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I'm 28 weeks pregnant with crazy sore nipples when DD nurses (from the pregnancy, I don't have thrush or anything...).<br><br>
DD will be 3 in January and will nurse 0-3 times a day, usually 2-3 times: upon waking, during a nap while we sleep together, going to bed. Neither of us are ready to wean.<br><br>
Bedtime is fine; she nurses, falls asleep, sleeps with us all nighte and doesn't nurse again until morning (sometimes). Naptime is totally different. She wants to stay latched on the whole time - sometimes 2 hours!! The whole thing is torture for me and I'm really starting to resent nursing because of this one thing. I've been trying to talk to her about nursing until she relaxes then sleeping like "a big girl." Instead, I unlatch her and she has a fit - yesterday she screamed for an hour about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> No matter what I did or offered her. Today, I gave her the same talk and said that she could have a pacifier when my nipples got sore. She nursed for about 10 mintues, took the paci, and slept for almost 2 hours.<br><br>
She has never taken a paci or a bottle other than to play with in her entire life.<br><br>
Will introducing a paci just for nap times at her age ruin her for life? If so, what else can I do to preserve my sanity and hers?<br><br>
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I wouldn't do it. Have you read all the threads about how hard it is to take those things away from older kids?<br><br>
What I did when I was pregnant, was to talk to my daughter about how my nipples hurt, and ask her not to nurse too long. I told her openly and honestly that if my nipples hurt too much, she'd have to stop nursing. She got a bit upset, she thought I meant that she'd have to stop nursing forever. When I explained to her that no, she would always be able to nurse when she wanted to, that I meant she might have to nurse for a shorter time, she understood, and was very compassionate about the whole thing. She would latch on very carefully, and pop off to ask me if it hurt or not. She would stop nursing after just a few minutes, and lay her head on my breasts, or hug them and say "poor nummies, I hope they feel better soon" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> She would bring me bandaids, and ask if I needed them for my nipples. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Oh, I wish DD cared about my nipples! :LOL SHe's a very compassionate kid but when she's tired it's all about her and there is no reasoning, begging, or sympathy...<br><br>
I tried the bait and switch again for nap time today before I got your reply. She was pissed that I wanted to stop nursing, wouldn't take the paci, but only protested for about 5 mintues, then fell back asleep with nothing for about 50 minutes. Yay!<br><br>
We'll see what happens tomorrow...<br><br>
Any other opinions?
 

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Well, in direct contradiction to the PP, my kid loves her pacifier and although I was against it in the beginning, I've come to terms with it.<br><br>
I think if your dd likes the pacifier and is going to use it for naps to get her through this stage, it's probably okay. From what I've heard most kids lose their pacifier around 3; when they are old enough to understand 'you're a big kid now....' and make some sort of trade or something for it. But since you are only using a pacifier to do naps, it probably won't be something she can't live without.<br><br>
I know it will be a big deal for my dd to lose her 'rubber friends' because they are her 'lovey'. Like I said, I wasn't crazy about my kid having a pacifier, but I also want to remain sane and this worked.<br><br>
Good Luck <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
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I never thought of using a paci for my older ds when I was preggos and it hurt like crazy!! I think if I had thought of it and offered it and he took it, it meant that he still needed to suck..especially if it was only at nap/bedtime. I think you should do what works, weaning of anything is not easy, but atleast your nipples are okay <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I also think its okay for having a paci, my second ds uses one, not all the time, but at nap/car/sling...he's 9 months, but if he grows a huge attachment to it that will be okay!!
 
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