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I want to introduce a bottle to my dd. I'll pump and freeze the milk and only use it for when dad wants to feed her or if grandma is watching her or if i want a glass of wine or whatever the reason would be, but for some reason I feel really bad about it. I feel like she deserves the breast and that making her drink her milk out of a bottle is unfair of me, especially if its for me to have a drink, but I feel like i deserve a break too. I also am scared. Like if other people can feed her then what does she need me for? I've been the only one who can feed her since the day she was born and she NEEDS me for that. It's our time to bond and I want that all to myself. Anyone else have this problem? Anyone else feel the way I do?
 

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I pumped a bit for dd1 in the early days out of necessity (nursing issues) but once nursing was established I never did it again. Same sorts of reasons--it felt wrong to me, no reason for others to try to bond with my baby by artificially filling my role, etc. Also I didn't feel as strong about saying no as I do now (no issues with it at all now!), that others couldn't hang out with my baby without me and nursing gave me an easy reason to turn down things like babysitting offers. A glass of wine periodically is supposed to be ok for baby, so I wouldn't sweat that. My opinion was that if there was no good reason for me to pump (like surgery, work, nursing issues, other strong desire on my own part) then no way was I going to do it. So my advice is to go with your gut on this!
 

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Then I wouldn't worry about it. If it feels wrong then don't. I have a glass or two of wine every so often and nurse no problem.<br><br>
My DS never got a bottle and he is just fine. I never wanted him to have it because feeding was from mama. Now I am a SAHM though, obviously if I had to work, I would be pumping.
 

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i pumped for my daughter because i was working and she took a bottle just fine. now that i'm at home we don't use one.<br><br>
i think there is nothing wrong with having one just in case and i doubt there will be any issues from a once in a while bottle. if it feels really wrong then don't do it.<br><br>
and seriously, even when my dd was taking a bottle there was still PLENTY she needed from mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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No reason to pump to have a drink or two.<br><br>
I never pumped - it just didn't feel right since I didn't *need* to.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I pump and freeze for the first two reasons you mentioned - my DP gives a bottle from time to time, and my mom has given one. But I feel ok with that, if it really bugs you, maybe you aren't ready for that.<br><br>
I have a drink from time to time (well, only once so far, but the babe is only 6wks old) and I don't bother with the bottle for that. Not very much alcohol makes it into the milk, so the baby doesn't get much unless you're really pounding drinks. The hospital nurse told me that the bigger concern with alcohol is dehydration - so if you want a glass of wine, drink plenty of fluids before and after. The baby had no reaction at all to the margarita I had last week. I didn't drink during pregnancy, however, so MY reaction was stronger than I expected!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I would (and do) only pump for work or a problem with your bf-ing relationship. I have a glass of wine every week, and never pumped and dumped for it. The alcohol is VERY diluted. Reassure yourself of that. If it feels wrong to let others feed your DC (because that seems to be the issue), don't. It's a priviledge you're giving them, not a right they deserve.
 

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Well first of all, having a glass of wine does not mean you can't bf or that you have to pump and dump. I think I waited for six months, and then I would have a glass of wine just after DD went down for the evening (when she would sleep 4-5 hours straight). That way it had a chance to wear off. As she got older and slept longer I got more lax about it and could have a couple of glasses after she went to bed.<br><br>
I think that it is a good idea to have a freezer stash (in case of emergencies). I returned to work at 12 weeks post partum, so of course I needed bottles. DH had a heck of a time getting her used to them (we did pump and feed pumped for weeks 2-4 while we were resolving tongue tie issues, but then she did not get another bottle until I went to work) but eventually she switched back and forth with ease. Not all babies are able to do that. If you do use bottles, wether it is for working full time or just getting a break once in a while, it doesn't mean you aren't meeting your babies needs or being selfish.
 

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Chiming in with the mamas to say you can have a glass of wine now and then without worrying about nursing. I have found that some nights, when DS is teething and I'm on edge, a glass of wine helps me relax, which makes it much easier for me to soothe him to sleep.
 
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