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I just don't know what to do and would love some feedback. My DD is 31 months old and nurses frequently. I would say at least 6-8x day if permitted and usually at least once in the night. She goes to pre-school a couple days a week and has no problems. When she first started I would nurse her at school when I went to pick her up, but now she waits until we're home.<br>
My problem is I would like to work on getting pregnant, and I'm not fertile to begin with. I have PCOS and had difficulty conceiving Carrie, needed progesterone supplementaion for 17 weeks. I had first PPAF at around 15 months which surprised me. It's been very irregular ever since. As I was so off before Carrie, it's no surprise. I'm on Metformin now, but have not really seen the benefit and I feel the nursing is affecting my already sub-fertilie situation. I just feel very torn about weaning. Carrie is a fabulous, bright, funny little girl who happens to be very high needs and verbaly articulate. When I've attempted to delay nursing and she really wants to, she pulls out all the stops including telling me she's a baby and needs to nurse, nursies will calm her down, and she just needs a little ittly bit for a minute. Yes, I've raised a nursie addict! We sleep in a family bed and the one night I tried to resist she cried in my arms for what seemed like an eternitey telling me all she wanted were her nursies. I ended up crying and we had nursies and got some comfort and sleep.<br>
Do I give up on the idea of another baby and let Carrie wean, whenever that is? I should also include I'm almost 34 years old. This turned into a saga, but I'm just so darned conflicted right now. I have baby fever and part of me wants to aggresively pursue it. The other part worries I would be hurting Carrie by pushing her to wean before she's ready. Please share any and all opinions and advice.<br>
Thanks,<br>
Pamela, mama to my sweet little nursie girl
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> (((HUGS))) Pamela!<br>
Everyone's body reacts differently to breastfeeding. And when to wean is such a personal decision, one that only you and your little girl can make together.<br>
Some women never get af back until baby completely weans. Others' fertility returns right away. There is no cut-and-dried answer, but since you also have PCOS I would wonder how much it would help to wean?<br>
I had two anovulatory cycles after I got af, then it took seven months to get pregnant. And my baby is still nursing (though not as often as yours).<br>
33 is still young! You got plenty of time! Just make sure you don't do anything you'll regret later.<br>
Maybe you could find some sort of happy medium? Like finding a way to distract your DD from nursing and cut back on the times each day that she nurses? I don't know, maybe some of the other moms here have some ideas.
 

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-- oops, sorry fairymama. i meant to start a new thread. --<br><br>
your dd sounds soooo smart! i don't know what to tellyou about your situation though.
 

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Hi Fairymama.<br><br>
I have PCOS too. I agree with the other poster who said that nursing might not be the problem. Have you done OPKs and BBTs to see if you're ovulating? What dose of metformin are you on? While it might be hard to get past the "just wean" speech from many docs, if you can find one who's supportive you might be able to get more information about what's going on. You should also be aware that according to Hale, the only danger to taking clomid while nursing is the potential for decreased supply (and many women report not experiencing this), and while less is known about injectible fertility meds, they appear to be safe as well.<br><br>
Good luck in your quest for #2!<br><br>
Hugs,<br><br>
Cate
 

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The lit says one 6 hour period of no nursing is what triggers ovulation. Can you somehow manage that?
 

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I'd love to hear if anyone else has more input...not that what is here already isn't helpful. I came here specifically looking toward others with similar issues.<br><br>
I have PCOS and a DD who was conceived using Gonal-F. I love nursing and so does she. At nearly 8 months she eats some solids, but mostly breastmilk. It tears me up to even think about weaning merely so I can TTC#2 in February. I'd like to just keep going.<br><br>
But, I do have questions about the effectiveness and safety of injectables while nursing.
 
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