Okay, it is probably all my fault.
We moved thousands of miles away from everyone we knew, and I end up pregnant right away. I was worried about who would be here for DD and DS during the HB. My MW and DH said we would be fine on our own, but I insisted that DH call his mom and see if she would be willing to stay here for a few weeks/month over my due date to be "on call" for the birth.
The first problem (not at all for me personally, but for buying airline tickets) was that I apparently have no due date and my pregnancy is rather open-ended at this point. So, I told DH this and said that now it is looking pointless to having his mom stay here for a month, when it will most likely be the wrong month, yk?
The second problem was his mom not being able to say yes. (I love her and she is great, but) She was all "we'll see" and "I'll think about it... I don't know..." to the ppoint where I eventually just assumed it was a nice NO.
So, the third issue is then we invited his sister *instead* of his mom. DSIL has a DD herself, but they are not really AP so I figured there was a 50/50 chance that DSIL would bring her DD-3, IF she came. Well, DSIL got pregnant again and basicly had a bunch of issues come up herself, so she couldn't come either.
Fine. I was getting father along in my pregnancy and was being really positive about the situation. My MW told me all about how I do NOT want all these extra people around anyway during a birth, and I was glad not to have to do the extra cooking and cleaning that go along with it. We are also having car problems and DH is working a ton of hours, and it was just not turning out to be a good time to have people staying here.
So then DH talks to DMIL again, and now she has decieded to come and so had DSIL and her DD, and all stay here (our home) for a month. So, it was my origional plan, but triple the number of people I had wanted!
This is a big deal, as we live in a small one bathroom house. We literailly have no room to put three extra people! Then, with the car issues, and everything, $$ is tight and it would be impossible for us to feed three extra people (that would like double our food bill!) for four straight weeks. I am not being stingy- things are not the greatest for us right now money-wise!
Then, there is the fact of where they are not really clean people at all, and I *AM* and I am one of those people who will go nuts if the house is not perfect when the birth comes. I nest like a crazy person, but I like it that way, and I will not be happy otherwise.
I think it will end up either me doing the work of three extra people (dishes, laundry, cleaning the bathroom, picking up, etc.) when I am 9 months pregnant or with a week old baby. I do not want to deal with it expessially before the baby comes, cuz I have a history of pre-term labor that I do NOT want to repeat.
I just can't imagine twice the people living here for a month, or them being really happy here the whole time. As much as I love them, there are too many differences to LIVE together, like they wantch TV constantly, our TV gets no channels at all, they let their DD watch anything and love to rent movies, we are VERY selective. Just lots of little things like that.
All I wanted was ONE person, MIL, to come here over the birth. Now I feel like
, and DH says it is my fault for bringing it up in the first place, and all he can do is call and tell them not to come.
It would be awesome if they could stay in a hotel, but they have no $$$ either. I am sure they will have no $$$ to pitch in for food or anything, after the $$$ it takes to get here. As it is, they think DH is helping them with airfare, and he is not going to be able to because of our car breaking down.
The thing that really gets me, is yes it was my idea. BUT the whole time, DH is agreeing with me when we talk ("Yeah, we really have NO room for THREE of them!!) and then calls them and agrees with them, to the point of offering to rent them a van while they are here!
(With what $$, I don't know!) But as it is otherwise, DH will leave for work in the morning, and we all will be here in the house with no vechical until he comes back home. Plus, we only have a car, and there will be seven (or eight with my baby) people here who want to go places.
He is really the only one that talks to them, and if he would have just been honest with them (instead of trying to be SOOOO nice) from the beginning, we would not be here now. They would have gradually realized how things really are here, and understood. Now it will like springing it on them all at once.
Still, it is so hard. I love them and WANT them to come here, I just don't want three extra people living in my tiny house when I am THIS pregnant, or when I have a week old baby! I am close to just letting them come anyway, so I don't have to tell them no.
: What do I DO?!
We moved thousands of miles away from everyone we knew, and I end up pregnant right away. I was worried about who would be here for DD and DS during the HB. My MW and DH said we would be fine on our own, but I insisted that DH call his mom and see if she would be willing to stay here for a few weeks/month over my due date to be "on call" for the birth.
The first problem (not at all for me personally, but for buying airline tickets) was that I apparently have no due date and my pregnancy is rather open-ended at this point. So, I told DH this and said that now it is looking pointless to having his mom stay here for a month, when it will most likely be the wrong month, yk?
The second problem was his mom not being able to say yes. (I love her and she is great, but) She was all "we'll see" and "I'll think about it... I don't know..." to the ppoint where I eventually just assumed it was a nice NO.
So, the third issue is then we invited his sister *instead* of his mom. DSIL has a DD herself, but they are not really AP so I figured there was a 50/50 chance that DSIL would bring her DD-3, IF she came. Well, DSIL got pregnant again and basicly had a bunch of issues come up herself, so she couldn't come either.
Fine. I was getting father along in my pregnancy and was being really positive about the situation. My MW told me all about how I do NOT want all these extra people around anyway during a birth, and I was glad not to have to do the extra cooking and cleaning that go along with it. We are also having car problems and DH is working a ton of hours, and it was just not turning out to be a good time to have people staying here.
So then DH talks to DMIL again, and now she has decieded to come and so had DSIL and her DD, and all stay here (our home) for a month. So, it was my origional plan, but triple the number of people I had wanted!
This is a big deal, as we live in a small one bathroom house. We literailly have no room to put three extra people! Then, with the car issues, and everything, $$ is tight and it would be impossible for us to feed three extra people (that would like double our food bill!) for four straight weeks. I am not being stingy- things are not the greatest for us right now money-wise!
Then, there is the fact of where they are not really clean people at all, and I *AM* and I am one of those people who will go nuts if the house is not perfect when the birth comes. I nest like a crazy person, but I like it that way, and I will not be happy otherwise.
I think it will end up either me doing the work of three extra people (dishes, laundry, cleaning the bathroom, picking up, etc.) when I am 9 months pregnant or with a week old baby. I do not want to deal with it expessially before the baby comes, cuz I have a history of pre-term labor that I do NOT want to repeat.
I just can't imagine twice the people living here for a month, or them being really happy here the whole time. As much as I love them, there are too many differences to LIVE together, like they wantch TV constantly, our TV gets no channels at all, they let their DD watch anything and love to rent movies, we are VERY selective. Just lots of little things like that.
All I wanted was ONE person, MIL, to come here over the birth. Now I feel like

It would be awesome if they could stay in a hotel, but they have no $$$ either. I am sure they will have no $$$ to pitch in for food or anything, after the $$$ it takes to get here. As it is, they think DH is helping them with airfare, and he is not going to be able to because of our car breaking down.
The thing that really gets me, is yes it was my idea. BUT the whole time, DH is agreeing with me when we talk ("Yeah, we really have NO room for THREE of them!!) and then calls them and agrees with them, to the point of offering to rent them a van while they are here!

He is really the only one that talks to them, and if he would have just been honest with them (instead of trying to be SOOOO nice) from the beginning, we would not be here now. They would have gradually realized how things really are here, and understood. Now it will like springing it on them all at once.
Still, it is so hard. I love them and WANT them to come here, I just don't want three extra people living in my tiny house when I am THIS pregnant, or when I have a week old baby! I am close to just letting them come anyway, so I don't have to tell them no.
