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<p>What is the weirdest story you have about someone you've dated?</p>
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<p>Years ago, when I was just out of college, and single I dated around for a while. A few guys I dated I was "intimate" with, and others were just fun guys to go out with.</p>
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<p>I met this one guy named Brian. I thought he was nice, but I wasn't really physically attracted to him. He was a fun movie date, or if I just wanted company to hang out and chat.</p>
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<p>I would always give him a hug before I left. No kissing, and I don't feel like I ever gave him the feeling like I wanted more than that.</p>
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I used instant messaging at work. I don't have the printout anymore, but the conversation went pretty much like this:</p>
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Him: Hey, hows work?<br><br>
Me: It's fine. How's work for you?<br><br>
Him: What are you doing tonight.</p>
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<p>Me: I'm going out.</p>
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<p>Him: Oh..with who?<br><br>
Me: My friend Bill.</p>
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<p>**I never made it any secret to him or anyone I went out with that I was seeing other people.**</p>
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<p>Him: Oh, I see..Should I be jealous?</p>
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<p>Me: Why would you be jealous?<br><br>
Him. We've been spending a lot of time together.</p>
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<p>**We hung out twice that week..Once he called me while I was making spaghetti for me and my roomate and I invited him to come have some. I was already making it..I didn't make it for him.  The second time, a movie I wanted to see what playing at the dollar movie and it was Tuesday so it was only 50 cents.**</p>
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<p>Me: Umm..You know we're friends, right? **I admit, that's kind of cold...lol**</p>
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<p>He logs off.</p>
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<p>I'm like Oooooo K?</p>
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<p>So I go home, and when I go back to work the next day, I have an e-mail in my inbox from him. It says, "Read the attachment, and if you have a heart, let me know."<span><img alt="confused.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="width:16px;height:21px;"></span></p>
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<p>So I open it, and it's a poem about how I led him on and broke his heart..And how I was messing with his head.</p>
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<p>I never responded...lol I was not at a time in my life where I wanted to be in a relationship. I had just finished college, and was working and having a good time. Even if I WAS in the mood for a relationship, it would not have been with him. I just didn't have that kind of feeling about him. When I told my roomate, she said "It must have been the breadsticks..Definately the breadsticks." LOL</p>
 

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<p>I was dating three different guys at the same time (we'll call them Samir, Joe & Tom). I made it clear from the get go that it was nothing serious. We'd go out for coffee or catch a show together. No big deal. Well, after about 2 months of this, I decided I wanted to be exclusive with "Tom". I called things off with Samir and Joe. While Samir handled it well for the most part, Joe became quite upset. He was angry at me, telling me he wanted me to pick him.  </p>
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<p>Several months later I found out Joe was engaged and had been engaged since before I had been dating him! I was "the other woman" and I didn't even know it! The jerk had the audacity to try to get me to choose him, meanwhile he was planning a wedding with another woman!</p>
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<p>I am now married to "Tom", and "Joe" and his fiance ended up calling off their wedding. </p>
 

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<p>From what you've written, I could see how the first guy might think there was potential there.  Maybe he thought the poem might accomplish something one way or another, and I guess it did. :)  </p>
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<p>I met a guy in a chat room who asked me out after we had been chatting for a week or so.  I wasn't sure if it was going anywhere, but he thought we had things in common, so he asked me out and I agreed to go.  Then he spent most of his time talking about a girl he liked, and then via IM the next day the started telling me all about her.  I told him that after a date, women don't really want to hear all about another woman that he likes.  He never talked to me again, which was fine.  I think part of the reason he started talking about her was that he didn't really want to date me, which was fine, but I didn't really want to talk him through relationship issues.  </p>
 

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<p>When I was 16 I was dating a guy that was 21.  After a couple of months I found out he'd been screwing anything that moved the whole time I'd be seeing him, so I broke it off.  He came over drunk (snuck in my bedroom window...I was a horrible teenager!) and crying,  not because he was sorry or anything, but because he still wanted to be able to sleep with me.  Ha!  The next day I came home from school and there was a package on my back step with a note that said "this is why we can't be together."  It was the movie Meet Joe Black.  Yeah right, that movie was JUST like our relationship.  They couldn't be together because he was DEATH, *we* can't be together because you can't keep it in your pants.  Totally the same thing.  <span><img alt="shake.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/shake.gif">  Oh, and a year later I got to go have a chunk of my cervix cut out because he gave me HPV.  AWESOME. </span></p>
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<p><span>Okay, again, horrible teenager alert (I am SO nothing like my teenage self as an adult!)  I had another friend "with benefits" who  was a self-avowed Satan worshipper who would get drunk and show up at my house and try to get me to accept Jesus and avoid making the mistakes he did.  That was always very bizarre.</span></p>
 

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<p>While in college, I casually dated a guy at a neighboring school.  A couple of my friends met a couple of his friends and we sort of paired up and did a lot of things together - typical college stuff - going to games, parties, coffee shops, etc.  This guy, lets call him Allen, and I never spent much time alone and kissed maybe two or three times.  He seemed decent and I enjoyed hanging out with him.</p>
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<p>One night we (the dating group) all went back to their frat house after seeing a movie and Allen and I ended up in his room.  100% stone cold sober, he says to me "I think you would be more comfortable if you took your pants off."  I laughed out loud, thinking he was joking around but he was totally serious, he expected me to take my pants off.  I walked right out and went home. </p>
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<p>A couple of weeks later, one of my friends is still seeing Allen's frat brother.  Frat Brother asked me why did I blow Allen off?  Apparently Allen had no clue that he offended me and was baffled why I didn't return his calls.  When I told his friend the story, he thought about it for a while and said "well Allen doesn't have a lot of dating experience, he was raised in XYZ religion and you might have been the first girl......."  Unbelievable!  It doesn't take a dating expert to know "you should take your pants off now" is not the way to charm a lady.</p>
 

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<p>Aww...I really feel sorry for that guy.  He thought there was potential.  I don't think that is him being bad or anything but misunderstood signals  :(  It hurts being the person that is more into the other person.  We you going dutch or did he pay for these dates?  I know when I was going out to have fun I would always make sure I paid for at least my way.  </p>
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<p>I paid for the movie with change from my car. I don't remember going much of anywhere with him that required money, other than that. He always knew I was seeing other people, he just flipped on it all of a sudden. It was really odd.</p>
 

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<p>I've so been in your position, OP. I was friends (just friends) with a guy in college and he invited me to go to dinner and a play in San Francisco with him and his two friends (who were a couple). I didn't want him to think it was a double date, so I was very blunt and said, "It sounds fun, but I'm not interested in going on a date." He insisted that we would just go as friends and I should have listened to my instincts but instead I said, "Okay, as long as we have an understanding. And I'm paying my own way" and made him tell me the price of the play ticket and paid him, then paid for all my own stuff the night of the outing.</p>
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<p>On the way home he drove up to a place that overlooked the Golden Gate Bridge. The couple we were with went off alone somewhere, leaving me and this guy alone looking at the view. He, of course, tried to kiss me and I, of course, rejected him. It was a little awkward, but didn't feel horrible to me, but apparently he was really upset but didn't show it at the time. The next week at school he came up to me in front of a group of my friends and was all belligerent and gave me a note that turned out to be a poem all about how I thought I could treat people so terribly, and how he already couldn't even remember my name (???).</p>
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<p>I don't consider him a jerk or anything though -- he was just hurt. I did learn a lesson about listening to myself though. </p>
 

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<p>Hah, some of these stories are great. =)</p>
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<p>I've thankfully had decent enough dating experiences for the most part.  There's one that sticks out in my mind as kind of a dick, though.  It was a highschool relationship so it barely counts. ;)</p>
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<p>I had been dating this guy, Stephan, for a couple of months.  He was gorgeous, a model, not very bright but a lot of fun, which was what I needed at the time I guess.  I was young.  We were hanging out at his house one evening and a few of his friends came over.  He left the room and was talking with one of his friends, and came back in and said "You're going with Jamie for the night."  I said "Wait, what??"  "You're going with Jamie.  I loaned you to him for the night.  Need a condom?" (keeping in mind that I was a flipping virgin at the time!!  What!!)</p>
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<p>Yeah I walked out, and never saw him again.  What the hell??</p>
 

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<p>Then the guy was off...LOL  But I have know more than one woman (mostly) that has had fun getting guys to buy them stuff then didn't get it when the guy felt used.   Sending mix messages is never OK in my book -- sadly I have known more than one shallow person. </p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Marsupialmom</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279391/inspired-by-inspired-by-the-biggest-dick-in-the-room-lol#post_16046937"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Aww...I really feel sorry for that guy.  He thought there was potential.  I don't think that is him being bad or anything but misunderstood signals  :(  It hurts being the person that is more into the other person.  We you going dutch or did he pay for these dates?  I know when I was going out to have fun I would always make sure I paid for at least my way.  </p>
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<br><br><p>It was a Dutch relationship, I always paid my own way.  The whole thing was really casual so I was so shocked that he assumed we were a "pants off" stage in the relationship and that he conveyed it in such an odd way.  I didn't feel threatened, just uncomfortable and disappointed.   I didn't make fun of him to his friend, I was just honest about not digging the pants directive.</p>
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<p>Yeah, looking back on it, I can feel a bit sorry for him too.   Those late teen-early 20 years are full of cringe-worthy moments.</p>
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<p>I was totally in love with this guy, he was from a different culture but incredibly hot and said all the right words.  After we'd been together awhile, when we were really serious, all of a sudden he started to try and get me to participate in these messed up "business" schemes, which basically involved him buying random stuff on e-bay and sending it home to be sold by one of his relatives, keeping in mind that none of his relatives agreed to this and rarely sold the stuff so it was a black hole.  I was awake all night doing stuff for him and basically thinking, "If I just do this ONE LAST THING, he'll knock it off," but of course he didn't because he was an addict and a UAV.  Then he went and joined the army and expected me to go with him halfway around the world, all the while treating me like his secretary.</p>
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<p>Except that is my HUSBAND and I had a baby and then another and this is my marriage (staying for the kids).  It is without a doubt the most messed up relationship I could have imagined.  Sigh.  He waited to start until I had a baby.</p>
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<p>I can only hope it will seem amusing in retrospect.  Sigh.</p>
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<p>When I was 16, I was dating a classmate the same age as me. For my 17th birthday, he gave me fuzzy slippers (we lived in Hawaii) that were two sized too big, and a bar of Estee Lauder soap.</p>
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<p>Obviously, he had forgotten my birthday and raided his mom's closet at the last minute. </p>
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<p>I can't think of any other weirdness that would be appropriate for public viewing.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>~Nikki~</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279391/inspired-by-inspired-by-the-biggest-dick-in-the-room-lol#post_16047057"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I had been dating this guy, Stephan, for a couple of months.  He was gorgeous, a model, not very bright but a lot of fun, which was what I needed at the time I guess.  I was young.  We were hanging out at his house one evening and a few of his friends came over.  He left the room and was talking with one of his friends, and came back in and said "You're going with Jamie for the night."  I said "Wait, what??"  "You're going with Jamie.  I loaned you to him for the night.  Need a condom?" (keeping in mind that I was a flipping virgin at the time!!  What!!)</p>
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<p>Yeah I walked out, and never saw him again.  What the hell??</p>
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That situation sounds really scary, I'm glad you were able to get out okay!</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>2xy</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279391/inspired-by-inspired-by-the-biggest-dick-in-the-room-lol#post_16048139"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>When I was 16, I was dating a classmate the same age as me. For my 17th birthday, he gave me fuzzy slippers (we lived in Hawaii) that were two sized too big, and a bar of Estee Lauder soap.</p>
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<p>Obviously, he had forgotten my birthday and raided his mom's closet at the last minute. </p>
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<p>I can't think of any other weirdness that would be appropriate for public viewing.</p>
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Haha that sounds like my experience with the same bonehead boyfriend I wrote about before.  For my birthday, I had a party and invited all my friends, and all of his friends who I had been hanging out with at the time.  One of his friends bought me a bottle of expensive perfume, which was unexpected (and probably stolen, come to think of it.)  My special boyfriend?  He gave me a half a pack of gum and a used Bic lighter (I didn't smoke).<br>
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<p>I once dated a guy that lived with his friend who was his "very best friend" since childhood.  That's cool, when I was 20 my best friend and I talked about getting an apartment too.  He lived pretty far away (Chicago, so any drive that should have been 20 minutes is an hour) and occasionally I would spend the night.  Not really a big deal for most guys in their 20's to have a girl sleep over.  One day I woke up and hear his friend screaming "you're going to have to choose, her or me, I don't want girls sleeping here!!"  He was always really upset if he found us sitting on the couch together or touching.  After a few weeks it just got really weird and I decided to break it off.  In the heat of things I screamed that maybe there's more to their relationship than they were willing to admit.  Crickets.  He said nothing, no denial, no "you're crazy".  Ummmm.  I told him it was over, left and never answered his calls again.  I don't care if you're gay, go crazy and live life.  But I'm just going to go find a nice straight boy that I don't have to share and fight over with his best friend.  </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>mamalisa</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279391/inspired-by-inspired-by-the-biggest-dick-in-the-room-lol#post_16049349"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p> Not really a big deal for most guys in their 20's to have a girl sleep over.  One day I woke up and hear his friend screaming "you're going to have to choose, her or me, I don't want girls sleeping here!!"  <strong>He was always really upset if he found us sitting on the couch together or touching.</strong>  After a few weeks it just got really weird and I decided to break it off.  In the heat of things I screamed that maybe there's more to their relationship than they were willing to admit.  Crickets.  He said nothing, no denial, no "you're crazy".  Ummmm.  I told him it was over, left and never answered his calls again.  I don't care if you're gay, go crazy and live life.  But I'm just going to go find a nice straight boy that I don't have to share and fight over with his best friend.  </p>
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I had one of those experiences too!  The guy's roommate was such a jerk, he was openly hostile to me literally from the moment we were introduced.  I bent over backwards to get him to at least not hate me.  Everytime we had plans, his friend would stomp about the apartment, muttering under his breath about how he (the guy I was dating) promised they would play tennis or go to the movies.  BF apoligized for his friend's behavior on many occasions and said he had no idea why he behaved so badly towards me.</p>
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<p>His "issue" with me came up in group conversation and there was much snickering amoungst their group of friends.  It upset me a little bit and I said so and one of their close, joint friends said "oh, it isn't you, trust me!"  Then I "got it" and realized there was some sort of bro-crush at work.<br>
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<p>I dated a guy for over a year.  We had a blast together but the red flags were all over the place ~ he told me he was divorced, turned out he was just separated and had never even filed for divorce.  He told me he was a manager, but actually he was a telemarketer.  Other lovely tidbits that came out over time included the fact that he'd filed bankruptcy and had been in jail for drug offenses.  I broke up with him at least 4 times, but he would just "happen" to be in the park I walked through to get to work, or just "happened" to shop in the store where I worked and managed to talk me into getting back together with him.  By the last month or so, I HATED him.  Any fun we ever had was gone and I dreaded seeing him.  Finally, I just left my apartment, moved to another town and disappeared forever.  Phew....</p>
 
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