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My son is 2 1/2 and we're expecting a baby in a few weeks. About a month ago "Butterfly" became a permanent member in our household. I hear my son talking to "Butterfly" while he plays (ie, 'Come on, Butterfly, let's play trains') and sometimes he'll include "Butterfly" in our conversations (is 'Butterfly coming in our truck too, mom?').<br><br>
So far we've just kind of ignored the whole thing, but I started wondering if it was normal. Anyone have this happen? Just looking to see if others had any suggestions, I'm sure it's something he'll grow out of, right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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It's very normal.<br><br>
I don't know what your religious/spiritual beliefs are, but many people believe kids actually see spirits or souls from the other side & that's who they play with. If you are okay with that, it's good to encourage it.<br><br>
If you don't believe that, just think of what a great creative side your child is expressing & what a wonderful thing to have an imagination.
 

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I think it is so funny that your ds talks to a butterfly! My ds went on forever about a crying bee. "Hi bee cry" "night night bee cry" etc. He would bring all our guests over to see the crying bee and would talk about it all the time. It passed in about 6 weeks and he hasn't mentioned it since. I guess whatever the reason for the crying bee was, it has been resolved? I guess we'll never know!<br><br>
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HI! I think its great to have imaginary friends personally as I am a former "friend" haver (is that a word?) For quite some time (2-5) I had 2 friends and I would take them everywhere, talk, play, etc. My mom never discouraged it and I turned out normal (well, somewhat but its not from having "air" friends!) Now my ds has a friend that he talks to - not sure on the name quite yet but he sure does talk a lot to him.... I think its great. It shows an active imagination.<br><br>
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Ahhh... a subject close to my heart. My screen name, Jillerina is in fact my childhood imaginary friend. She was a little girl that went with me wherever I went. My parents totally indulged my fantasy and Jillerina was part of the family for a period of time.<br><br>
My youngest sister also had imaginary friends - Popcorn and Jackeline.<br><br>
Anyway, all this to say that we turned out great after having had imaginary friends so I wouldn't worry about it at all! Enjoy your son's creativity!
 

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I recently posted about the same thing. Dd (also 2.5) has created an entire imaginary world. She goes to imaginary school where her imaginary teacher is Mrs. Beans and she frequently misses the imaginary bus and has to walk to school. Her imaginary best friend is Alice who is quite shy and doesn't speak very well yet so dd has to talk for Alice quite often. Sometimes Alice brings her little brother Argon with her and they all play together. We totally indulge the fantasy. We invite Alice on outings and often have her stay the night. She also plays with Norman, Thomas and Ester.<br><br>
When I was a little my friend was Gus. He often went with us to the grocery store and other places I had to be on my best behavior. He sometimes got me in trouble, but mostly kept me out of it.<br><br>
I recently read on a website about gifted chidren that they will frequently have imaginary friends and parents should encourage the imaginative play. It helps them develope their creativity. I wouldn't ignore it. It's way too much fun to play along. Unfortunately they do out grow it so enjoy it while it lasts.
 

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We've had lots of imaginary friends around here. My oldest had one for a while when she was 2/3 named Aia. My younger dd had several for many years. She had birthday parties for her main friend, Molly Kashaw. She'd eat dinner with us, etc. She was around until dd was 4/5. No longer though. They've both outgrown it.<br><br>
It's totally normal and rather than ignoring it you can actually learn a lot about your child. I used to ask all sorts of questions about their friends and they had fun telling me all about them.<br><br>
Cute name -Butterfly!
 

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Another vote for normal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> My two dds have entire imaginary families (another mom, dad, sister & brother) who are all just great. In fact, whatever they want to do, the 'other' mom lets them do! Hmmm...<br><br>
It does through me at times, though, when they inform me that I'm not their 'real' Mommy! DD1 has just recently started adding in her imaginary friend Sally, who comes along with her on a lot of outings. They seem to have lots and lots of birthday parties together as well at the moment (dd's birthday is in another month or so).<br><br>
We find it quite amusing...and it can be fascinating to listen in to their play at times.
 

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I had an imaginary friend and I'm pretty sure I turned out just fine! My three siblings are several years older and didn't want much to do with me, but my friend Dean-o was with me through thick and thin. (He did some naughty things sometimes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">, but my mom was pretty cool about it when I explained who was responsible.)
 

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We had many, many imaginary friends before I had dd#2, including eight panda bears, who came everywhere with us. After I had the baby, all our friends disappeared. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
However, as she was just turning one, they returned, along with some new ones. But so far, the eight panda bears haven't come home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Completely normal, and soooo much fun. (even when they get naughty, they do a fair bit of mischief in our house!)
 
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