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My in-laws said I should bottle feed and start cereal at 2 months and put baby in crib not in my bed what if I smothered her or she fell out of bed? Iam trying to decide whether to get a arms'reach sleigh or a 3 in 1 crib and side car it to my bed to keep her safe tell she is old enough to climb off the bed safely it is 28 inches from top of bed to floor it is a king size bed.I normally ignore my in-laws but Iam worried about the baby falling out of our bed she is 4 months old rolling and wiggling around now.Darcy mommie of Alora
 

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Try putting her between you and your DH. Personally I am very aware when I sleep and I wake up to her smallest squirm. I also sleep with her smack against me.<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
-Angela
 

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One way to help them understand that you aren't starving her is to tell them how much weight she gains from month to month.
 

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hey in the dr sears book i read.. i cant remember which one but i can go back and look he talks about how people think that lots of babies get smothered by their parents when they co sleep because this studdy came out that said between 1990-1997, 570 (maybe 77.. but it was 570 somthen) kids died in their parents bed. however this ignores the fact that more than 5,000 kids die every year in their cribs. so really you could look at it the other way, your protecting your child by sleeping with them.<br>
i have read some other things that basicly say that sids happens less when a child is in a parents bed because the mother "some how" notices her childs breathing pattenrs even when the mother is sleeping.<br>
But dont take my word on this go out and gather information.. google is a great source and so is dr sears book. if you are prepared with information from good sources ... theres nothing she can say to scare you.
 

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oh and about the starving stuff.. 2 months nono no no no. even the gov has info out there that you should not start babies on food that early. esp if you are BF! the lit out there basicly says that if you start your kids on food before they are ready they are more prone to food allergies (please excuse my spelling.)<br><br>
print out some info .. memorize some if it makes you feel better. knowledge is power so dont let her change your mind from doing what you know is best for your baby.<br><br>
ohh and about faling off the bed, if you are really worried you can always do what my mom did for me, stick the bed on the floor.
 

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I told my in-laws I know when Dd wakes next to me and I tell them how much she weighs at this point in time they are only lecturing me about the dangers of her falling out of our bed.She is 4 months old weighs 13.5 lbs and is 25.5 inches long she is exclusively breast fed cloth diapered coslept.Iam considering getting a 3 in 1 crib and side caring it to our bed.Darcy mommie to Alora 4 months
 

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in the end i think its important that you do what makes you feel better and whats best for your child.<br>
someone else will have to comment on the weight issues cause i have no idea what its suppose to be. i have a 2 month old who is 26" long and weighs 15lbs so my view is a bit skewed can see.<br>
if your worried about the bf see a lactation consultant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> but just do what makes you and your baby happy. thats all that matters!
 

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Im 5'7", hubby.. a little under 6' , so ya we were supprised. i have a 3 month old who is starting to outgrow 3-6m clothes in length
 

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Our 4 month old Dd is barely still in 3-6 mos because her legs are so long so everyone is giving her clothes for Christmas in 6-9 month sizes.Darcy mommie to Alora
 

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hi, real quick just so i dont pass on wrong infromation. the news report was us consumer products safety commision on sept 29,1999. 515 deaths of children under two who slept in adult beds. and i found some where else that 394 were due to becoming taped in the bed structure. and then what the other number was 5,000 babies die of sids annulay.<br><br>
k i just wanted to clear that up. donno if it makes a diffrence but didnt want to pass on false info.
 

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What happens if she falls? It's not a 4 foot drop is it? Babies are made to withstand life. If you're worried, just put a mattress on the floor down there (a crib matress or twin that will later be hers is great!), or even some folded towels or blankets. Or drop your bed down by removing the frame or the box spring.<br><br>
Personally, I wouldn't want to buy a crib if I didn't need one for other reasons. I'd just go get a twin mattress and let the baby sleep on the floor. I could go down there and nurse if I wanted or bring her up and down as needed. If she stayed in bed with me, then the matress would protect her against falls.
 

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Hi,<br><br>
My dd is quite the wiggler. She's 9mos, sleeps between me & the edge of the bed, and has rolled out exactly once. Since we have a fat, firm pillow on the floor in that spot, there wasn't a problem (except she was pretty disgruntled that her rest was disturbed!). I believe that like every other healthy human, babies have an instinct for where they are when they're asleep. If you don't have soft carpet on the floor by the bed, get a firm pillow & lay it there, that way if your babe takes a few "learning tumbles" there won't be any harm done.<br><br>
Really, the bottom line is, this isn't your inlaws' baby, it's yours. You don't have to justify yourself to them. If you feel that in your bed is the best place for her, then have her in your bed, and let your inlaws know it's not up for discussion. Same with the cereal <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/censored.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="censored"> they're telling you. There's a wealth of information here on both topics if you want to ease *your* mind, but you don't have to ease theirs.<br><br>
I hope your husband/partner is backing you up on this. I really think that if a partner's family generates a lot of flak, it's their responsibility to run most of the interference for you.<br><br>
Good luck, enjoy your baby, and listen to your mama instincts!
 

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i think CG meant to type "trapped"? not taped! oh, what a funny visual!
 

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Girlindocs thankyou for the advice yes my DS backs me up he feels I have our childs best interests at heart.Darcy mommie to Alora
 

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Babies can die if they get squashed into the bed structure. Falling between the matress and headboard, falling between the railings, or falling alongside the bed (like a waterbed) are all ways babies can be "trapped in the bed" structure.<br><br>
If you sleep with your baby, it's important to make sure there are not little spaces near the bed, like between the bed and wall or between railings. Are you familiar with the new crib guidelines, where the mattress is supposed to fit really tightly and the sheet is also really snug, and the railings are close together? Those are to prevent injuries from being trapped in the structure of the crib.
 

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Apricot what if I buy a 3 in 1 put it up against my bed would that work to keep her from falling off or getting trapped? I dont have a head board or base board either.Darcy mommie to Alora
 
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