[L&K'smommie]

<p>I hate feeling this way because I know in the end I will be happy with a healthy baby and should be now but I know I will be disappointed if it's one gender and not the other.  I don't even want to say because I feel like it "jinxes" it...which is SO stupid.  But I wondered if anyone is in the same boat as me.  (I should add that it feels really silly because I have 1 of one gender and 2 of the other).</p>
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<p>It feels so silly but I can't help the emotions...does anyone know how to change that?  This whole thing is factoring into my decision to find out or not...I feel like I may do better not knowing and know that no matter what gender babe came out know I would be happy...but then I also wonder if I might deal with some mourning if it's not the gender I'm hoping for and I'd rather deal with that while pregnant than after the baby comes.  UGH!  This makes me feel ill whenever I think about it...what's wrong with me?</p>
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[littleteapot]

<p>I'll be honest: I want a girl! I've had one girl, then two boys, and I'm itching for another girl. It feels like it's been SO LONG since I've had one (almost eight years!) and my daughter was so high needs and we were so stressed from moving 6x in a row that we barely got to enjoy and appreciate her infancy... it'd be really nice to have another girl. </p>
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<p>And I know, blah blah healthy baby blah blah... as if that has a thing to do with a gender preference? How are these related at all? :laugh:</p>
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<p>ETA: Oh, I should add... I totally feel you on the guilt over being in mourning over one sex or not. It's definitely factoring into us wanting to find out, too - and that's not something we do! We booked an appointment for a "find out" ultrasound in January, but may still cancel it because we're still on the fence. It's just hard to get those appointments so we wanted to make sure we at least had one while we were deciding. Our major factor in finding out is whether or not we'd feel disappointed in one sex or the other, I'd rather know ahead of time and let myself get through that than feel disappointed at the birth, for any reason.</p>
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<p>Edited again to make sure I didn't say "gender" and instead said the proper term, "sex". Sorry! That's a bad habit I'm still breaking.</p>

 

[Evergreen]

<p>I have had a preference each time.  With DD1 I wanted a girl so bad I could taste it but I was afraid that if I said anything remotely related to her being a girl I'd jinx it.</p>
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<p>With DD2 I wanted a boy. I knew that she was a girl though and was cool with that.</p>
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<p>This time I want a boy again but not as badly as last time. I don't have the starong girl feeling like I had last time (and the time before had I allowed myself to feel it). Everyone else seems to want a boy for me though besides DH. He wants another girl.</p>

 

[MrsBone]

<p>I really want a girl mainly because I know the chances of us being done after number 2 are great, and I want to have one of each if I'm going to be done. But I'm trying not to stress about it because I know I will be happy no matter what. I find out Friday, so I'm getting more nervous as the time counts down!</p>

 

[kamalynsky]

<p>I'm actually sort of ambivalent about it.  One day I think I want a girl, the next a boy.  My husband, however, is very set in his desire - he really wants a girl.</p>

 

[KarenMT]

<p>I am totally split 50-50 on girl or boy.  At one moment I'd love to have another girl.  (DD1- 6yrs old and DD2- 3 yrs old).  DH would love to have another girl.  But, the other side of me would love to have a lizard lovin' rough and tumble little boy to see what that is like.  I have two nephews and they are just nutty but that has more to do with the parents than anything else.  I know boys are a lot of energy and SO different than girls.  I have only had dreams of girl babies and my older daughter says I'm having a girl so who knows.  This will definitely be our last and I can picture our family easily with either gender and we'd be happy.  I can completely understand a mom wanting one gender over the other though.  Everyone who has a boy always tells me about that mother-son bond and that would be cool to experience.</p>

 

[lisab82]

<p>I am kinda hoping for a girl. I have 3 nephews and there are no girls so I'm kinda hoping that this baby will change it up a little bit in my family. But I know my DH is routing for the boy. But funny enough, I have absolutely no feeling of what I am having. We will just have to wait til the delivery room...sigh..I still have 5 and half months for that!</p>

 

[L&K'smommie]

<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>littleteapot</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1283750/is-anyone-hoping-for-one-gender-more-than-the-other#post_16095972"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'll be honest: I want a girl! I've had one girl, then two boys, and I'm itching for another girl. It feels like it's been SO LONG since I've had one (almost eight years!) and my daughter was so high needs and we were so stressed from moving 6x in a row that we barely got to enjoy and appreciate her infancy... it'd be really nice to have another girl. </p>
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<p>And I know, blah blah healthy baby blah blah... as if that has a thing to do with a gender preference? How are these related at all? :laugh:</p>
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<p>ETA: Oh, I should add... I totally feel you on the guilt over being in mourning over one sex or not. It's definitely factoring into us wanting to find out, too - and that's not something we do! We booked an appointment for a "find out" ultrasound in January, but may still cancel it because we're still on the fence. It's just hard to get those appointments so we wanted to make sure we at least had one while we were deciding. Our major factor in finding out is whether or not we'd feel disappointed in one sex or the other, I'd rather know ahead of time and let myself get through that than feel disappointed at the birth, for any reason.</p>
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<p>Edited again to make sure I didn't say "gender" and instead said the proper term, "sex". Sorry! That's a bad habit I'm still breaking.</p>
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Oops...sorry I should've used the word sex....oh well...you guys know what I mean.</p>
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<p>And this is where I am...not to mention my dd is the only girl in all the extended family as well...she has 6 boy cousins(that we see often) and then my brother has 2 boys...and then she has 2 brothers.  I still haven't decided about finding out or not either...</p>

 

[annaconda]

<p>We wanted a boy.  Now we have names for both and I like them both so much that I can see having either as a very wonderful thing.  That really helped me prepare for this week's u/s - I used to think I'd feel sad if I heard girl but now I'm feeling happy to hear either... and we really wanted a boy.</p>

 

[kristenburgess]

<p>annaconda - deciding a name for both genders we loved also helped me a ton.</p>
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<p>I do have a strong preference for one sex over the other.  I feel like I shouldn't and I also feel like it's irrational... in the past it was based on fears that have not materialized (in fact have been proved wrong) by having the gender baby I "worried" about.  But I still feel strongly that I'd prefer a certain gender.  Unfortunately this time around DH wants the opposite so I feel really crummy.</p>
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<p>I worry that I will be sad if we find it out's my less preferred gender (even though I know I really want a healthy baby and will love him/her) - so I'm spending most of my time convincing myself the baby is that gender so I won't feel down.</p>
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<p>I used to feel like I needed to defend this to other people because people seem to think it's "horrible" but really, I don't think that it is.  I feel guilty for it, but it's not something to be ashamed of and I suspect more common than people would like to let on.  I also picture myself holding my sweet baby and enjoying him/her no matter what... and yes, it does help that I love both the girl and boy names we've picked </p>

 

[mija y mijo]

<p>My preference would be boy/girl TWINS!!!  lol!  But I'm pretty sure there's just one little bean in there.  We'd love to have four kids total, so if I could have my pick I'd say boy for this pregnancy and girl for the next.  But after having such a difficult time with this pregnancy during my first trimester I don't know if I can go through being that sick again with three kids to care for.  So we'll take whatever God chooses to bless us with.  </p>

 

[dayiscoming2006]

<p>I am hoping for a girl since I'm hoping to be done after this baby and I have 2 boys. But, I will be happy either way.</p>

 

[homeschoolingmama]

<p>We would like a boy.  We have 3 girls and 2 boys.  Either way we would be happy of course!  We won't be devastated or anything like that. lol.  We'll see on the 21st. </p>
<p>Our boys are much easier.  They are calm and less dramatic.  Our girls keep us on our feet!</p>

 

[LacieD]

<p>I totally want a girl.  Love my boys and being a boy mom, but I want a girl.  And I'm 99% sure that we're done after this one.  </p>

 

[gummibears]

<p>We are hoping for a girl since this is probably our last baby, and we have a son. I don't think any of us will be let down if it's not a girl, but you know how it goes when it's probably your last. So many expectations and such. Then if it's not the girl we will be tempted to try once more... and that complicates issues in other ways, too.</p>

 

[dayiscoming2006]

<p>Just found out my friend who's due around the same time as me is having a girl. I hope I'm having a girl too or I'm totally going to be jealous. </p>
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<p>(still will love a boy, but will be sad over not getting a girl.)</p>

 

[tzs]

<p>ok, i'll say it....i would love to have another girl. i mean, i already have all the girl supplies and i just feel more used to it now. plus, i don't know how those boy parts work! </p>

 

[dayiscoming2006]

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>tzs</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1283750/is-anyone-hoping-for-one-gender-more-than-the-other#post_16147777"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>ok, i'll say it....i would love to have another girl. i mean, i already have all the girl supplies and i just feel more used to it now. plus, i don't know how those boy parts work! </p>
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<br><br><p>LOL, if it is a boy for you, don't worry, it is pretty easy to figure out. Boy parts work similarly (at that age) to girl parts but if you cloth diaper you put extra padding toward the front instead of the middle and you make sure the little wee wee is pointing south when sealing up the diaper or you will get some unpleasant leaking. </p>

 

[tzs]

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>dayiscoming2006</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1283750/is-anyone-hoping-for-one-gender-more-than-the-other#post_16147808"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>tzs</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1283750/is-anyone-hoping-for-one-gender-more-than-the-other#post_16147777"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>ok, i'll say it....i would love to have another girl. i mean, i already have all the girl supplies and i just feel more used to it now. plus, i don't know how those boy parts work! </p>
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<br><br><p>LOL, if it is a boy for you, don't worry, it is pretty easy to figure out. Boy parts work similarly (at that age) to girl parts but if you cloth diaper you put extra padding toward the front instead of the middle and you make sure the little wee wee is pointing south when sealing up the diaper or you will get some unpleasant leaking. </p>
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<br><br><p>well, we have the added drama of having to have a bris if it's a boy (we're orthodox jews, there's no debate, don't flame!). so on the one hand there's hubby who really doesn't want to cut his kid but "has" to and then there's all the healing mess and whether or not it was done correctly. ugh! seriously? i am so lost on that one.</p>
<p>and then there's potty training boys. i just don't get it. i know how it works in theory but i work at a daycare with 20-24 month olds and i put those boys on the potty and thank g-d none of them are actually making in the potty because i have no idea how to get those teeny tiny "its" to actually point downward. </p>
<p>plus....there are too many boy clothes with puppies and bulldozers on them. </p>

 

[dayiscoming2006]

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<p>well, we have the added drama of having to have a bris if it's a boy (we're orthodox jews, there's no debate, don't flame!). so on the one hand there's hubby who really doesn't want to cut his kid but "has" to and then there's all the healing mess and whether or not it was done correctly. ugh! seriously? i am so lost on that one.</p>
<p>and then there's potty training boys. i just don't get it. i know how it works in theory but i work at a daycare with 20-24 month olds and i put those boys on the potty and thank g-d none of them are actually making in the potty because i have no idea how to get those teeny tiny "its" to actually point downward. </p>
<p>plus....there are too many boy clothes with puppies and bulldozers on them. </p>
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LOL!  I got my first circumcised. Is the bris the same or I heard something about they remove just some of the foreskin for blood letting purposes or something? I didn't have any issues with it though I did decide to keep my second son intact. That has been fine too but when in your situation, there's not much choice. It should be fine though.</p>
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<p>Potty training I got figured out. Get something like this... <a href="http://www.walmart.com/ip/Fisher-Price-Precious-Planet-Froggy-Friend-Potty/10727394" target="_blank">Froggy potty</a> that keeps little boys from peeing over. I tried a few and that was the best for us. Then once they get to be around 3 (sometimes earlier?) they can stand next to the potty and pee just like their daddy - they might need a stool if they are still short. Once they are older too you can ask them to make sure they keep their pee in the toilet while they are pooing and so far I think they figure it out. And there are lots of other types of boy's clothes besides the bulldozers and puppies though I don't have a problem with those either. I figure it's just a shirt so whatever. And boys love those things, honestly. So, just thought to tell you all that in case it is a boy. <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif"> You can do it!</p>
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