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Hi Mamas,<br><br>
As some of you know, I've had two losses and am currently 39 weeks pregnant with a little girl. I'm so nervous and excited to meet her, so much so that I've been having high blood pressure and displaying symptoms of anxiety at my OB visits. Since 35 weeks we've been doing NSTs at every weekly visit and usually my pressure goes down after I know baby girl is okay but the last visit it was still high and my doctor ordered pre-eclampsia bloodwork. It came back negative but she started talking to me about inducing as early as next Tuesday (I'll be 40 weeks exactly).<br><br>
I was set on a natural birth but my doctor seems to feel my anxiety will get in the way of me going into labor naturally and doesn't think I'll make it past 40 weeks without having a nervous breakdown. Her logic is better to induce than have me sitting around with high blood pressure in a state of constant fear.<br><br>
I'm not sure what to do. Has anyone else ever had an induction strictly due to anxiety? How dangerous is it to go past your "due date"? I want my little girl in my arms so badly but I don't want to force her out of the womb just because I'm scared. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
 

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Have you had a term vaginal birth before?<br>
I ask because if you haven't, induction really does increase the risk of a section. It's really up to you whether that's a big deal. For many PAL moms, it's not.<br>
Otherwise, I think anxiety is a totally reasonable reason to induce - especially at 40 weeks when baby is definitely term. Anxiety that's bad enough to raise your BP isn't good for you or the baby.<br>
If you decide to induce, check out Henci Goer's advice on reducing the risk of elective induction:<br><a href="http://www.hencigoer.com/articles/elective_induction/#risks" target="_blank">http://www.hencigoer.com/articles/el...duction/#risks</a><br>
If you Bishop score is really awful you could also consider asking your doctor for more frequent NSTs or, better yet, biophysical profiles and placenta studies, which might be more reassuring.<br>
I did induce at 38 weeks (my second vaginal birth after my daughter was stillborn) and I don't think it was a bad choice although it was grueling. He was born four days later after two attempts and I suspect I would have ended up sectioned after the first if I hadn't refused AROM.<br>
Hugs, mama. It's a hard decision.
 

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with my last birth we induced, because I wanted to. I was 38weeks , but I was also 4cms dilated and very effaced. I knew absolutely for sure that I was ready, I felt it.<br><br>
I think it is your decision to make. What do YOU want to do, taking in consideration of course, how favorable for induction your cervix is?
 

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Like Megan, I had an induction after a previous stillborn. In fact, now I've had two. The first was at 38 weeks 1 day and the second was at 38 weeks 5 days. PAL moms understand the anxiety that comes along with carrying another baby to term. I have a blood clotting disorder so the inductions were not purely for anxiety but I was very anxious and nervous with both pregnancies. There are pluses and minuses that come along with inductions. Both times I started right away on pitocin which normally leads to more interventions. However, I was confident in my ability to do it without drugs and I was also well versed in all my options. If you decide on an induction, do your homework. For example, in my hospital, they require continuous monitoring with pitocin but not with other induction methods like beginning with cervadil. Hope you can be a peace with your decision no matter what it is.
 

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Its going to be a few months before I have to face this decision with our wee one I'm carrying now. But its completely understandable to be induced with anxiety so bad you're bp is going up!<br><br>
I understand feeling nervous and wanting a natural birth. If those feelings are overriding a desire to have your baby *now* I would certainly demand more monitoring, if for nothing else than to calm your nerves. Once I hit 34 weeks I'll be doing NSTs 3x weekly. Surely they could check on the baby more often for you.<br><br>
Both of my children were born from inductions. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I completely understand. My second son died shortly after his birth and when my daughter was born I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. Fortunately, she decided to come on her own at 37w1d so I didn't have to make that decision. He was induced (not the cause of his death). I didn't like the induction but with my daughter I didn't think I could go past 40 weeks so I was willing to try it again if necessary. Shoot, I even consider a scheduled c-section because of the trauma leftover from my son's birth and death. My doc was incredibly supportive and with the help of a counselor I was able to work through the trauma before my daughter's birth.<br><br>
A full blown induction is not the only option. Talk to your doctor about your Bishop's score. Talk about the induction options. You can always start on pitocin and if it doesn't get your labor going then you can stop and wait. See how open she is to easier induction methods.<br><br>
Delivering a PAL baby is so much more emotionally difficult than a "regular" birth. You and your doc can work together to make this feel right for you and safe for both you and your little one.<br><br>
Deciding on an induction to help with your anxiety is okay - we do what we have to so we can get through this with as much of our emotional health intact so we can care for our little ones when we bring them home. You have to do what is right for you - it is such a hard decision but trust yourself to know which decision is right for you.<br><br>
Hugs to you and very healthy, happy birthing vibes.
 

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Hi Mamas,<br><br>
Thank you all so much for wisdom and advice. It's helped tremendously. I have an appointment with my OB tomorrow at 11:15 and a tentatively scheduled induction at midnight. I'm still not sure if I will go through with it or not. I hope my OB visit will help clarify things. I want to ask a lot of questions about how she would go about inducing me and am also curious to see if my cervix has dilated/effaced at all. I've had a lot of contractions and bloody show today so I'm hoping there's a chance I could still go naturally before my high blood pressure forces the issue.<br><br>
Again, thank you all for understanding... I'm scared to mention inducing in my DDC for fear of getting a plethora of negative responses. It's so nice to have a place to go where I'm sure of finding support.<br><br>
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Hi Mamas,<br><br>
Just a quick update, I had my baby girl, Zoey Alexandra on the 26th of May, her exact due date. I was forty weeks along. I went into labor naturally but it stalled out and I ended up needing pitocin and an epidural. It wasn't the birth I had planned for but it was the birth I needed. After receiving the epidural I was calm enough to let my body do what it needed and everything went quickly from there. I went from 1 centimeter dilated to 3 in 30 minutes. I went from 3 to 5 centimeters in 3 hours and soon after fell asleep only to wake up a few hours later fully dilated. I pushed for 23 minutes total and my baby girl was in my arms, healthy and alive and so very, very precious.<br><br>
Thank you all for all your kind words and support. I thought I would be so disappointed in myself for foregoing a natural birth but now that my baby girl is here, I understand that a certain kind of birth wasn't the point, it was a healthy baby in my arms. Sometimes the destination matters more than the journey. Best wishes to all!
 

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Welcome baby girl <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congratulations, you got your little girl and that´s what counts. While we can all plan for a natural birth life sometimes doesn´t read the plan. All you can do is make the best choice for you at the time. The pit got things going and the epidural let your body do what it was meant to do. She´s arrived safely and that`s all that counts.<br><br>
Enjoy your little girl.
 

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Welcome baby Zoey!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Many congrats!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
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Congratulations!! Welcome Zoey <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Welcome Zoey <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congratulations! Welcome Zoey! I'm so glad that everything has turned out well.
 

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How wonderful! Welcome little baby girl, and congrats to you mama!!<br><br>
ENJOY EVERY SECOND!
 
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