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Hi, I am a long-time MDC'r, off and on since I was expecting my first child. I now have a new username, as my "stbx" (an acronym quite new to me) knows my old callname and I don't want snooping.
I read the whole "what do you wish you had asked for" thread in the sticky--and thankful for the BTDT advice! I hadn't thought about some of those things--like retirement options, dental v. medical, and getting splitting the costs of co-pays and Rx equitably.
I am trying SOOOO much to take my cousin's advice: Be the Duck. Let the insults, slights, annoyances, etc just roll off my back. It's difficult, as you know.
I have been fighting depression for more than half of my life now. before he announced that he wanted a divorce, I was doing the best I had been in years.
We had started couples counseling, and I had a new therapist who works closely with the psych. who I was actually being honest with. I was looking at depression as something I would get THROUGH. reading useful books, doing my yoga, communicating my needs, and then BAM. he says it's over. Moved to a friends house within a couple of weeks, Cut me down the state mandated % of CS at the same time. It is hard financially and emotionally.
I have slid back on most of the progress I had been making earlier this year. I go from wanting to "pawn my kids off" on someone else to being really really lonely without them. Either way, I am never at my best.
I have a couple of trustworthy friends. I have my parents for financial and some emotional support. But they generally don't support me in the way I'd like.
So here I am, I will probably post on some of the other threads--as it was on the miscarriage support board; wish we weren't here, but glad to have your support.
Peace, Nina.
I read the whole "what do you wish you had asked for" thread in the sticky--and thankful for the BTDT advice! I hadn't thought about some of those things--like retirement options, dental v. medical, and getting splitting the costs of co-pays and Rx equitably.
I am trying SOOOO much to take my cousin's advice: Be the Duck. Let the insults, slights, annoyances, etc just roll off my back. It's difficult, as you know.
I have been fighting depression for more than half of my life now. before he announced that he wanted a divorce, I was doing the best I had been in years.
We had started couples counseling, and I had a new therapist who works closely with the psych. who I was actually being honest with. I was looking at depression as something I would get THROUGH. reading useful books, doing my yoga, communicating my needs, and then BAM. he says it's over. Moved to a friends house within a couple of weeks, Cut me down the state mandated % of CS at the same time. It is hard financially and emotionally.
I have slid back on most of the progress I had been making earlier this year. I go from wanting to "pawn my kids off" on someone else to being really really lonely without them. Either way, I am never at my best.
I have a couple of trustworthy friends. I have my parents for financial and some emotional support. But they generally don't support me in the way I'd like.
So here I am, I will probably post on some of the other threads--as it was on the miscarriage support board; wish we weren't here, but glad to have your support.
Peace, Nina.
