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My son Quinn is going through a strong separation anxiety phase right now (he recently learned to crawl and is close to walking), so he tends to cry fairly quickly if he can't see me.<br><br>
The areas of most concern are the car seat and stroller. I often wear him in the Ergo when I'm out and about, but when I'm dog walking I find it much easier to push him in the baby jogger... it's easier on my back and the stroller helps to separate the dogs. That's pretty much the only time he's ever in the stroller. He's had a few anti-stroller phases... the first was upon his introduction to the contraption (did not go over well, so we put it in the garage for a few months), then he was fine with it for awhile, and now he loses it after about twenty minutes of walking. When he starts to become upset I'll typically wait a few minutes to give him a chance to become calm again, but if he doesn't then I carry him the rest of the way home. Similar situation with the car seat, but instead of carrying him I have to pull over and nurse if there's no sign of the crying winding down.<br><br>
Okay, so that's the back story. Now the meat: I have recently discovered that if I put my iPod on shuffle and put the headphones on my son, he completely calms down. There are a few songs he doesn't like, mostly frenetic indie rock stuff, but he seems intently interested in the mellower music and can listen happily to it for a long time. So... any thoughts on this? I think my son wearing headphones and listening to music is charming, but some part of me wonders if perhaps this is some sort of aural pacifier? I'm actually thinking about getting him his own headphones and letting him use his father's iPod, so we can both listen to music during our walks. I might also try this in the car.. I usually have the radio on, but I have a feeling that a good set of headphones will be more effective in improving his mood than the radio is.<br><br>
Someone tell me, is this lunacy? An eight month old with an iPod? :p
 

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Hey, whatever works! I'd set the volume control on the iPod though so he can't turn it up on accident.
 

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My son has taken over my iPod. He's got his own listening station with his playlists and his sound dock. It's one of our favorite cues as in World Playground=time to wake up; Renee & Jeremy=time for sleep.<br><br>
He tries to eat it when he's not listening to it.<br><br>
My only thing is I'd be concerned about using headphones, particularly the ear buds. Do you use the padded earphones? And how high is the volume? We have an Ear, Nose and Throat doctor in my family so I'm rather "tuned" into concerns like these. I do think they're valid, though.<br><br>
Apart from that--hey, whatever works, works! Plus, it's music. It sounds like he has good taste.
 

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I have light padded headphones and he seems comfortable using them. The "max volume" is set in the middle and the regular volume set a little lower than the middle, so the audio level seems reasonable (and I use the "lock" button so he can't mess with it).<br><br>
I think my real concern here is that the headphones will tune out natural sounds... like the birdsongs on our walk, the sound of mama and papa chatting in the car, etc. So maybe I should save this as a last resort type of thing?
 

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If you are concerned about that you can get small portable speakers. I just bought <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Fproduct%2FB000ODVL4M%2Fref%3Dox_ya_oh_product" target="_blank">this</a> and I'm pleased with it. I'm using it attached to my computer when I teach, but it is very small and portable and can run on batteries. There are other models that have a built-in rechargable battery, too.<br><br>
I can understand wondering about blocking out natural sounds. I'd probably question that in your situation, too, but I don't think any harm would be done if he's not wearing headphones all the time, especially if he is listening to real music (as opposed to poor quality "kid" music).<br><br>
In the car, you can channel the iPod through your stereo so everyone hears it. We have a tape adapter in one car, a cord that goes right into an input on the front of the stereo in another, and we used to have an FM transmitter to connect to another stereo we used to have.
 

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I used to work daycares with children with disabilities, and there was one little boy (2 years old, maybe?) who was autistic, and he always listened to his iPod... It really helped him calm down and focus.<br><br>
If you want to listen to music with your son, you can get headphone splitters so you can have two sets of headphones for one iPod..
 

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What a cool idea. I too fall into the "whatever works" category as long as ear safety, etc, are covered.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I wouldn't worry about this. Given your son's age, I'd guess that in two or three months he will be so excited about observing everything outside and being included in your conversations that the crying will subside and headphones won't be necessary as often. In the meantime, you will have fostered his love of music and developed a comforting habit for those times when he still needs soothing or distraction.<br><br>
One other tidbit of advice, if your stroller can allow you to turn the seat around so that he can face you, try that. Though I'm sure you already have, duh! We've been through phases where my DS absolutely had to be able to see me as I pushed him and others where he absolutely had to see the dogs in front of us so I was grateful to have a stroller seat that I could flip around easily, even with him in it.
 

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Yup, just another caution about making sure the volume is very low. Their ears are more sensitive than ours (both as a factor of development and of the fact that we have already started losing our hearing as adults), and more suseptible to damage. Also, be cognizant of the fact that he cannot get away from the music - he can't turn his head, or walk away or - so he doesn't have the ability to control what he is exposed to.<br><br>
Our son shares daddy's ipod some evenings at bedtime. They each wear one earbud. DS will yank the bud out when he doesn't want to listen. There are songs he asks for by name now.
 
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