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Hi Everyone,

I'm so relieved and happy to find this forum. My name is Heidi and I live in MN with my dh (John) of 8 years and our ds (Wyatt) who will be 3 next month & is the neatest, most incredible person ever!!!. I had a home water birth that was everything I expected/hoped for and more. We ap and pd, we don't vax and believe in keeping our ds intact. I'm a sahm. We have two fantastic dogs - buster and bailey and two pretty cool cats - sally and indy. I love to organic garden, read, knit, travel, cook and be home with my kiddo.

I'm relieved and happy to find this forum because I'll finally have support for nursing my son. It's been sparce to say the least - luckily my ds is totally on board. Unfortunatly, I've been strugling for about 11/2 with extended nursing. I'm not sure why because I had visions of nursing him until he was ready to wean, which I thought would be around 4 or so, but if it was longer then so be it. I found that everywhere I turned to talk to about how I was feeling and how often ds nursed, people would tell me that I should wean him because it wasn't working for me anymore or they would imply that my ds wasn't normal or something was wrong because he nursed so frequently and for so long.

Just recently our nursing has changed, we don't nurse much during the day, but we nurse quite a bit at nap time (I still lay with him during his 2-3 hour nap during the day). He usually nurses about 1/2 of that time, unless he's had a stressful day then it's more. We co-sleep (which I hope goes on for a long time - it's wonderful!!) and he usually nurses to sleep (about 1/2hr) and then again a few hours later for a few minutes and then again around dawn until he's been up for about an hour. That usually is about a 4-5 hour marathon.

It's been the marathon nursing and if he nurses frequently at night that has been very hard on me. There was a time when the constant nap-nursing was frustrating me too, until I gave in and found ways to distract myself and keep me entertained while he nap-nursed. Now the only thing that is surprising to me is that he usually only sleeps for about 1 hour (during naps) and then wakes up and can't go back to sleep unless I'm laying with him. I expected him to be able to do this on his own at 3. I guess I was wrong.

Anyway, I don't want to wean him because that would disconnect us and hurt our relationship. I believe that he has a right to nurse. I also believe that I need to figure out why I'm stumbiling, fix it and enjoy these last few years of nursing him.

That's why I'm glad that I found this forum. I hope it will be a place where I can see myself and my ds in all of you and not feel so alone and get the support & shared knowledge that I need in order to do what's best for my son.

Anyway, thanks for letting me ramble. I hope it wasn't to disjointed.

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