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Seems like a week or two ago my ds just woke up one morning and decided to be naughtier than ever. He is telling me no much more now, is wanting to do the opposite of everything I suggest or tell him, and it seems like a lot of our day is more disagreeing and pulling hair out than having fun and being content.<br>
Not only that, he used to go to sleep by 8pm and wake around 6:30 or 7. Now he's still in his bed by 8, but is awake most nights until 8:30 and wakes up earlier than ever....today it was 5:40. I take him to the potty (he's almost completely potty trained now, but still poops in the diaper) and tell him its still night night and he just lays in his crib and makes noises and I keep telling him in 10 minute incriments to go back to sleep but he doesn't. He's crankier, much more tired and just worse for it. At nap time he still seems to go right to sleep and yesterday slept almost two hours, which he does most days. I'm thankful for that, but bedtime has gone from a predictable time for peace for my husband and I into a stressful event for me. I go in there a few times after 8 to tell him to go to sleep...should I just not go in there at all when he does this? I need some help...I'm going to run away from home soon!
 

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Sounds like he's right on schedule to start to assert his independence. My favorite suggestion for that stage is to offer choices for everything. Let him be in charge of which shirt he wears, which spoon he uses at breakfast.. everything. But just make sure that you give him a limited number of options (like two or three) and that they're options that you can live with either way. Rather than "telling" him what to do, let him help you decide what to do. It will make you both a lot happier and make him feel proud that he has some control over his life.<br><br>
As far as the sleep thing, I don't have any suggestions to get him to sleep later, but I don't understand why you're checking in to tell him to go to sleep. It sounds like he's content to just lie there until he's ready to fall asleep. He's not crying or anything, right? It might be that you going into his room is actually keeping him awake. I would just let him be, unless he's crying or yelling for you or something. Maybe he just needs more time now to process his day before he can nod off. I know I can't fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow, and having someone tell me to go to sleep wouldn't help! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Good luck getting your happy boy back!
 

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This sounds soooo, soooooooo familiar!<br><br>
I remember before dd was born, my friend told me that she woke up one morning and her two year old love bunny was gone, replaced in the night by aliens who left behind a snarly, grouchy, tantrummy mess. The tantrummy mess stayed around for a month or so, then her "real daughter" would come back for a few days and leave again, on and off for close to a year. She laughs about it now, but I know it was heartbreaking for her at the time.<br><br>
My dd went from that child everyone hates to hear about, the one who plays quietly in restaurants and waiting rooms, wakes up singing every day, sleeps 10.5 hours straight every night, etc., to an unpredictable ball of emotions and conflicting desires. Poor kid. She also goes in cycles -- hang in there!
 
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