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I assume it is okay to discuss this here at TAO. If there is a sexuality forum, moderator please feel free to move it!!<br><br>
Anyway, SEX. Making love. Or, any of many other words and phrases we have for this physical act of procreation and pleasure.<br><br>
I found the article to be wonderfully refreshing in a magazine. My dh read it and enjoyed it, as well. Sex is a wonderful part of marriage. The ultimate honesty and trust issue.<br><br>
I am 44+ and like making love. My husband is 49 and likes making love. We did it a lot while dating and we still do it a lot.<br><br>
After marriage, we approached the goal of conception with joy and laughter. We felt no pressure to conceive, though age was not in our favor! When we were lucky enough to get pregnant the first month we tried, we slowed down because we weren't sure whether it would be okay to continue early in the pregnancy<br>
We lost that baby, and the one that followed 6 months later. We were supportive of each other throughout our grief, and this brought a new feeling to our lovemaking.<br><br>
With our third pregnancy, our doc suggested we stop making love completely during the first three months, "just in case". So, we concentrated on other forms of lovemaking which avoided orgasm for me. When, in the beginning of the third month of pregnancy, I was having such vividly sexual dreams of my husband that I was awakinf due to dream orgasms (!), we knew it was my body saying enough is enough, and we resumed our regular love life!<br><br>
All through the pregnancy, I felt incredibly sexual and sensual. It was wonderful, and, I swear, with the exception of the one month when dh was away fighting wildfires, we made love EVERYday! Happily, I have a husband in great shape! We made love until the day ds was born, and had trouble waiting the several weeks post-birth to begin intercourse again!<br><br>
We chuckled over the pregnancy and post-partum changes we had to make in our sex life. We marvelled at being able to see the way my tummy rose and tightened during orgasm (since you can't see that in a non-pregnant uterus/belly!). Making love while weraing a bra was a neccessity unless we wanted to wake ds to nurse right before making love. Positions had to change to accomodate my big bump.<br><br>
The only time it wasn't so great was last year, when a fibroid was growing so big in me that lovemaking became painful and I had a hysterectomy to correct the problem. We made love the night before the surgery (we would have done it that morning, too, but were nervous about the surgery being just 2 hours later!).<br><br>
My husband still chuckles at the memory of seeing me in our guestroom (I moved-in there for a month post-op to avoid tummy punches & kicks from our co-sleeping ds), four days after the surgery. He came in to check on me, and commented on how rosy-cheeked and relaxed I looked. I grinned and said, "Well, the uterus is gone, but the orgasms aren't!" I'd been concerned that, somehow, the surgery would change my sexual response and made sure, myself, that it hadn't. Happy to report the only change has been positive!<br><br>
We've been married for 7+ years now, and we still have the passion in our marriage. Pretty wonderful for old folks, 44 & 49, huh?! We make love several times a week and are still creative!<br><br>
He is gone for a week on business right now, and I miss him both emotionally AND physically. Yes, if something happened, and we could NOT make love anymore, our marriage would survive. Marriage is MUCH more than sex. But, sex IS an important part of it.<br><br>
I have friends that, if the subject comes up, admit that it isn't a big deal for them. One couple, I have heard this from both of them, hasn't made love for years (and they are only in their early 50s). I find this sad. I am happy in knowing that my in-laws had a 50 year love life almost to the end of mil's life. She told me this herself! She said, though the parts didn't always work as they used to, they still kissed and hugged and found pleasure in ways they COULD, and to not let this part of marriage go. Isn't that lovely? We will do our best to follow in their example.<br><br>
So, how important is IT in your life and how much do you like it?
Anyway, SEX. Making love. Or, any of many other words and phrases we have for this physical act of procreation and pleasure.<br><br>
I found the article to be wonderfully refreshing in a magazine. My dh read it and enjoyed it, as well. Sex is a wonderful part of marriage. The ultimate honesty and trust issue.<br><br>
I am 44+ and like making love. My husband is 49 and likes making love. We did it a lot while dating and we still do it a lot.<br><br>
After marriage, we approached the goal of conception with joy and laughter. We felt no pressure to conceive, though age was not in our favor! When we were lucky enough to get pregnant the first month we tried, we slowed down because we weren't sure whether it would be okay to continue early in the pregnancy<br>
We lost that baby, and the one that followed 6 months later. We were supportive of each other throughout our grief, and this brought a new feeling to our lovemaking.<br><br>
With our third pregnancy, our doc suggested we stop making love completely during the first three months, "just in case". So, we concentrated on other forms of lovemaking which avoided orgasm for me. When, in the beginning of the third month of pregnancy, I was having such vividly sexual dreams of my husband that I was awakinf due to dream orgasms (!), we knew it was my body saying enough is enough, and we resumed our regular love life!<br><br>
All through the pregnancy, I felt incredibly sexual and sensual. It was wonderful, and, I swear, with the exception of the one month when dh was away fighting wildfires, we made love EVERYday! Happily, I have a husband in great shape! We made love until the day ds was born, and had trouble waiting the several weeks post-birth to begin intercourse again!<br><br>
We chuckled over the pregnancy and post-partum changes we had to make in our sex life. We marvelled at being able to see the way my tummy rose and tightened during orgasm (since you can't see that in a non-pregnant uterus/belly!). Making love while weraing a bra was a neccessity unless we wanted to wake ds to nurse right before making love. Positions had to change to accomodate my big bump.<br><br>
The only time it wasn't so great was last year, when a fibroid was growing so big in me that lovemaking became painful and I had a hysterectomy to correct the problem. We made love the night before the surgery (we would have done it that morning, too, but were nervous about the surgery being just 2 hours later!).<br><br>
My husband still chuckles at the memory of seeing me in our guestroom (I moved-in there for a month post-op to avoid tummy punches & kicks from our co-sleeping ds), four days after the surgery. He came in to check on me, and commented on how rosy-cheeked and relaxed I looked. I grinned and said, "Well, the uterus is gone, but the orgasms aren't!" I'd been concerned that, somehow, the surgery would change my sexual response and made sure, myself, that it hadn't. Happy to report the only change has been positive!<br><br>
We've been married for 7+ years now, and we still have the passion in our marriage. Pretty wonderful for old folks, 44 & 49, huh?! We make love several times a week and are still creative!<br><br>
He is gone for a week on business right now, and I miss him both emotionally AND physically. Yes, if something happened, and we could NOT make love anymore, our marriage would survive. Marriage is MUCH more than sex. But, sex IS an important part of it.<br><br>
I have friends that, if the subject comes up, admit that it isn't a big deal for them. One couple, I have heard this from both of them, hasn't made love for years (and they are only in their early 50s). I find this sad. I am happy in knowing that my in-laws had a 50 year love life almost to the end of mil's life. She told me this herself! She said, though the parts didn't always work as they used to, they still kissed and hugged and found pleasure in ways they COULD, and to not let this part of marriage go. Isn't that lovely? We will do our best to follow in their example.<br><br>
So, how important is IT in your life and how much do you like it?
