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As much as I hate the "circ'd father wants circ'd son" argument, I hate the "intact father wants circ'd son" argument worse!! After all, you're denying your son something you've been able to have all of your life?<br><br>
I just talked to a teenage mama tonight who has a circ appointment for her week-old baby on Tuesday. They are paying for it themselves, since they don't have insurance. The teenage daddy is intact, but has had a "few infections" and doesn't want his son to go through that.<br><br>
I said to the mama, "So, is your dh planning a circ for himself, as well?" She said no. I said that antibiotics clear up infections quite nicely, and I've never once thought of getting myself cut when I have a yeast infection.<br><br>
I also asked her to cancel the Tues. appointment, because she can always reschedule it later if she wants to. I am going to talk to her in person tomorrow (even though I don't personally know her--I just know her through some other people, but she said I could come over tomorrow.) I am going to take her a baby outfit and the Fleiss book. Wish me luck.<br><br>
This just reminded me that it's not enough to leave your son intact; you also need to raise an intactivist so you will have intact grandchildren, as well.
 

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My BIL is an intact dad who wants to circ his sons, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> And as much as I hate the "look like dad" argument, his wife only argues against circ using that argument. We've talked with them about it a bit, but not sure we've made much progress. I just pray thry have all girls. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I have an intact friend who wanted to circ his some because he always got teased. while I felt bad for him it is a new day. I doubt his son will get teased like he did. Fortunatly his super hero sister stepped in and the bay is happily intact surronded by intact cousins <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
The only thing I could think to tell someone is that they have to do it first and see if they still think it is worth it for thier son. Miss anything? did it hurt? how do you like the new one?
 

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Exactly!
 

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You know, the Fleiss book states that most foreskin infections in adult males are the result of using soap (instead of just water) to wash under the foreskin. I was going to take them the Fleiss book and point this out, but I got asked not to come today. Apparently they have already made up their mind that mutilation is the answer (for the baby, not his daddy, of course.)
 

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A&A - I'm so sorry. You did the best you could. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
It's hard to understand, though. As others have sad - if Dad thinks circumcision is such a great thing, why isn't he going first?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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I don't get it. THe babe is supposed to take the pain, but not the man?!?!?!?!<br><br>
My Dh's parents couldn't afford to have him circ'ed. He's never had an infection! He does use soap. I think surgery because you could possibly get a minor infection is Sooo dumb.<br><br>
Good try, A&A.
 

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honestly, I had no idea this even existed. I must say though, it sounds these fathers only do it out of ignorance.. with the right info, they would most certainly not do it, in my honest opinion
 

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A friend just told me that she circ'd her son because her intact father told her he "wished" he was, and that he always felt self consious about it. Mind you, he wasn't getting himself cut, but he was advising his daughter to have his grandson cut. uuugggghhhhh.<br><br>
Brina<br>
mom to intact 4 year old twins
 

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What a stupid argument <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I just think it is plain ingorance!!! I wonder if they would watch a circ video, if they would still have it done.<br><br>
I have not watch the video (can't do it), but I have seen pictures and they break my heart.<br><br>
It sounds like the mother would be open, but its the stupid father who is pushing for it. Why are mothers so aaaaaaaaaaah!!!
 
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