[Adensmommy]

Ok Julie its your turn.

I am going to start out on a sad note and Julie if it is too painful you dont have to answer. I noticed on your siggy you recently had a pregnancy loss, two days before mine infact. My loss has changed my life profoundly. Can you tell us about what happened and how it may have changed you?

 

[lanielayne]

I am going to use some repeats because I like them

Describe your dream home.

What is your signature dish?

Who told you the "facts of life" and how old were you?

 

[mom2mimi]

I am going to start out on a sad note and Julie if it is too painful you dont have to answer. I noticed on your siggy you recently had a pregnancy loss, two days before mine infact. My loss has changed my life profoundly. Can you tell us about what happened and how it may have changed you?

Well, I was almost 13 weeks and I started bleeding, however it was old blood so I tried not to worry too much. This was on a Saturday, I called my midwife and she never returned my call so when it was still going on on Monday morning I went to the ER. When the dr. examined me I knew it was bad because he asked how far along I was and tried feeling for my uterus and couldn't find it...it was too low for 13 weeks. They did an ultrasound and I saw that there was no heartbeat, I couldn't really tell what I was seeing just didn't hear anything and saw lots of bleeding. The dr. came in and told us that the baby had died at 9 weeks, my hubby and I were absolutely heartbroken and we just held on to eachother and cried. Later they told me I had developed the antibodies somehow and that had killed my baby and I would probably never have another one.(all wrong, by the way!) That was like pouring salt in my wounds, honestly. WE had to come home and tell the kids, well mainly our then 6 year old. That was the hardest thing, she carried around one of the babies little cloth diapers and cried and cried. I had to have a D & C later that week because nothing was passing. I thank god I had my wonderful husband to take over the house and kids and my family and friends were really there for me as well. The way it has changed me is that I am a more compassionate person and less judgemental of others. I am more sensitive to others than I was before. One thing that was strange, though, was although I was shocked to have a mc a part of me I think "knew" something was wrong with that pregnancy. I always bond to my pregnancies immediately, and that time I did not. I never took a belly photo, I never sat around with my hands rubbing my belly, and every single name I looked at (even the ones I had previously picked out with my son) sounded somehow wrong. So it is not necessarily a comfort to me, but truly it wasn't meant to be somehow for some reason. I will never know why exactly, but sometimes I think it had to happen for me to discover the mistake my midwife made with my son's bloodtype. I trusted her completely and I would have trusted her again, and I'm glad I found out the truth. Sorry this was so long, it is hard to answer in a short response something so close to my heart.

 

[mom2mimi]

Describe your dream home. My family has a cabin in Northern California that is pretty secluded and in the middle of a beautiful forest, now I don't want to live in it because it is really old and needs major improvements but I would love to rebuild on that spot. It would be cabin-like, but with plenty of room for all of us and for friends and family to come and visit. Maybe a cabin compound! Of course it would have a huge fireplace, and a gourmet kitchen for dh, a big bathroom with a jacuzzi tub so I can have babies in it.

What is your signature dish? This is a hard one since dh is the chef...I make a good chicken, broccoli, and cheese dish that is low carb and dh loves it. Oh and my sauteed squash, zucchini, and fresh parmesan...add some onion, fresh garlic and basil, maybe cherry tomatoes. Can you tell we have a garden?? LOL, I just add whatever looks good that day to almost any dish during the summer...you can't go wrong with something you've grown yourself.

Who told you the "facts of life" and how old were you? I have no idea how old I was but my mom told me some stuff, and then her best friend (who to this day I have yet to thank for somehow giving me her more "natural minded" tendencies) gave me a couple of books for me to read on my own and told me to ask either of them questions if I had any. Also, I saw my brother be born when I was 13 so that answered a lot about childbirth for me.

 

[anabellee]

are you planning on having more children after this babe?

 

[anabellee]

another question....
are you just rh- or is it more complicated than that? i know i'm rh- and have to have rhogam at a certain point in the pregnancy.

 

[mom2mimi]

are you planning on having more children after this babe? Nope, this is the last due to my rh status.

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another question....
are you just rh- or is it more complicated than that? i know i'm rh- and have to have rhogam at a certain point in the pregnancy.
It is more complicated...I am rh- and when I had my last baby instead of just taking the rhogam I asked that my son be tested to see if he was possibly negative also. (meaning no need for rhogam) My midwife tested him on an eldon card (an unreliable way of blood typing at home, found out the unreliable part later though) after his birth and declared him to be negative like me, so I did not get rhogam. As I answered earlier, I found out during my mc that I had developed antibodies to rh positive blood, meaning at some point it had mixed with mine. It is thought that it was too early to be that babies and after further checking it was discovered my son was indeed positive. Although I did not have a traumatic birth and it is unknown how our bloods mixed, they did. My OB thought it was wise to try giving me the rhogam, just in case the baby I mc caused the antibodies. Then he told me to wait three months and we will check again. Well just about three months later, we find out we're pg again.

: My blood was checked and it did have antibodies however they were extremely low and we are hoping that it could've been from the rhogam still. The likelyhood is that I am sensitized meaning rhogam won't do a thing for me now, and if my numbers go up baby will be at risk for anemia and jaundice. I hope that clears some of it up, you can always google rh sensitization or isoimmunization for a clearer more medical definition of it.

 

[mooliette]

Hi Julie!! Happy spotlight post

How did you and John meet?

Have you gotten any cravings lately?

Got any feelings on if this baby is a boy or a girl?

 

[sehbub]

Where are you from originally?

How long have you and your DH been together?

How did your kiddos react to the news of the new baby? How did you tell them?

 

[timneh_mom]

... I'm so sorry to hear the story of your loss. Thanks for being so open and sharing it.

What nationality are you? Was there anything about your roots that your parents did to celebrate anything, for example, any ethnic foods or music?

 

[mom2mimi]

How did you and John meet? Well we both worked together at a local casino here, he was a cook and I was a waitress. We didn't really get to know eachother until he became friends with my boyfriend whom I was ready to break up with at the time. John was really shy so it took lots and lots of flirting on my part to show him how interested I was...and all the drinking didn't hurt either, LOL

Honestly I never imagined this guy I was gonna have a "fling" with would end up being my soulmate, best friend, partner in life, and father to my kids!! But something about us just clicked and we've been together, very happily, ever since.

Have you gotten any cravings lately? Sugar, sugar and more sugar. I don't indulge too much besides a cup of ice cream here and there but for some reason I have the biggest sweet tooth! And I don't normally eat sweets!

Got any feelings on if this baby is a boy or a girl? I had a strong girl feeling right off the bat, then my hubby started telling me he thought it was a boy! I still think girl although I'm not going to go around saying it's almost 100% sure anymore!

How long have you and your DH been together? We have been married for 7 years (got married when I was 8 months pg!) and together for 8.

How did your kiddos react to the news of the new baby? How did you tell them? Emily, our oldest, was over the moon happy. I let John tell her one evening when her grandpa accidently said something about the baby, so she was getting the idea. We probably could've made something up to cover and waited but we decided to just go with it and tell her. I was really scared because I didn't want her to have to experience another loss, the last one was very hard on her. With Johnny, he knows there's a baby in mommy's tummy but has no concept of what that means. I always point babies out to him when we are out, though, and tell him how we will have one of those and he will be the big brother. He comes in our bed in the am and snuggles for a bit before we all get up and yesterday I told him that the baby will be sleeping in there and asked him where did he want to lay, he pointed to daddy's pillow! Looks like daddy is going to get some extra loving.

What nationality are you? Was there anything about your roots that your parents did to celebrate anything, for example, any ethnic foods or music? I am just your basic mutt...although my mom is half mexican she doesn't speak spanish or anything. She does cook mexican food and always has but as far as music I grew up with the Beatles, CCR, Yes, classic rock stuff...my parents were hugely into music and so am I.

 

[lanielayne]

C'mon Mamas! Ask her some questions!

 

[poep]

I am sorry for the loss you experienced. You sound so strong and well adjusted despite it; very admirable.

If you were to be a "Survivor" cast member, what would your luxury item be?

What flavor of icecream are you eating?

What do you do to pamper yourself?

 

[mom2mimi]

If you were to be a "Survivor" cast member, what would your luxury item be? Probably my Burts Bees lip balm, I can't go anywhere without it and having chapped lips would make me very unlikable!

What flavor of icecream are you eating? Dryers Peanut Butter Cup...yummy!

What do you do to pamper yourself? Haha, what's that?? Seriously I don't pamper myself much ummmmmm sometimes after the kids are in bed I take a hot bath, does that count?? To me I feel pampered every night when I hop into bed around 9, I fluff my big ol' feather comforter and climb in with a book...that is my idea of heaven!

 

[Adensmommy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by lanielayne C'mon Mamas! Ask her some questions!

Yeah lets show her we care. Dont be shy she hasnt bit anyone yet.

 

[Adensmommy]

Who is your fav musical group?
What is your favorite color?
Do you garden?
What was your most memorable child hood experience?
What do you have for pets?
What are your childrens personalities and characteristics?

 

[mamabear&babybear]

What quirks did you have as a child that will be just revenge if this baby has them? For instance, I was a picky eater and now I'm raising one.

What is the most romantic thing your dh has done for you?

 

[mamaglee]

What will your dream birth be like?

If you were an animal, what would you be?

Do you buy the burt's bees balm that makes your lips white?

Will you use burt's bees products on the babe?

I've also had two losses, and I know they are hard....thanks for sharing your story. You sound lovely.

 

[lanielayne]

Name 3 pieces of clothing you can't live without.

What are your favorite pair of shoes?

What is you favorite board game?

 

[yonit]

What is your favorite book? I am always looking for good recommendations