I am in need of advice / support / suggestions...
We live in a different state than our families. Last year, we stayed home for the holidays and it was not fun (no family here). So this year we want to go "home" (to where our family is) to celebrate Christmas.
Here's the prob: My family is FULL of smokers and otherwise non-healthy people. I have a 3 month old son and I know they are all going to want to meet him (none of my side have met him in person yet) I don't want him exposed to the smoke or a smoked in environment. I don't want to 'offend' anyone, but I am so concerned about his health. Plus, with all the people, I don't want him being passed around to everyone with who knows what on their hands and breathing all over him.
On the other hand, my husband's family is a joy to be with. Very understanding people who I know will be careful with the baby.
What do I say to my mom when she wants us to spend time with her???
Meeting out at a restaurant is not feasible b/c my ds is very sensitive to many foods (no dairy, wheat, soy, nuts, etc...) so i'm being very careful what I eat because i'm exclusively bfing him. My husband's family knows this and will be accommodating - my mom OTOH thinks I should feed my ds formula because 'i shouldn't deprive myself')
There's even more to the situation - but that's the gist of it.
I don't know what to say / do - I know in the end someone's gonna be pissed regardless of how 'nice' i try to be....
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We live in a different state than our families. Last year, we stayed home for the holidays and it was not fun (no family here). So this year we want to go "home" (to where our family is) to celebrate Christmas.
Here's the prob: My family is FULL of smokers and otherwise non-healthy people. I have a 3 month old son and I know they are all going to want to meet him (none of my side have met him in person yet) I don't want him exposed to the smoke or a smoked in environment. I don't want to 'offend' anyone, but I am so concerned about his health. Plus, with all the people, I don't want him being passed around to everyone with who knows what on their hands and breathing all over him.
On the other hand, my husband's family is a joy to be with. Very understanding people who I know will be careful with the baby.
What do I say to my mom when she wants us to spend time with her???
Meeting out at a restaurant is not feasible b/c my ds is very sensitive to many foods (no dairy, wheat, soy, nuts, etc...) so i'm being very careful what I eat because i'm exclusively bfing him. My husband's family knows this and will be accommodating - my mom OTOH thinks I should feed my ds formula because 'i shouldn't deprive myself')
There's even more to the situation - but that's the gist of it.
I don't know what to say / do - I know in the end someone's gonna be pissed regardless of how 'nice' i try to be....
