in a hormonal haze, lol, and I'm sure things will become clear as you continue to think about them. Best wishes!
 

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Crsta33-I don't know what to say except to send a hug. Things will work out-and in the meantime please feel free to get all hormonal and post here! These things are hard to deal with alone.
 

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And another hug from me. I know what it's like to have everything up in the air with a new baby on the way -- we're trying to transition from being in school to working (except, now DH just failed spanish, so he has to repeat it before he can get his diploma... where the money for that is coming from I do not know...), get jobs, get some sort of health insurance and move. It's craziness! And being pregnant makes it so much worse because the natural instinct is to preserve the status quo and make a safe place for baby. but I think panicing actually kind of helps... if you can get the freaking out out of the way, some times it's easier to take baby steps toward solutions -- which it sounds like you're doing, getting your little ones settled in their own spaces.<br><br>
Anyway, *hugs*.
 
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