Mothering Forum banner

1 - 20 of 37 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
54 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I have looked up a few sites on mid-wifes and homebirths.....they say in Georgia it is illegal to do a homebirth. I am shocked this is illegal anywhere! My in-law's are not that supportive of this idea, not too sure if my side is....even though they wouldn't be suprised. It's crazy to me that some people are so closed to this....I would rather have my baby on my own terms and do what feels right and comfortable with me.<br><br><br>
Not a mother yet....
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
391 Posts
<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">:<br><br>
I'm in GA and am interested in hearing others' experiences, as I'm considering homebirth for my second DC.<br><br>
Laura
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
391 Posts
Yes, and it sucked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> 24 hr induced labor ending in a C-section. Knowing what I know now, I'm not surprised. Neither my husband nor I really want an UC, but I'm also not totally thrilled about an "illegal" homebirth. I work closely with DFCS in my job and if something were to happen, it would NOT look good for me. They would certainly say I put my child in danger (same goes for co-sleeping but I do that regardless). Also, we couldn't afford to pay a homebirth midwife. I'll likely end up back in the hospital, but this time with a midwife (affiliated with the hospital here) and A LOT more knowledge. I'm certainly still open to all options!<br><br>
Laura <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,491 Posts
<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"> I just gave birth to my son at home in Atlanta in March! I too was baffled at the fact that homebirth is technically "illegal" here! BUT there are at least 4-5 homebirth midwives that I know of and I got lots of suggestions and advice here at MDC.<br><br>
A little background- homebirth is only illegal here because back in the day when OB/GYNs were trying to steer everyone away from midwives they got lawmakers to "require" all midwives to be certified. Then they stopped offering certification- so basically midwives in GA are "required" to do something that is impossible and that is why it is "illegal" not that there is some law that says specifically "homebirthing is illegal"<br><br>
Although the midwives run a risk of being charged with "practicing medicine without a license" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> homebirthing moms and dads don't really run much risk at all- my midwife has never known of CPS being called or any drama for the parents.<br><br>
My homebirth was such an amazing experience- I feel so blessed to have such a wonderful, caring midwife- and I did have some complications- all of which were handled safely and low-stress at home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
check out <a href="http://www.birthpartners.com" target="_blank">www.birthpartners.com</a> PM me if you need any help or HB advice! By the way as far as price it is around $2,000 for most midwives although if you truly cannot afford this many midwives will work with you to come to some sort of payment plan or alternative payments. I was put off by having to pay that much at first (I had insurance that would pay for the hospital) but looking back that $2,000 was an investment in my body and my baby's health- knowing that I was at home giving birth on my own terms, not being "timed" or tempted with drugs is what I believe enabled me to give birth naturally. I know I would have been a C-section for "failure to progress" in a hospital or at least had some pitocin and an epidural (I swear the way my mind was in labor you could have talked me into just about anything even things I was firmly against at first- thank God my midwives were wise enough to know that even though I was saying "I want to go to the hospital and get an epidural" I didn't really want this and they just tried to make me more comfortable and relaxed.<br><br>
I just wish everyone could see a homebirth- how my midwives put cold clothes on my face and talked me through contractions and reassured me...it was like giving birth assisted by close family members instead of nurses who don't know me at all and an impersonal OB...<br><br>
can you tell i'm in love with homebirth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,424 Posts
i had a homebirth in statham GA (outside of athens)<br><br>
my dd was the first "out of institution birth" the county had heard of in decades!<br>
they had to find some little old lady secrectary to even tell us how to get a birth certificate, she could remember when black mothers were not allowed to birht in hospitals, and they still were having homebirths with midwives...<br><br>
they were all like "on purpose?"<br><br>
WAY on purpose, would not have it ANY other way<br><br>
i woul dhave been forced into a c section in the hospital b/c my labor was so abnormaly long....my dd just lieks to take her time....!<br><br>
anyway, instead i had a beautiful, supportive, holy, fun, and loving time with my mom, midwife, doula, and hubby.<br><br>
we had just moved to GA, and did not know our rights or any connections, so we had a friend/midwife come down from asheville nc for the birth..she has done one other birth in GA<br>
i personaly know 4 other women besides my self who have had homebirths in the athens area, they all found midwives in atlanta who were willign to come.<br><br>
the nonprofit group citizens for midwifery is home based in athens ga and susan hodges is the pres.<br>
she is a great resource for knowing your rights and how to find a midwife.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
51 Posts
I had a homebirth three years ago. LOVED my midwife - it was a fantastic experience. Really, I would do it over again in a heartbeat.<br><br>
The health department lady was unfazed by my birth certificate request.<br>
What was kind of funny, though, was the fact that for months afterward, I kept getting letters from the county health department. They kept notifying me of free and reduced cost health services. I also got a letter from a social worker/nurse that freaked me out a tiny bit because at the time I thought that they wanted to pay me a visit to check on the baby. The whole thing was like I only had my baby at home because I couldn't afford to go to the hospital, and they wanted to make sure I had running water or whatever.<br><br>
They never did, and eventually I stopped getting flyers in the mail about free immunizations. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
30 Posts
My 3rd child is due at the beginning of July. My last child was born in 1990 and it's been very sad for me to see the state of "remission" that's occured with natural childbirth over the last 15 years! With "big kids" I moved on to other issues secure in the knowledge that I had done my part to ensure natural birth for every woman. Although not a single woman that I met over the years had a natural birth, I just didn't connect the dots! Thinking back, I realize that every woman I've talked to or know over the last 5 or 6 years had an epidural or a c-section!<br><br>
Anyway, now that I've made it through opting out of amnio's and all the other "required" tests for us advanced maternal age mom's (43), I've started turning my attention to the birth. Financial circumstances are such that a homebirth is not an option for our family so I've been busy doing every thing I can to ensure that I know my rights and contacting the proper folks at every level of care for me and my new baby.<br><br>
So far, I've received total support from my midwife practice and the hospital staff! As a matter of fact, every midwife and the <i>even the administrators</i> at the hospital women's center have expressed their sadness at the state of childbirth as it exists right now! Believe me, I was ready for a fight, but what I found was admiration and agreement! And several of them were working "way back when" on initiatives to increase acceptance for natural childbirth...<br><br><b>Don't forget that consumer demand drives policies and procedures at every level!</b><br><br>
Don't get me wrong, I still have work to do and will have to sign many "right of refusal" documents, but I am taking control of my experience. And for those of us who are unable to experience homebirth for whatever reasons, we are doing important work when we are willing to stand up and take responsibility and advocate for change. As one of the administrators at the hospital said to me today, many "young" nurses have little to no experience with natural birth! To many of them, "natural" is an epidural!!!<br><br>
When my first child was born, I had to work very hard to have him stay with me and not go to the nursery! AND, the lactation consultant was only part-time! At least those things, the things that I fought for way back when, are common practice.<br><br>
Just wanted you to know that if you are unable to have a homebirth, you can still have a beautiful experience!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,661 Posts
We had a homebirth this past January in neighboring AL, but our midwife was from GA. PM me if you want more info ~ she was/is incredible!!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,412 Posts
Where in GA are you? I had a planned unassisted homebirth in December, in North Metro Atlanta. I did interview a midwife before I decided that I could only be happy without one- and I liked her a lot, so PM me if you're in the area and want her name. Don't worry about the legality. Like LoveChild said, midwives technically aren't supposed to be assisting in homebirths, but there's no law against <i>having</i> a homebirth.<br><br>
We had absolutely no trouble getting a birth certificate in Gwinnett County. I called before the baby was born and they graciously sent me a packet of forms to fill out, including a prenatal care form that I wrote up myself. When we took it in for the birth certificate, all of the clerks were completely unfazed by the unassisted bit and just wanted to ooh and aah over the baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,764 Posts
Homebirthing is alive and well in Georgia, especially the Atlanta metro area. The only fear I had about hb'ing was that of being transferred and being treated badly in a hospital b/c of my choice. It is sad that the choice isn't out there and readily available to all women. I also had a problem paying the $1800 when my insurance would have covered a hospital birth for a $10 co-pay. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Like LoveChild said, it was wayyyyy worth it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> .<br><br>
Edited to add: Kristi-you have a beautiful family <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
535 Posts
I'm due in late September and have a wonderful midwife. If I had chose to have my 2nd birth in the hospital (like my first) I would have no money to pay out of pocket. But thankfully, our first experience was still vivid in our minds, and we've chosen to pay the $2000 out of pocket to have an experience that includes our 2 year old son, and so that "Im not threatened with a c=section when I question the doctor about intervening in my birth.<br><br>
My experience with a doctor supervised birth: the entire practice was supportive of my doula and birth plan UNTIL i was admitted and induced. Then when we tried to question 1 of the 3 doctors who managed my induction/delivery, we were told either follow her orders or we were getting a c-section, because everyone in the practice thought I'd be a c-section anyway.... Fast forward 4 hours after induction and I delivered my son vaginally. So F*** THEM! My neighbor also used the same practice (we didn't know each other then) and had a different nightmare.<br><br>
I live in the metro Atlanta area (clarkston) and if you'd like a recommendation, please PM me.<br><br>
Joey
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,424 Posts
ps<br>
my fear of transport during home birth was mostly b/c i did not want the hospital staff to be mean or EXTRA hysterical about me b/c i had attempted a home birth<br><br>
so that is why i went ahead with full prenatal care via hospital based midwofe group, non of them knew of my homebirth plan, and since i qualitfied for medicaide, i did nto have to pay for it anyway.<br><br>
then IF something were to happen and i woudl need a transport, then my homebirth midwife would come as my "doula" and we would not tell anyone that we had planned anything different than a hospital birth<br><br>
i also signed papers saying that my "doula" could make any medical choices for me if i were not able to make them.<br><br>
this situation was ideal also b/c my midwife was comign from out of state, so she did not need to do alot of prenatal with me b/c i would go to the hospital prenatals and then call her and tell ehr what they said....(i should add that the reason why she felt so comfortable with out seeing me often in person was b/c, i had known her for years and she had done a lot of my well woman care and assisted me in homebirthing 3 late term miscariages, so she knew me and my body)<br><br>
Or if she had gotten stuck in traffic or something crazy like that i could still go to the hospital nurse midwives and birth my baby there
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
13 Posts
I had a wonderful homebirth experience last September for my first born ds. And will do it again for my next baby.<br>
I would highly recommend my midwife if you would like her name feel free to pm. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/baby.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="baby">boy:
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
391 Posts
Mama Justice, I know you!!<br><br>
You came to the prenatal yoga class to tell your story. I remember you saying you were in labor for 5 days and the midwives pushed on your hips to make room for the baby and I thought you were out of your mind! When you left, everyone in the class was respectful of your story but there was a very noticeable "Thanks, but no thanks" feeling in the air. Only after going through a hospital birth do I understand why you did what you did! The more I read, the more I want a homebirth. I'm also a bit afraid that going to the hospital will bring back everything from the last birth and my labor will stall or I will be so defensive thinking I need to assert myself and fend everyone off that I will be totally stressed. I'm come a long way in dealing with Caleb's birth, but obviously I have some more work to do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Laura
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,973 Posts
I had one homebirth and one hospital transfer that ended in the death of my son. It was a reaaallly freak situation, one that is super rare, and could have happened anywhere even in a hospital (he flipped from vertex to footling breech at 40 weeks 5 days, and we didn't figure it out until my water broke and his feet came out).<br><br>
Unfortunately, anytime a baby dies DFACS will come out to your house. Thankfully since I am a homeschooler I knew they had no right to unlawfully search my house without a warrant, though they did try! They also picked the day after we took our son off the ventilator to make their surprise visit. Couldn't even wait to let us bury him in peace...<br><br>
Because my midwife was "direct entry" I was listed as having "no prenatal care" so they did ask questions and tell us there were "programs" for people without health insurance. I just told them I did self prenatal care and we had religious and philosophical reasons for not seeking medical care for a natural event. Same with the vaccines. Must have worked, we never heard back from them.<br><br>
With my first homebirth (fourth child) we got no trouble from the county about the birth certificate or anything. We also have a homebirth supportive pediatrician. They don't pressure on vaccines either. Their standard practice is to give them, but if you say not at this time or whatever, they don't hassle you. That's the end of the discussion. They thought it was cool I did EC with my 4th too.<br><br>
Unfortunately our tragedy has put my DH off the idea of homebirth completely. We live on the south side of ATL and the plan is if we ever have another that we will drive an hour away to see a hospital midwife who has a good rep for being natural birth supportive, and does waterbirths. I lean more towards unassisted now, but that's not to be. I can't say for sure if I had been left to follow my instincts that things would have been different, but I know the fear and panic I was surrounded by while trying to push my son out did not help at all.<br><br>
PM me if you have any questions/comments. I don't think I'll be back to this thread anytime soon, I'm sure you can understand.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,424 Posts
kitty kat, i am so sorry for your loss<br><br>
hemiola<br><br>
i am glad that my words did ring true for someone<br><br>
i remember the air in the room being very uptight that day<br><br>
that is a good reminder for me to speak my turth even if others seem to not want to hear it, you never know when those words you planted (like seeds) and will help someone down the road make a very important choice and blossom into their own sense of truth.<br><br>
i am very pro homebirth<br><br>
i feel like a peaceful safe supportive spitiual and loving entry into this world is our birth right<br><br>
and it will carry that baby into their lives as a fortifying begining<br><br>
that does not mean all home births go perfect or that all hospital births go wrong.<br><br>
but the odds are that if you have a safe and loving homebirth you will be avoiding a dangerous, violent, and degrading hospital birth<br><br>
i was not going to offer up the most important spiritual journey of my life thus far to the $$$$$$ focused patriarch (via a hospital) and hope that i get a LD nurse who at least has an ounce of respect and compassion for a woman in labor<br><br>
that is where<br>
I<br>
say<br>
no thanks!<br><br>
and i am glad that my birth (though long, humbling, and hard) was what it was<br>
and that i was sober and very alive and in tune while it was happening<br><br>
anyone who has ever met my dd, can see that we hold a very deep and psychic bond based on a lot of love and understanding<br><br>
my labor via homebirth was a great source for that relationship to take root.<br>
everyone in the room while i was brithing was actively holding a very sacred space for us.<br>
and the specific exp i had allowed me to rebirth myself into the perfect mother for my dd.<br>
i am not a perfect mother, but the perfect one for her. YKWIM?<br><br>
if anyone ever wants any input or sources for homebirth info feel free to pm me.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
391 Posts
Anyone know anything about this group?<br><br><a href="http://homebirth.meetup.com/49/" target="_blank">http://homebirth.meetup.com/49/</a><br><br><br>
Laura <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,764 Posts
I used to be a member of that group about a year ago (I guess I technically still am). We never got a meet-up together b/c we never had enough people RSVP to qualify. I might check it out again, though. Thanks for the reminder <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
1 - 20 of 37 Posts
Top