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Hi everyone. I had an IUD that came out & low & behold I was pg. Since we weren't sure how far along I was my doc ordered blood work. My hcg was 7,092. She then ordered an u/s. All that could be seen was a sac measuring about 5 weeks. Waited 1 week, went back in to find a baby measuring 6 wks, 1 day & a very faint hb. They said that was totally normal that usually at that point they don't even see a hb. So, this past Mon I went back in & baby had only grown by a couple of days. Baby did have a hb but it was only 55 bpm. They told me that things did not look hopeful at all & that I needed to prepare myself for a m/c. So, how does one do that? I feel so bad that there is a lo inside me struggling to survive & I can't help him/her. He/she may have already passed & I don't even know it. I've never had a m/c before - will it hurt? I currently still have some m/s signs though not as strong as in the beginning - when will they go away? My doc has still not called me so I have tons of questions. This baby was a total surprise but was already loved. Anyone here btdt? Thanks!
 

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Kind of. We had a unexpected though much wanted pregnancy too. My doc made it sound like one the bleeding really started (I had been spotting fr 2 weeks already) it should only last a few hours, then be much lighter. I ended up having period like bleeding for over a week and it was getting heavier, so I ended up with a D&E. Nothing hurt, just some really mild cramping. Even the D&E was as easy as it could have been (contraindication of terms i know...)
 

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What do you mean the baby was only "55" but had a heartbeat? Are you saying that the ultrasound measured the baby to be smaller than the week before? You know . . . I think only time will tell. In the meantime, keep taking really good care of yourself and feeding your baby lots of love. You have a heartbeat, and that's a great sign! Keep us posted - I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this worry!!!
 

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The babies HR was only 55beats per min. It should be around 120-160 ish
 

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Thank you - that's exactly what I meant.
 

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not knowing was the hardest part for me.
 

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so sorry to hear what you're going thru. please take good care of yourself. this is a great group, nobody wants to be here but we're all very supportive so you're in good company.
 

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My pregnancy was unexpected as well. It took OH a little time, but we reached a point where we were both happy and excited.<br><br>
I wish I could tell you how to prepare for a m/c. That just goes against all our natural hopes and dreams of having a baby. When you m/c you don't just lose a baby, you lose all your fantasies about who lo will look like, breastfeeding, nurturing, first steps, first words, and the list goes on.<br><br>
I had a D&E, but I gave birth to my baby which was (or at least I thought it was) 14 weeks old (16 weeks preggo). Giving birth was more emotionally than physically painful. Then again I may have been drugged but I don't remember clearly. During the operation I was completely sedated so no physical pain.<br><br>
I'm very sorry for your loss. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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My miscarriage was very early (5-7 weeks, not sure exactly) very unexpected, and very wanted. It's so hard, when you're not expecting a pregnancy because it's all these emotions. With an expected pregancy, you're happy, and maybe a bit worried that everything will be ok. With an unexpected pregnancy, you're happy, worried, scared, angry, elated, back to worried and completely in love within 5 seconds of seeing that positive test. Then when you have a miscarriage, all those emotions seem like they doomed the baby and overwhelm you. I've felt so guilty for the 10 minutes of anger and doubt I felt at the positive test and I can't help but think my baby didn't feel wanted and left me. It's so hard and I'm thinking of you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s:
 

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Paula, I'm so sorry. I guess that low heartrate isn't encouraging. I guess what helped me "prepare" for my most recent miscarriage was seeing my dead baby on ultrasound. Otherwise I'd have wondered when the miscarriage began what in the hell was happening. At least this time I knew - it was a dead baby.<br><br>
Sorry I'm not exactly encouraging . . . it's been almost 3 weeks and it's still way too fresh . . .<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">s Paula. I wish I could say something ANYTHING to console you right now.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s I hated that in between waiting stage. I knew, but I still had that shimmer of hope during the night before the ultrasound.<br><br>
What I've learned from this lovely sacred corner of MDC is that every miscarriage is very different and there isn't anything you can do to prepare yourself emotionally for it. It comes in waves and I definitely think that my cycle has hit me a lot harder this first period. I too, felt a lot of guilt about my few minutes of ambivalence about this pregnancy, but I've had to let that go and forgive myself.<br><br>
Physically, I'd say plan for the worse and hope it doesn't go that bad. I got those massive Tena (?) pads, which I've worn at home all week with this period, too (or maybe a couple of flat diapers with some granny panties acting as a cover?), heating pad, ice bags, painkillers just in case (my mind has gone blank, but something that would help with a fever), and just rest as much as you can.<br><br>
My miscarriage was very painful, but only for about a night. I bled lightly, mostly brown blood with a bit of clumping for a few days, then passed the baby and bled a heck of a lot ending up in the hospital (the painful night), and slowly felt better although I had a heavy period afterwards for a week or so. The blood loss can be scary and I was exhausted and am just slowly starting to feel better. This past week my first AF started slowly and its a bit more clumpy and quite heavy (about a pad an hour), but not painful at all.
 

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I'm so sorry Paula.<br>
I had my first m/c 3 weeks ago. I was about as far along as you are. it was not painful at all, jsut some mild cramping. However, there was a LOT of blood. I was soaking an overnight pad every 20-30 minutes for abut 3 hours on the day of the actual m/c (when everything came out) and then bled, heavy heavy AF for 4 more days.<br>
At night I wore a Depends underwear with a booster pad inside so I wouldn't have to worry about leaking.<br><br>
Big hugs to you, I am so sorry!
 

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I haven't been in your exact situation but we recently lost a much loved surprise baby. It was early on(5 weeks)and I cramped a bit more than with a normal period and bled more. I am sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thank you ladies for all of your replies. I finally talked to my actual dr & she said that she still considers this a viable pg. That the low hr is concerning but that the baby & sac grew enough to be reassuring & we'll do another u/s next week. Talk about emotions all over the place!! So now I have some hope but at the same time I am sooo scared! I just fear that u/s Wed & no hb. I'll let you all know how it goes. Thank you for sharing your stories with me.
 

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Had my ultrasound today & there was no hb. So now I've got to decide between waiting for the m/c to happen or having the d&c. Pretty sad.<br><br>
ETA: The part that is the saddest to me is that I'm sure this pg is why my ds weaned so abruptly at 14 months & now I feel like he missed out on many more months of nursing for nothing.
 

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Not knowing for sure that I was having a m/c was the worst part of two days. Once I knew for sure that the babe was no longer it was just so sad. Since I was 13-14 wks along, I had a d&c. For that I was actually grateful, so I didn't have to wait.<br>
Hugs to you.
 

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I'm so sorry nursinmama. Treat yourself gently. I'm thinking of you.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm sorry.
 
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